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    You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It
    You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It
    You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It
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    You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It

    Written by Rachel Jankovic

    Narrated by Rachel Jankovic

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    About this audiobook

    If "Who am I?" is the question you're asking, Rachel Jankovic doesn't want you to "find yourself" or "follow your heart."

    Those lies are nothing to the confidence, freedom, and clarity of purpose that come with knowing what is actually essential about you. And the answer to that question is at once less and more than what you are hoping for.

    Christians love the idea that self-expression is the essence of a beautiful person, but that's a lie, too. With trademark humor and no nonsense practicality, Rachel Jankovic explains the fake story of the Self, starting with the inventions of a supremely ugly man named Sartre (rhymes with "blart"). And we—men and women, young and old—have bought his lie of the Best Self, with terrible results.

    Thankfully, that's not the end of our story, You Who: Why You Matter and How to Deal with It takes the identity question into the nitty gritty details of everyday life. Here's the first clue: Stop looking inside, and start planting flags of everyday faithfulness. In Christianity, the self is always a tool and never a destination.

    Rachel Jankovic is a wife and mother of seven children. She is heavily involved with the Christ Church Ladies' Bible Reading Challenge, and she is author of Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches and Fit to Burst, two books on Christian motherhood.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCanon Press
    Release dateMar 25, 2019
    ISBN9781947644830
    You Who?: Why You Matter and How to Deal With It

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    • 5/5
      Great truths that pack a punch to our self-love but then lifts our chins to see Christ. Girl, you need to read this book way more than you need to wash your face!

      3 people found this helpful

    • 5/5
      I want every Christian woman to read this book. Rachel is skilled with words and with The Word. She breaks down the false philosophical presuppositions we have taken from the world to piece together our ideas of the Self, and then redirects us to scripture and how scripture defines and shapes the Self of the Christian. Make this your next read, you won’t be disappointed!

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    • 5/5
      This book is about identity in Christ. The first half of the book talks about humanistic philosophies that infiltrate our thinking and the second half is hard core amazing, keep reading to the end and then start over!!

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    • 5/5
      A must read for anyone pursuing Christ, life meaning, and a sense of self.
    • 5/5
      Mrs. Jankovic presents some practical rebuttals to common cultural views of the self and how one obtains value and meaning in life.
    • 5/5
      Excellent! Should be essential reading for every woman who names the name of Christ!
    • 5/5
      Goes against popular opinion. But the truth is always hard to hear, and it sets you free! Great book.
    • 5/5
      Rachel does not mince words. Her writing reminds me E Elliot. Wonderful, convicting book!
    • 5/5
      This is such an important word for women today! ❤️
    • 5/5
      This is a very important book for our time to the Christian who truly desires to follow Christ and find identity in him. We are so deceived by our culture and, like the proverbial frog in boiling water, we find our value in everything the world says to us. The author reveals the lies we believe and points to truth that hits between the eyes, using Scripture to substantiate her message. I listened to this book and was so affected I ordered a copy so I can read and re-read. I highly recommend it. It may make you a little uncomfortable, but oh how we need to hear this message.
    • 5/5
      Excellent book. I really enjoyed it. It is full of solid theology.
    • 1/5
      ascetism is the name of this game. TLDR: obey and you'll be u.

      My goodreads review

      This review is long over due. I've been reading(and re-reading) this book to clearly understand the author. I've taken great pains to read this book so closely that I can pinpoint exactly what is wrong with it. Like anything. there is good in this book. There is also good in the work of President Nelson of the Mormon Church. That does not mean you should engage with the work, or read it for sanctifying purposes. That would be a dangerous endeavor and would not sanctify you, but only possibly lead you to a place of deception. With that said... here is my blunt and honest review.

      To summarize this book... it is written by a Christian mean girl with a lot of opinions on identity void of the right focus, and lacking empathy and compassion for those outside of Christ. with judgmental harsh overtones for anyone who is trying to "create" a form of self expression that is not within the bounds of the expected conformity of her brand of "biblical." She offers an extremely narrow view on who God intends you to be encouraging strict conformity, not to Gods law, but rather an overcorrection against culture. There are hints of shaming women who do not submit to being mothers and rather find fulfilment in other things. As though any form of expression outside of motherhood must be formed by the culture and not influenced by God himself who is the author and creator of many shades of people. God is not black and white, he gifts women with many different skills - and yes, many do become mothers and it is also blessed by God.

      As always, RJ uses a ton of words in a complex fashion to confuse her reader and then inserts jab in random places that pack a punch lacking the gospel graces, and sprinkling some unbiblical standards as the cherry on top. She conflates sin with likes and choices in life, and accuses all types of expression as off base and not in step with submission to Jesus if it isn't her standard. Save yourself that mind numbing lecture, and find books on identity that are balanced, respectful to differing positions without compromising truth, do not promote ascetism, have the right focus, and isn't just a primer on how to engage the culture wars. (which is ultimately what I felt this book was. A little book, with a lot of words, on how to not be like the culture in any capacity even if those things are neutral and not sin.)

      Another glaring issue is that RJ constantly, in every form of media she produces - ASSUMES the gospel. (I took a highlighter and marked every time she referenced the gospel vs obedience and it was very out of balance.) She mentions the gospel in clearer terms only a handful of times (the life death burial and resurrection of Jesus) but, does not give the indicatives before the imperatives. Causing you to focus more on how obedience is the joy producing, soul sustaining, point of salvation - rather than Jesus Christ as a person being the point. She assumes you (the reader) are a Christian, and that you know what that means and what Jesus has done for you. It is not until the book is almost done that she begins to mention the gospel is clearer terms, but it is not her sole focus - rather she uses it as a crutch to support her arguments Again, RJ has shown little, to no capacity to connect the gospel indicatives with the commands of scripture. She gets the horse before the cart. Her mono coventalism is shiny through, and again we are exhorted to a type if obedience that smells more like we reside under a covenant of works rather than the covenant of grace. That obedience keeps, sustains, and grows you - rather than Christ doing those things, and the fruit of that union being obedience. The very few time she gives an explanations of Christs Death or mentioning the gospel in more clear references, she focuses more on what is "dead" in what we "are" rather than what Jesus has done to free us from. Which is using the gospel to defend a form of ascetism. Another time she uses the gospel as a side point, where obedience is really what will bring joy and peace. And that our turning away from obedience is a turning away from Christ, but the obedience she speaks of is spoken as our superfood - not Christ. Even though she double speaks and mentions Christ as our purpose and identity. It’s confusing, to be honest. Overall, the gospel is not the focus of this book. You fleeing from disobedience, to obedience (which takes a form of denial of good things that she deems are distractions or false self identities) is ultimately what she is calling Christian women (her audience) to.

      With all that to say, I could write my own book to counter her book. There is just so much to say, and I am only mentioning that which is on the forefront of my mind.

      Please, do not read this book.

      I received this book for free from Rebekah Merkle (the authors sister) in an attempt to maybe change my mind of the Wilson family. Thank you for the gift, but no. My opinion has only grown even more solidified. All that comes from canon press smells of cultish behaviors. and abusive tactics. I pray the Lord guards his people.
    • 5/5
      Every Christian woman NEEDS to read this! I was convicted and encouraged at every chapter!
    • 5/5
      This book was wonderful! So much truth about who we are and how who God says we are is in opposition to who the world says we are. Very encouraging!
    • 5/5
      This book actually changed my life! I never knew how selfish I lived my faith until I read this book. I can now live contently in Christ.