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    It's Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single
    It's Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single
    It's Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single
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    It's Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single

    Written by Sara Eckel

    Narrated by Nina Alvamar

    4.5/5

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    About this audiobook

    “Why am I still single?”



    If you’re single and searching, there’s no end to other people’s explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven’t found a partner:



    “You’re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you’ll be fine.”

    “You’re too desperate. If men think you need them, they’ll run scared.”

    “You’re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates.”

    “You have low self-esteem. You can’t love someone else until you’ve learned to love yourself.”

    “You’re too needy. You can’t be happy in a relationship until you’ve learned to be happy on your own.”



    Based on her popular Modern Love column, Sara Eckel’s It’s Not You challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there’s no one reason why you’re single—you just are.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherNovel Audio
    Release dateJul 19, 2016
    ISBN9781518928895
    It's Not You: 27 Wrong Reasons You're Single
    Author

    Sara Eckel

    Sara Eckel has been a freelance writer for more than fifteen years. Her essays and reported pieces have appeared in the New York Times, Salon, Forbes, Time Out New York, the Shambhala Sun, GOOD, Martha Stewart Living, Self, Glamour, Working Mother, Woman’s Day, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Her short fiction has appeared in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. She lives in Kingston, New York, with her husband.

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    • 3/5
      This book had good intentions but is incredibly outdated, society has shifted drastically and I don’t believe many of the things discussed apply in the same way. Granted I am about 20 years younger then the author so my experience is completely different. This is a good book for women in a similar age bracket for 30-40 who are looking for marriage but struggling to find it.
    • 5/5
      I have never read a book this good at cynical humor that is actually validating and real. I am sick & tired of self-righteous cures for being single (none of which i ask for) she exposes all of them & validates the life and worthiness of single folks.
    • 3/5
      This book is for the unhappily single so I couldn't relate ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
    • 5/5
      This book goes over all misconceptions in dating/relationships. All the common advice is critically examine and debunked. Everyone should read this book. This book is healing!