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15 Things You Should Not Say to Your Teenage Daughter

Mom talking to teen

There is a right and wrong way to talk to your teen.

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Teenage girls have a way of getting under one’s skin—especially when you’re their parent. As their anchor, you’re also their doormat, chauffeur, punching bag, therapist and enemy. Your teenage daughter knows she needs you, but developmentally, she’s withdrawing from the parent-young child relationship, so it gets complicated.

As the parent of a teenage girl, you need to prepare for a range of noxious and rebellious behaviors that can make us say things we later regret. To help you through this challenging time, I’ve compiled a list of comments that you might want to say—but shouldn’t. Admittedly, I’ve had three daughters who, over the years, have heard me say most of these undermining statements in frustration. To build connection, trust and your daughter’s self-worth, I advise you to learn

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