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    Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing
    Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing
    Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing
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    Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

    Written by Jay Stringer

    Narrated by Adam Verner

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    Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing is a ground-breaking resource that explores the "why" behind self-destructive sexual choices. The book is based on research from over 3,800 men and women seeking freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, an affair, or buying sex.

    Jay Stringer's original research found that unwanted sexual behavior can be both shaped by and predicted based on the parts of our story-past and present-that remain unaddressed. When we pay attention to our unwanted sexual desires and identify the unique reasons that trigger them, the path of healing is revealed.

    Although many of us feel ashamed and unwanted after years of sexual brokenness, the book invites the listener to see that behavior as the very location God can most powerfully work in their lives. Counselors, pastors, and accountability partners of those who experience sexual shame will also find in this book the deep spiritual and psychological guidance they need to effectively minister to the sexually broken around them.

    Contains mature themes.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTantor Media, Inc
    Release dateJan 29, 2019
    ISBN9781977341013
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    Jay Stringer

    Jay Stringer was born in 1980, and he’s not dead yet. He was raised in the Black Country, in England, but now calls Glasgow home, and his loyalties are divided. Jay is dyslexic, and came to the written word as a second language, via comic books, music and comedy. As a child, he spent his time dreaming of living in the New York of Daredevil comics and crime fiction, but as an adult he’s channelled those dreams into fiction of his own. Jay writes hard-boiled crime stories, dark comedies and social fiction. His heart beats for the outsider, and for people without a voice. He’s coined the term ‘social pulp fiction’ to describe his style.

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    • 5/5
      This book opened my eyes and help me dig deeper into realizing where my unwanted sexual behaviors sprouted from. I am so thankful for this resource and hope to be able to use it to help so many others.

      2 people found this helpful

    • 4/5
      When it comes to sexual brokenness and healing, there are a scant handful of books that I can confidently recommend. This is one of those, with a small caveat.
      Stringer does a fantastic job of exploring how past experiences and childhood trauma deeply affect our adult sexual brokenness, and clearly points toward confession and community as the way of healing. The small caveat is that it begins to feel like a celebration of data (the book is based on an extensive and impressive research study), rather than a celebration of redemption. Despite this, highly recommended.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Well written and narrative tons of helpful resources to help heal from sexual trauma.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 5/5
      Awesome, refreshing time for renewal and healing… a must listen!!!
    • 5/5
      An invitation to embrace God's beckoning for willing broken spirits.
    • 5/5
      Amazing insight! I am so thankful for the work you have done!
    • 5/5
      A must read. I am so grateful that this research and book is an available resource.
    • 5/5
      Amazing and game changing...get it, read it, enjoy the advice!
    • 3/5
      The psychological aspects of the book are extremely helpful. The idea of analyzing your current sexual behaviors or tastes to draw relationships to past trauma is helpful, and revealing, and can lead to effective forms of healing.
      That being said, I find his theological background, and his selective use of scripture to be unhelpful, if not dangerous. His cultural biases from living and being educated in Seattle are quite evident, especially in the latter half of the book.
      He makes many mentions of #MeToo, and social justice, which are not biblical in nature, and are not led by believers, in a positive light. In his passages about the healing process he essentially blames all of the problems on men, and gives women a free pass as purely victims of a male dominated society.
      He mentions God's curse on Adam in Genesis 3, but fails to mention Eve literally wanting to usurp her husband, but being dominated by him.
      After researching his Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, it seems to make sense. The prisoners have been running the prison there for some time, and the CRCNA has gradually acquiesced to cultural pressures, and adopted very progressive, unbiblical views. It is a matter of time until they allow unrepentant homosexuals to be in their clergy, as they seem to think voting by majority is relevant to scripture.
      There is much that can be gained from reading this book, and I really do recommend it. I would also urge you to be as shrewd as a serpent when it comes to accepting theological positions from psychologists, as the field is thoroughly tainted by secularism.

      1 person found this helpful

    • 2/5
      This contains so much religious content that it becomes distracting and annoying for a nonbeliever like me.

      3 people found this helpful

    • 1/5
      Nope!! Why God? Why the need to connect religion to sex? With many people rejecting religion and embracing science, mentioning God & quoting the bible multiple times in the first 2 minutes is a surefire way to alienate your audience.

      2 people found this helpful

    • 5/5
      In the past, the response of the Catholic Church to any sort of sexual problem (online pornography, prostitutes, adultery, etc.) on the part of a parishioner has usually been some version of "Pray harder" or "Just say no." This book looks at the reasons behind such behavior.God made us, including the sexual parts, so it is wrong for anyone to say that He is disgusted with anyone who goes down this path. The book explores several possible causes for this behavior. Among them are: parents who are overly rigid or totally disengaged; being emotionally abandoned by your parents; triangulation (a parent tells their marital or sexual problems to their child instead of to their spouse); along with emotional trauma and sexual abuse.This book also explores how to get out of your sex addiction. It includes things like learning to love yourself, repairing your relationship when things go wrong, pursuing strength and vulnerability in your relationships, and discovering a purpose in your life through community.You may think that your online porn "habit" is totally under control. If your spouse and your children don't agree with you, try listening to them and take a step back. Start by reading this book. It is very much worth the time.

      1 person found this helpful