Step Parenting Getting It Right
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Step families or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays. The statistics show that 65 percent of remarriages will include children from previous relationships.
When families “blend” to create step families things rarely progress smoothly.
Some children may resist the many changes they face, while parents may become frustrated or disappointed when the new family doesn’t function like their previous family functioned.
This book teaches you to deal with basic issues such as privacy for individual family members, who should handle the discipline, giving your stepchildren space, not to expect respect, but to earn respect. How to deal with hot and cold behavior from your step kids.
Contrary to myth, step families have a high rate of success in raising healthy children. 80% of the kids grow up and turn out to be fine.
Do not beat yourself up about being a bad step parent, learn how to deal with the situation.
Brenda Van Niekerk
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Step Parenting Getting It Right - Brenda Van Niekerk
Step Parenting Getting It Right
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Brenda Van Niekerk
SMASHWORDS EDITION
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Copyright 2012 Brenda Van Niekerk
Second Edition - 2017
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Content
Stepfamilies or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays
Many stepfamilies have to deal with conflict
The key to redefining a family is to develop an identity as a group
Points to Consider
Do Not Bad Mouth the Other Parent
Instead of venting any frustration in the children's presence
Scheduling step life can be brutal
Communicate and coordinate
Admit Mistakes to Your Children
Let the Children Approach You Do Not Push
Be Genuine
Nurture Your Childs Self Esteem
Provide Privacy for the Children phone and otherwise
Do Not Ask About What Happens at the OTHER House
Do Not Try and Outdo Or One-up the Other Parent
Do not compete with the real parent
Avoid Replacing other Parent
Do Not Expect the Other Family to Do Things YOUR Way
Respect individual differences
Develop new traditions
Letting the parent take charge
Do Not Attempt to BUY the Kids Favor
Listen and Ask Questions MORE than Talk
Tips on Listening To Your Stepchildren
Children should decide what name to use for you
Step Children and REAL Children should be treated as Equals
Avoid creating competition
The Arrival of a New Sibling
Find ways to experience real life together
Household rules
Keep the connection between biological families strong
Offer support to children living in 2 separate households
Schedule visitations so that the family is all together or all away on the same weekends
Do Not Expect Respect EARN Respect
To Foster Respect in A Family
Let the Natural Parent Administer the Discipline
Setting Limits and Enforcing Them
Discipline as the adult in charge not at the parent
Never be tempted to side with a stepchild against your partner
Expect HOT and COLD Behavior from the Kids
Recognize the pulls of Who am I Loyal to First
Schedule family outings
Behaviour problems
Do not dodge the You are not my parent comment
Allow Your Spouse to Have Alone Time with His or Her Kids
Take Time Out for Yourself
Schedule couple time
Stepfamilies or Blended Families Are the Norm Nowadays
The statistics show that 65 percent of remarriages will include children from previous relationships.
When families blend
to create stepfamilies things rarely progress smoothly.
Some children may resist the many changes they face, while parents may become frustrated or disappointed when the new family doesn’t function like their previous family functioned.
Contrary to myth, stepfamilies have a high rate of success in raising healthy children. 80% of the kids grow up and turn out to be fine.
Being a parent to