Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type
Written by Helen Fisher
Narrated by Helen Fisher
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The national bestselling book Why Him? Why Her? shows how a better understanding of who you are will help you find and keep the love you want
Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? In this fascinating and informative book, Helen Fisher, one of the world's leading experts on romantic love, unlocks the hidden code of desire and attachment. Each of us, it turns out, primarily expresses one of four broad personality types—Explorer, Builder, Director, or Negotiator—and each of these types is governed by different chemical systems in the brain. Driven by this biology, we are attracted to partners who both mirror and complement our own personality type.
Until now the search for love has been blind, but Fisher pulls back the curtain and reveals how we unconsciously go about finding the right match. Drawing on her unique study of 40,000 men and women, she explores each personality type in detail and shows you how to identify your own type. Then she explains why some types match up well, whereas others are problematic. (Note to Explorers: be prepared for a wild ride when you hitch your star to a fellow Explorer!) Ultimately, Fisher's investigation into the complex nature of romance and attachment leads to astonishing new insights into the essence of dating, love, and marriage.
Based on entirely new research—including a detailed questionnaire completed by five million people in thirty-three countries—Why Him? Why Her? will change your understanding of why you love him (or her) and help you use nature's chemistry to find and keep your life partner.
Helen Fisher
Helen Fisher spent her early life in America but grew up mainly in Suffolk, England, where she now lives with her two children. She studied psychology at the University of Westminster and ergonomics at University College London and worked as a senior evaluator in research at the Royal National Institute of Blind People. She is the author of Faye, Faraway.
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Reviews for Why Him? Why Her?
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- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5I love the research and science...but is not like crazily revealing, but it’s worth it, there are a lot of facts you probably don’t know and she is an authority in the field! Appreciated the knowledge
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is fascinating! It helps you understand yourself better as well as understand past and potential partners better. 10/10 recommend!
Even if you aren’t looking for a relationship, I think the personality types are so well researched and accurate that I feel like I have a whole new view of the world.
Thank you Helen for writing this book! - Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5I read her other book which was excellent. So I had high expectations of this one. I'm so disappointed. The other book seemed really genuine and researched form an attachment perspectivr while this one is all about the author's idea of personalities
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I learned a lot from this book. Great insight into 4 common personality types: Builder, Negotiator, Director, & Explorer. Great job, Helen!