You Were Always Mom's Favorite: Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives
Written by Deborah Tannen
Narrated by Deborah Tannen
3.5/5
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Deborah Tannen
Deborah Tannen is Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, D.C. Her books include the New York Times bestsellers You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, Talking from 9 to 5, and You Were Always Mom's Favorite!. She has written for and been featured in numerous major newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Newsweek, USA Today, the Washington Post, and Time.
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Reviews for You Were Always Mom's Favorite
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I tried to read this and was only able to get through the first couple of chapters before getting bored. Then I found the audio version (read by the author) and enjoyed it much more. Not surprisingly, I guess, the author?s conversational style seemed better suited for listening than for reading. Her tone is witty and the anecdotes insightful. As the youngest of four with two older sisters, I saw myself and my sisters several times, not only in how we communicate verbally, but also in how we relate to each other. Sisters have complicated relationships and I do have a better understanding now of why I am like I am when I?m with them. If you?re a woman with a sister or two, you might find this interesting but I recommend the audio.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Helpful insights into the relationship between sisters, demonstrated for the most part by language, which is Tannen's metier. The style is easy and confidential, like a conversation over dinner, but a little repetitive. Nevertheless, I think it might help my relationship with my sister.
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5I had hoped for more from Deborah Tannen's latest foray into the hidden messages we convey in conversation. While I enjoy Tannen's ideas and writing style, I found this book disorganized; I had to keept rechecking the table of contents to see which section I was reading. Was it about older sisters? Wait, then why does she keep talking about younger sisters? With each new section, I hoped for a new, organized set of insights; instead it seemed like she kept saying the same things over and over. I came away from the book feeling that there really was nothing much to say about sisters in conversation that couldn't be said of practically anyone in conversation.I did like the stories, though. My favorite was the younger sister who heard about her brother-in-law's sudden death and called her sister: "Dad told me about Greg. *pause* Is this a bad time to tell you what's going on in MY life?" Haha, well, YES.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I tried to read this and was only able to get through the first couple of chapters before getting bored. Then I found the audio version (read by the author) and enjoyed it much more. Not surprisingly, I guess, the author’s conversational style seemed better suited for listening than for reading. Her tone is witty and the anecdotes insightful. As the youngest of four with two older sisters, I saw myself and my sisters several times, not only in how we communicate verbally, but also in how we relate to each other. Sisters have complicated relationships and I do have a better understanding now of why I am like I am when I’m with them. If you’re a woman with a sister or two, you might find this interesting but I recommend the audio.
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5I enjoyed You Just Don’t Understand: Men and Women in Conversation and know of Tannen’s other books, so was interested to see that she has sliced her studies of conversation yet another way here -- along sisterly lines in You Were Always Mom’s Favorite!It’s an interesting slice since, as Tannen writes, “A sister is like yourself in a different movie, a movie that stars you in a different life.” She posits that these lives revolve around a subset of sibling rivalry where sisters connect and compete in attempts to align themselves for parental love. She supports that not through strictly scientific data but rather social anecdotes -- examples pulled from literature, pop culture, and her own interviews. It’s notable that I’ve recently read two other books that incorporate “everyman” quotes; they were clumsy in insertion and vacuous in content and frankly spoiled the works. But here, Tannen knows expertly when to summarize someone’s comments, and when instead to roll seamlessly into a spot-on and memorable quote.A couple quibbles. First, contrary to the subtitle (Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives), this book is not much about conversation. Instead, it's primarily about psychology and exploring the underlying family roles and dynamics that sometimes bubble up into verbal and nonverbal communications.Second, Tannen leaves no stone unturned, no shade of gray unexamined. At one point, she refers to the 17 single-spaced pages of research notes she'd accumulated for one topic; I think she included every one of them in this book -- first via a complete, fully formed example, then appended with a summarizing paragraph. The wordiness and repetition grew tedious, and tolerable in doses of at most a chapter at a time. I actually think an audio version would be a better fit for Tannen’s smooth, conversational (!) style, and where the repetition might feel reinforcing rather than frustrating.