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    Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
    Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
    Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids
    Audiobook9 hours

    Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

    Written by Kim John Payne and Lisa M. Ross

    Narrated by Arthur Morey

    4.5/5

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    About this audiobook

    Today's busier, faster society is waging an undeclared war on childhood.
    With too much stuff, too many choices, and too little time, children
    can become anxious, have trouble with friends and school, or even be
    diagnosed with behavioral problems. Now internationally renowned family
    consultant Kim John Payne helps parents reclaim for their children the
    space and freedom that all kids need for their attention to deepen and their individuality to flourish. Simplicity Parenting offers inspiration, ideas, and a blueprint for change:*
    Streamline your home environment. Reduce the amount of toys, books, and
    clutter-as well as the lights, sounds, and general sensory overload.*
    Establish rhythms and rituals. Discover ways to ease daily tensions,
    create battle-free mealtimes and bedtimes, and tell if your child is
    overwhelmed. * Schedule a break in the schedule. Establish intervals of calm and connection in your child's daily torrent of constant doing.* Scale back on media and parental involvement. Manage your children's "screen time" to limit the endless deluge of information and stimulation.A manifesto for protecting the grace of childhood, Simplicity Parenting is an eloquent guide to bringing new rhythms to bear on the lifelong art of raising children.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTantor Media, Inc
    Release dateJan 17, 2012
    ISBN9781452675817
    Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier, and More Secure Kids

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    • 5/5
      I really loved this book. There are so many things that we can do to make our kids' lives better and this books shows you a simple yet effective way to do it: declutter.
      It talks about how to declutter several areas of your life, including some you probably have not thought about.
      I loved to learn how we can get a good understanding of our kids' struggles, and how we can solve those by changing the environment that surrounds them.
    • 5/5
      This book has changed my parenting. Thank you to this author!
    • 5/5
      Very eye opening book, that covers a broad range of conflicts. Helps to understand and root out the problems. Love the simplicity.
    • 5/5
      Is a must book for any parent, found it insightful,
      The recommendations made a world of difference in our home, we are all ripping the benefits from a simply and valuable life.
    • 4/5
      I loved this book for both the practical suggestions (backed by both formal research and informal observation) and for its tone.

      Since I began reading this book, I've made some concrete changes in our home environment, including reducing the number of toys and books my children have easy access to (I put many into a "library" in our basement until I can work up the courage to donate/sell/throw away), reducing the number of scheduled activities I have for my children, and implementing some basic daily routines, most notably the "flute-practice-after-breakfast" routine.

      There have been some small but noticeable changes in the way my children go about their days in the weeks since I've made these changes. We've had fewer arguments about flute practice, and my daughter (age 6.5) has been practicing more regularly and with more joy. She's even begun initiating flute practice on her own without my even prompting her!

      My children, especially my 2yo son, are playing imaginatively with everyday objects more than they were before, making an empty toy bin into a car for the stuffed toys and things like that.

      And my daughter has lightened up about the order in which we use the colored plastic cups and flatware. She used to scream at me and my husband if we forgot and gave her a blue cup before the green cup. The order was green, light blue, dark blue, yellow, orange, pink, pink, and woe betide the parent who tried to go out of order. There were no discussions about the cups, and we made no changes directly related to the cups, she just stopped getting angry with us about them. Which has been quite a relief.

      Of course, my son has also decided that the toy room is much too neat, so he goes in and up-ends three or four toy bins at a time into the middle of the room. That's not so cool, but at least it doesn't take long to pick everything up.

      I was already in the habit of simplifying our home, but this book really helped give me the confidence to cut deeper, and to remove toys and books without my children's input about which we kept and which we got rid of. The books were a real change for me, though. I knew the kids (and I) were somewhat overwhelmed by the number of books on their shelves, but I felt like I just couldn't get rid of any of them. Books are unequivocally good, right? But once I halved the number of books, they've been much more engaged with the ones they have left. And they don't even seem to notice that any are missing.

      One area that I'm going to try to work on a little bit more is verbal clutter. From the book:

      "In our era of spin and counterspin, when words are parsed and split, where news stands beside opinion and embraces blogs, meaning is often drowned out. Just as it's hard to cherish a toy lost in the middle of a mountain of play things, when we say less, our words mean more."

      Although I fear that if I really take that to heart, I might blog a lot less.

      The tone of the book was the real refreshing piece, though. Payne clearly delights in childhood and the whimsy of children. His anecdotes and suggestions are peppered with images of children interacting with each other and with adults and the funny and adorable things they do and say. I felt a sense of peace and well-being reading such a sunny view of childhood. Not that Payne isn't realistic about the struggles of parenting and children's sometimes not-so-desirable actions, he just doesn't focus on them. He treats children as human beings to be loved and guided rather than creatures to be trained and manipulated, and "misbehavior" as a sign that something in the child's environment might do with some changing.

      Payne talks about how one of the biggest differences between parenting now and parenting a generation ago is how much data about our children we have available and how many "experts" we have to consult to make sure we're doing this really big job right. But in this, too, he offers reassurance.

      "For all of the measures we now have at our fingertips, by and large children defy them by being both more 'normal' and more extraordinary than any scientific measure, or means of quantifying them."

      This rings true to me, and it promotes the freedom we as parents have to love our kids and to let go of worrying that we're not giving them an "ideal" childhood, whatever that might be.

      The only thing that I thought was a little lacking was that Payne is very much focused on two-working-parent homes. As a stay-at-home mom who homeschools, I would have kind of liked a little bit of information directed towards me or that at least reflected my demographic. However, I know I'm in a pretty tiny minority, so I don't hold it against the author for not including me and my friends. His suggestions are significant and applicable even to those of us who do not see our specific situations in his case studies.
    • 5/5
      Fantastic perspective on how to parent which counters the consumerism driven habits of today. As a new mom, this book was highly therapeutic to listen to, giving me more confidence in navigating the modern challenges of raising a healthy child
    • 5/5
      This book gives a wonderful vision and encouragement along with many practical ideas that I am excited to implement.
    • 5/5
      Absolutely loved this and now I’m armed with further understanding and inspiration for why simplifying is important in our own home and increasingly more so as society becomes obsessed with excess, rage, children knowing as much as adults, etc.
    • 5/5
      The author, a former Waldorf teacher, manages to convey the best elements of Waldorf as it applies to family life without getting into anything I disagree with. I skimmed some chapters, but feel that it was reasonably concise nonetheless. It's a good piece of encouragement for anyone wanting to simplify their family life by decluttering, inserting breathing room into over-packed schedules, and creating low-key grounding points in the family's routine. I especially liked the way the author explained how simple, non-fussy, and un-ritualistic these moments of re-connecting could be -- less about lighting biodynamic candles and more about simply being present for your kids in a reliable, mostly predictable way.
    • 5/5
      I would recommend this to every parent I know...or at least in my head I would. It seems to me as if this book could be right for everyone...but I am sure I would be wrong :)

      I have too many things to write about how much I liked this book. I suppose you would be better off reading the ongoing discussion on this book here on goodreads.

      I read this one slowly to let it all sink in. There are so many manageable steps presented in the book - with great real life examples.
    • 5/5
      Game-changer for our family. Too much stimulus (toys, tv, schedule) is not only stressful for kids, it's damaging to them. Inspired me to get rid of half our toys, and so glad I did. Would recommend to every modern parent.
    • 5/5
      Summary: I have read this book multiple times and I love it every time. I now pick it up when I think that the simplicity that I think so necessary for my family seems to have gotten lost somewhere! At the beginning of yet another busy school year I needed to remind myself and apply these principles in my home.Quote: "Simplification signals a change, a realignment of our hopes and our everyday lives."
    • 5/5
      Not only was this book excessively smart, reasonable, thoughtful, and thought-provoking, it was well-written. Some of the fresh vocabulary and constructs it offered for thinking about the author's ideas were lovely, stunning. No other way to put it. These aren't even the best examples, but a couple I remember: "By seeing only syndromes, tendencies, and labels, we risk not seeing our children's intrinsic intent, their deep biographical gesture in the world." or "I sometimes think of simplification as a powerful anti-inflammatory for a family."
    • 4/5
      Perhaps it simply caters to my laissez-faire style of parenting, but I appreciated Payne's approach to countering the impulses to do more and have more, and to do it faster. I am particularly interested in the development of rhythm in my family's life.
    • 4/5
      I recommend this to all new and all frustrated parents. Yes, children run 'soul fevers' when they are overwhelmed. I totally agree but until I read this book, I didn't have words to express this concept.
    • 4/5
      I have been burning through books about parenting and child development lately and most of them have been of little or no help. So little help that I don't even record them as read because they were just a waste of my time. But this book was a breath of fresh air. Now of course the authors opinions are very much in line with mine but he has the experience of a counseling career to support keeping things simple. Anecdotal examples and real tips and tricks that back up the way I always intended things to be in my home. No screens, routines, a calmer schedule, less clutter. Things we have done lost some of our consistency with for various reasons. But I am inspired to go back to the basics and have the affirmation I needed that I am moving in the right direction!
    • 3/5
      Basic idea: get rid of excess belongings, simplify schedule, get rid of TV. Nothing I didn't already know, but a good reminder/encouragement.