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    Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success
    Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success
    Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success
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    Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success

    By Carletta Henderson-Youngs

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    Confronting the challenges, complexities and uniqueness of the blended family, Carletta uses the personal step-family experiences of the Youngs family to demonstrate ten valuable lessons to strengthen marriages. Unlike any other book on the shelf concerning blended families, Carletta provides readers an up close, personal, first-hand account of the Youngs’ marriage and the inspired family lessons that took her marriage from the brink of divorce to an extraordinary love story.
    Learn how to care for and heal the lives of every family member to create strong family values and traditions that replaces the pain and confusion often caused by divorce. Lessons offer creative ways to co-parent, overcome the two-household challenge and manage conflict. Readers are encouraged as well as inspired to create healthy family environments and loving couple relationships. Plus, activities at the end of each chapter reiterate lessons while offering ways to make the concepts more personal.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCarletta Henderson-Youngs
    Release dateSep 16, 2011
    ISBN9781465907301
    Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success
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    Carletta Henderson-Youngs

    Carletta is a minister, wife, mother, author, speaker, certified trainer, and public servant. Her immediate goal is to impact the world as a resource and change agent for healthier relationships and families to the glory of God.She obtained a degree in communications from the University of South Carolina and a Bachelor of Science in Journalism from the University of Nebraska.

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      Our Blended Family. God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success - Carletta Henderson-Youngs

      Our Blended Family

      God Revealed Lessons for Marital Success

      By

      Carletta Henderson-Youngs

      Copyright 2011 Carletta Henderson-Youngs

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      or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Cover by Cleveland Clements

      Lesson 1: This Time, Divorce Is Not An Option

      Lesson 2: Approach Marriage From A Godly Perspective

      Lesson 3: Tend To The Individual Healing of Each Family Member

      Lesson 4: Establish Family Values and Expectations

      Lesson 5: Apply Consistency To Foster Trust and Respect

      Lesson 6: Overcome The Two Household Challenge for Children

      Lesson 7: Success Cannot Occur Without Good Communication

      Lesson 8: Children Growing Up Blended; A family That Prays Together Stays Together

      Lesson 9: Love Is All That Matters

      Lesson 10: Overcome The Odds – Dealing With Conflict

      Introduction

      I’m sure if you’re reading this book, I don’t have to tell you about the disappointment and ramifications of a failed marriage. My divorce was devastating. Imagine a sink hole. Even if you try to put something in a sink hole without properly correcting the root of its cause, you’re doomed for failure. I returned to God, my creator, to replace the void created from my divorce with wholeness. As I began to heal and grow as an individual, I found love again. This is the story of our blended family. Blended families are created when at least one of the child(ren) in a family is from a previous relationship or marriage.

      Each and every person in a blended family is affected by a failed relationship. Unfortunately, in today’s society, failed marriages are common. The United States has the highest divorce rate of any country. The majority of those divorced eventually remarry, many forming blended families. Moreover, blended families account for the majority of families in 2010 when we consider families where fathers have joint custody but their child(ren) primarily live with their mothers.

      According to family and marriage statistics of the United States Bureau of the Census, 2006, more than half of blended families are predicted to fail due to the complexities facing the blended family. Studies and current divorce rates indicate the high level of difficulty couples face when becoming a union of two. Imagine our difficulty joining together our family of six. The complexities are enormous but serve to strengthen our family bond.

       One question changed my life

      In the beginning of my marriage to James, we really encountered some difficult hurdles to overcome – church, finances, roles and responsibilities, etc. Since divorce was off

      the table, I began to seek God to change my challenging marital situation. God used a friend to remove all inhibitions stalling my marriage from becoming better than anything I could personally plan for my life. One question she asked me changed my life and marriage for the better - forever.

      If God can raise Jesus from the dead to give the world eternal life through salvation, she said, "why not trust your marriage to God since He created the covenant of marriage?

      I asked God to show me His plan for my life and my new marriage. As I began to approach marriage from a Godly perspective, the results were phenomenal. Each one of us – me, James and our four children (Nacole, Brittney, Brion and Bria) – became what I can only describe as the epitome of a strong family, characteristic of God’s love.

      While every family will be different, all marital relationships require nurturing if they are to be successful. I desire not only the success of my marriage, but the success of yours as well. Now, allow me to introduce you to our blended family, the Youngs, and the lessons we’ve learned through divine revelations. I encourage you to take the time to complete the Make it Personal activities I’ve included at the end of each chapter. Some of the activities may take a little longer to complete than others. Many will require the participation of other family members, especially your spouse. Delay moving to the next chapter of the book until you finish its Make it Personal section. This will be beneficial since many of the chapters build onto one another.

      Your willingness and hard work will be well worth the effort at the end of our journey together. May God bless you as you strive to build a strong, long-lasting relationship and family.

      Lesson One: Often times we consider divorce an adult matter. However, children are equally affected and negatively impacted by unsuccessful marriages.

      One of the first lessons to learn from your previous relationship is that the dissolution of marriage is outside of God’s will. Therefore divorce is not an option in your current marriage. This only means you are willing to approach any challenges you may face in your marriage with a resolve to remain steadfast and unmovable while you trust God to move on your behalf. I understand this level of trust is easier said than done. Believe God’s promises for believers without restraining God to human limitations. After all, God sacrificed His only Son because God loved the world. God alone had the power to raise Jesus from the dead. Remember the question that changed my life and marriage? Now

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