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    The Bitch in the House
    The Bitch in the House
    The Bitch in the House
    Audiobook (abridged)5 hours

    The Bitch in the House

    Written by Cathi Hanauer

    Narrated by Cathi Hanauer

    3.5/5

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    About this audiobook

    Despite more power and choices than ever before, women are still angry -- that's not necessarily a bad thing, as anger is what continues to open the door for change. In this collection, 15 women speak boldly and passionately about choices they've made -- about sex, children, love and work -- and explore what's working and what is not. Their essays -- always provocative, honest, witty and wise -- are the culmination of the lessons of the past two decades, the ‘me' years and the therapy years, the years that have taught women to express themselves and acknowledge their needs. As celebratory as they are critical, these brilliant essays reflect the truth about life.

    Audio contains the following essays, written and read by the contributors:

    Introduction -- Cathi Hanauer

    Getting the Milk for Free -- Veronica Chambers

    Crossing to Safety -- Jen Marshall

    Moving In. Moving Out. Moving On. -- Sarah Miller

    Papa Don't Preach -- Kerry Herlihy

    I Do. Not.: Why I Won't Marry -- Catherine Newman

    Killing the Puritan Within -- Kate Christensen

    My Mother's Ring: Caught Between Two Families -- Helen Schulman

    Attila the Honey I'm Home -- Kristin van Ogtrop

    The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed to Be. How It Was. -- Hope Edelman

    Daddy Dearest: What Happens When He Does More Than His Half? -- Laurie Abraham

    Crossing the Line in the Sand: How Mad Can Mother Get? -- Elissa Schappell

    Married at 46: The Agony and the Ecstacy -- Nancy Wartik

    The Fat Lady Sings -- Natalie Kusz

    What Independence Has Come to Mean to Me: The Pain of Solitude.The Pleasure of

    Self-Knowledge. -- Vivian Gornick

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHarperAudio
    Release dateJul 20, 2004
    ISBN9780060782641
    The Bitch in the House
    Author

    Cathi Hanauer

    Cathi Hanauer is the author of three novels—My Sister’s Bones, Sweet Ruin, and Gone—and is the editor of the New York Times bestselling essay collection The Bitch in the House. A former columnist for Glamour, Mademoiselle, and Seventeen, she has written for The New York Times, Elle, Self, Real Simple, and other magazines. She lives in Northampton, Massachusetts, with her husband, New York Times “Modern Love” editor Daniel Jones, and their daughter and son.

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    • 4/5
      A series of entertaining and intimate essays by a number of women in various stages of relationship with men. Studies indicate that a growing number of women in today's society are dealing with feelings of anger and resentment. What is at the root of all this rage? These essays seek to examine this question through the voice and experiences of a range of unique women. Funny, provocative, and sad.
    • 3/5
      I read this about six years ago and liked it, but I'd be interested to read it again...see how my perspective has changed.
    • 2/5
      Not impressed. Was actually bored through mist of the stories.
    • 1/5
      I QUIT!!!!

      I've ordered this in print.....

      The first narrator was so Awful! Honestly her voice was flat and devoid of all feeling. As if I was listening to a high pitched zombie

      In fact her voice was so blah, that I completely tuned out to the first several minutes of her narration....I didn't hear a word she said! That's when I knew I was finished!

      If "listening" to a book is a skill...it's obviously one I do not have.

      So, as for the book itself......I'll go for &#9733 &#9733 &#9733
      Reading this was so very much better than listening to it.....I was able to finish it.

      I understand completely the situations these women have put themselves in.....most of them take the blame for choosing to be/staying in bad relationships. They describe their honest feelings & again take responsibility for allowing family to take advantage of them.....

      There was a woman who had a control issue: she had to do it ALL herself.....and her husband really wanted to help her, but she felt it was easier to do it herself rather than teach him how. So of course, when he stopped offering his help she began to feel resentful.

      Another woman loved her b.f because he was the "sensitive & creative" artistic type...so he'd work on his art, get stoned & play video games while she went out to work and when she finally asked for his help, he'd complain that she was mean & picking on him...is this a "no brainer" or what?

      Then there was the couple who has an "open marriage" and both continue with a series of "affairs".....she of course has conflicting emotions....but she too has affairs of her own.

      One woman is in a monogamous long-term relationship with the same man....they're great friends & have a child together. Neither feel the need or desire to marry. Their sexual relationship isn't the hottest", but that's not why she's still with him.....she simply loves him & is happy with what they have.

      Another (an author that I read often) learned that she doesn't have to be beholden to her family from India. It took her quite a bit of their visiting (of course at home we do it this way) and feeling that she had to go back to the old ways of India hospitality. She learned that she can drop them off for the day, let them go shopping, out for a tour and still do her work while they are out...as for dinner, she orders take-away or takes them out to eat.

      Although, there was one woman I really wanted to slap silly.....she doesn't like being "mean mommy" and disciplining her kids when they misbehave & make her angry, because she's afraid of her anger..... Come on, the 3-4 yr old refused to go to sleep, was jumping on the bed w/ his sister. When "mommy" went in the room telling them to stop & go to bed, the kid threw his book at her head & hit her in her eye and laughed at her....and she screamed @ the kid and then he & his sister cried and she forgave him. That mother is an IDIOT...that child needed to be disciplined, Period.
    • 3/5
      I have mixed feelings about this book. I think it explores quite well the often-repressed feelings of anger that many women have. However, I wish that there had been a bit more diversity in the voices presented. Although I don't know this for a fact, it certainly seems like the authors of the essays are all upper/middle-class, heterosexual, and white (I'm assuming the last race, but I don't think it's much of a stretch, given the complete lack of discussion of race or orientation). I was also quite frustrated by the attitudes of many of the authors - more than once I found myself saying "go to a therapist, you daft cow, and deal with your freaking mommy issues." Unsympathetic, I know. On the other hand, I definitely related quite strongly to some of the writers' experiences - like putting pressure on myself to have a clean house and being irritated that my partner doesn't have the same internal pressure. Which is stupid, because I can just ask for help and I get it.

      That being said, there were four or five essays that stood out for me and provided really interesting conversation jumping-off points for me and my partner. I don't have the names right now, but they dealt with couples in a relationship living apart, why a couple would choose not to marry, non-monogamy (in theory and practice), and choosing to put your "crushes" on your partner, not on someone else.

      The section of the book called "Mommy Maddest" made me turn to my partner and say "let's never have children. Seriously."
    • 5/5
      Some essays spoke to me more than others, but overall I was entranced by these women and their stories. Their honest sharing of their lives and doubts, dreams, mistakes, choices felt like a gift. I would love to meet some of them and talk to them over coffee.
    • 5/5
      If you have ever felt angry, sad, hopeless, or misunderstood, this is the book for you. These essays are amazing and capture how all women feel at some point in their life. They cover: anger management, feminism, marrying late in life, marrying multiple times, open marriage, a woman's role in the house, parenting. This may sound boring, at a glance, but these writers made me laugh and weep. Who hasn't been frustrated by demanding houseguests, but would feel too guilty to serve them take out. The essays really touch at and explore the core of societal and internal pressures of why we feel and think the way we do. Excellent!
    • 4/5
      interesting confessions by a lot of contributors.
    • 5/5
      This felt more negative than the men's version. Interestingly, although these writers were also more angry than their husbands, they were also accepting more blame for their situations. Like Pamela Stone's [Opting Out?], this collection made me kinda glad I'm not a Type-A and thus have no grand ambitions to worry about giving up. Because they always have to give them up. At the same time, there seemed to be a thread of unrealistic expectations. Most of the writers grew up with mothers who did all the housework. So no wonder that they're frustrated at doing it now. They don't want to do any housework, shared or otherwise. As someone with a long list of childhood chores, that made me less than sympathetic. Living together didn't come out looking like a great option, surprisingly. There was one piece explaining why the author and her partner will never marry, which was interesting and entertaining but I never figured out her reason. A few observations I particularly liked: Kate Christensen: "Like most of the girls I knew when I was growing up, I'd always assumed I'd marry the perfect man. But for me, the man himself wasn't an important element in my fantasies of the future; he existed in my imagination as a flawless but shadowy alter ego, a male version of myself who would read my mind, meet all my needs, and have none of his own." Cynthia Kling (on relationship advice from well-meaning friends): "Women complain that men boss them around and tell them what to do, but what about all that female coercion? The oppressive solidarity of the smart-girl set?" Ellen Gilchrist: "I think older women probably make better mothers in many ways. But young women are more selfish and you have to be selfish to demand time for yourself when you have children. Young women are closer to the time when they were manipulative and childish and they don't let their babies manipulate them as much as older mothers do. These are only my conclusions from watching children in grocery stores."
    • 3/5
      Personal essays by women in a variety of situations about love, family, and children. Some of the essays were very thought provoking, some were self-indulgent nonsense. It was really a mixed bag and it didn't have the teeth promised by the title.
    • 4/5
      Well known, uneven set of essays. Ellen Gilchrist needs no introduction and offers quite a different take on the toll (not) that motherhood exerts on work and writing. But this book did turn me on to a couple of insightful writers I now look out for: Helen Schulman, Elissa Schappell, Kate Christensen, Jill Bialosky. I think that covers it. Of course, all the people writing down for Glamour and Self and um Glamour are smarter than their supposed readers but some of them are a lot sharper than I would have guessed. Very much a New York book, though. There are a few token reps from Oregon, wherever, but they all belong to the same New York (dumb girl) magazine network.
    • 3/5
      This is a book of short stories. I liked alot of the stories, and could very much see myself in alot of them. Though it was hard going from one writers style to another's at times.
    • 5/5
      #15, 2006This is a marvelous read - a book of essays by women about a variety of topics. The book's subtitle pretty much says it all: "26 Women Tell the Truth about Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood and Marriage." They're mostly written from what I'd call a "feminist" perspective, and deal with the sorts of issues I've dealt with in my life, or have seen women I know dealing with. Motherhood vs. career. Is it possible to have a passionate long-term relationship? Wow, children can really push one to the edge of patience and beyond. Lots of stuff about having issues with one's own mother. I particularly like this quote from the Afterward:It turns out that contemporary women lucky enough to have choices . . . are hungry for meaningful material to help them figure out their messy and complex lives - lives complicated in ways largely unknown to past generations of women. Strong, ambitious, highly competent women - the very ones for whom the Feminist Movement opened the doors to power and success - find themselves at a difficult crossroads today, a time when one major need, desire, biological urge (to love, to nurture, to have children, to be the good mothers our own mothers were, or weren't) is in direct conflict with another: that of not only contributing a necessary share of the family income, but of fulfilling the intellectual and professional ambitions for which we've been groomed and primed.The essays were all very real, very authentic, and some of them really resonated with me. This was a WONDERFUL book.LJ Discussion
    • 4/5
      Interesting set of stories about people's lives and relationships particularly around marriage and relationships, each one subtly different but each one reflecting my life.