Getting Off: One Woman's Journey Through Sex and Porn Addiction
Written by Erica Garza
Narrated by Joy Osmanski
4.5/5
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About this audiobook
A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame—these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candor, eloquence, and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off.
What sets this courageous and riveting account apart from your typical misery memoir is the absence of any precipitating trauma beyond the garden variety of hurt we’ve all had to endure in simply becoming a person—reckoning with family, learning to be social, integrating what it means to be sexual. Whatever tenor of violence or abuse Erica’s life took on through her behavior was of her own making, fueled by fear, guilt, self-loathing, self-pity, loneliness, and the hopelessness those feelings brought on as she runs from one side of the world to the other in an effort to break her habits—from East Los Angeles to Hawaii and Southeast Asia, through the brothels of Bangkok and the yoga studios of Bali to disappointing stabs at therapy and twelve-steps back home. In these remarkable pages, Garza draws an evocative, studied portrait of the anxiety that fuels her obsessions, as well as the exhilaration and hope she begins to feel when she suspects she might be free of them.
Getting Off offers a brave and necessary voice to our evolving conversations about addiction and the impact that internet culture has had on us all—“a profoundly genuine, gripping story that any reader can appreciate” (Vice). “In reading Garza’s insight into her own experiences, we better understand ourselves” (The New York Times Book Review).
Erica Garza
Born in Los Angeles to Mexican parents, Erica Garza has spent most of her adult life traveling and living abroad. She currently lives in Los Angeles with her husband and daughter. Erica’s essays have appeared in Salon, Narratively, BUST, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, Refinery29, Bustle, Alternet, Vivala, HelloGiggles, the Los Angeles Review, and Australia’s Mamamia and The Motherish. She has appeared as a guest on BBC Radio 4, Thom Hartmann’s The Big Picture, and August McLaughlin’s Girl Boner Radio. In 2010, she earned her MFA in Creative Nonfiction at Columbia University. Her memoir on sex addiction, Getting Off, is her first book.
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Reviews for Getting Off
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I highly recommend this to every man, especially who is thinking of starting his first marriage. This is a secret look into the lives of all women. Altho rarely mentioned they all have these unspoken desires.
Every man should have more understanding of the women who pass through his life and the swings that they take.
Every woman should listen closely. They might unwillingly find an understanding of there mood swings and hidden thoughts they resist telling anyone.
After a long life and many marriages, this book brought back lots of memories. At every turn, I would think of one of the many women in my life and the crazy things they would do.1 person found this helpful
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A heartbreaking, brutally honest book by an excellent writer. It must have taken great courage to open ones soul as she has. Well done to the author ?.
- Rating: 1 out of 5 stars1/5Boring story of a narcissistic spoiled woman who manipulated men for attention. When the party is over, she becomes a new ager.
Skip this one.