Raising Children Compassionately: Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way
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- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This booklet is a short supplement to Rosenberg's larger work specifically addressing communication between parents and offspring. It is very challenging even for only 22 pages. It is written in the language of NVC which can be hard to follow if you aren't already familiar with it. The first page includes this line "I'd first like to call to your attention to the danger of the word 'child,' if we allow it to apply a different quality of respect than we would to someone who is not labeled a child"
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Raising Children Compassionately - Marshall B. Rosenberg
Raising Children Compassionately:
Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way
ISBN: 978-1-892005-09-0
Copyright © 2005 PuddleDancer Press
Author: Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
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Contents
Introduction
My Own Awareness
Our Education As Parents
The Limitations of Coercion and Punishment
A Certain Quality of Connection
The Limitations of Rewards
Transforming Your Habitual Communication
Chore Wars
Unconditional Love
Preparing Our Children
The Captain
Game
The Use of Force
Supportive Communities
How You Can Use the NVC Process
Some Basic Feelings and Needs We All Have
About PuddleDancer Press
About CNVC and NVC
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Raising Children
Compassionately
Introduction
I’ve been teaching Nonviolent Communication to parents for thirty years. I would like to share some of the things that have been helpful to me and to the parents that I’ve worked with, and to share with you some insights I’ve had into the wonderful and challenging occupation of parenting.
I’d first like to call your attention to the danger of the word child,
if we allow it to apply a different quality of respect than we would give to someone who is not labeled a child. Let me show you what I am referring to.
In parent workshops that I’ve done over the years, I’ve often started by dividing the group into two. I put one group in one room, and the other in a different room, and I give each group the task of writing down on a large paper a dialogue between themselves and another person in a conflict situation. I tell both groups what the conflict is. The only difference is that I tell one group the other person is their child, and to the second group I say the other person is their neighbor.
Then we get back into a large group and we look at these different sheets of paper outlining the dialogue that the groups would have, in the one case thinking that the other person was their child, and in the other case, the neighbor. (And incidentally, I haven’t allowed the groups to discuss with the other group who the person was in their situation, so that both groups think that the situation is the same.)
After they’ve had a chance to scan the written dialogues of both groups, I ask them if they can see a difference in terms of the degree of respect and compassion that was demonstrated. Every time I’ve done this, the group that was working on the situation with the other person being