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How to Ask for Help and Actually Get It

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It’s an ethos so culturally ingrained in us that it’s hard to see beyond: Self-reliance is paramount, and pulling yourself up by your bootstraps to solve your own problems is a matter of character.

Of course, that’s not quite how the world works. All of us need help from time to time, and the ability to ask is a learnable skill we seldom think about but one that can have a

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