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    A Peaceful Home
    A Peaceful Home
    A Peaceful Home
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    A Peaceful Home

    By Osman Nuri Topbas

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    Marriage is the path of the prophets, the custom of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), the wellspring of new generations, the honor of man and woman, the castle of chastity and the privilege of human beings over the rest of creation.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherErkam Publications
    Release dateFeb 4, 2012
    ISBN9781466029507
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      A Peaceful Home - Osman Nuri Topbas

      A PEACEFUL HOME

      Paradise on Earth

      by Osman Nuri TOPBAS

      Published by Erkam Publications at Smashwords

      Copyright © 2012 by Osman Nuri Topbas

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any from or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the copyright owner.

      E-mail: info@islamicpublishing.net

      Web site: http://www.islamicpublishing.net

      CONTENTS

      Foreword

      Marriage and Family in Islam

      Things that Women Need to Pay Attention to in the Family

      Things That Men Need to Pay Attention to in the Family

      Things that Men and Women Together Need to Pay Attention to in the Family

      About Child Discipline

      The Place of Women in Islam and the Education of females

      Some Ottoman Examples

      Epilogue

      FOREWORD

      All praise is due to Allah, who created humanity from a male and a female and opened our hearts to the love of divine majesty.

      And peace and blessings be upon our eminent guide Muhammad Mustafa, who prepared our hearts for the love of Allah the Almighty and lived the most perfect and ideal example of family life.

      Certainly there is love in the creation of all beings.

      Before the creation of the worlds, Allah the Almighty was a hidden treasure. He loved to be known, and so created all existence. Divine love is therefore the essence of all love and Allah the Almighty has bestowed all other types of love as preparatory and elevating steps toward divine love. He created the love and affection between man and woman as the most valuable means to reach the apex of His love. And He made the family, which is established by a marriage contract in His name, as the most meaningful and blessed place of manifestation for human love and affection.

      Family, in this respect, is an indispensible means for reaching at the love of Allah as well as a divine dispensation for the continuance of the generations. The family environment both addresses our physical needs and serves as an essential ground for our spiritual development. For this reason the religious thinkers of Islam have always regarded marriage as essential and have highly encouraged it. Since celibacy is against the nature of most human beings, if there is no obstacle, humans should not avoid the married state. Marriage is an important custom of the Prophet.

      Because starting a family has such great importance, it should be undertaken with forethought. There are many significant and delicate matters that need to be taken into consideration if we hope to obtain the desired results and turn our family environment into a peaceful paradise.

      What should be done in order to start a family that can act as a step toward divine love? What principles should we follow in order to turn our homes into gardens of peace and tranquility? How might we live so that our family’s life journey ends in eternal union? How might we obtain a happiness that will continue beyond this world, into the life to come?

      In the world we live in, the answers to these vital questions are not common knowledge. Fortunately, the religious thinkers of Islam have given the situation much thought. Our tradition has elaborately regulated methods, principles, guidelines and measures, all of which can help us to realize the most desired objects of family life. It has also pointed out the grave and unfortunate results if these guidelines are not followed.

      To help us toward ideal success in the cultivation of a peaceful family, Allah the Almighty has given us the best and most perfect example, the Sultan of Souls, Muhammad Mustafa (peace and blessings be upon him). Our Prophet, who had not even the smallest negativity in his life, lived these principles at the highest level in his own family. For this reason we would do well to study his life, which is full of honorable and exceptional beauties and take it as our model in the establishment of a good family. If we neglect this inspiration, our society may well fall into crisis for lack of warm, peaceful and blessed homes.

      We observe that many young couples in our society, who are unsuccessful in starting a properly balanced family, end up with unhappy divorce, thus darkening not just their own but also their children’s world. Worse, many heedless people now stay away from marriage altogether and find themselves torn apart by the vortex of sin.

      We hope that the booklet before you may prove a beneficial ointment for the wounds of our society. It contains a collection of interviews originally published in Şebnem magazine, but there have been some additions and expansions made.

      In this work you will find basic Islamic principles and information for establishing a peaceful home. It explains the required guidelines and measures for setting up a family and gives related examples, particularly emphasizing examples from the life our Master (peace and blessings be upon him) and from the lives of other respected Muslim figures. We have our readers’ clear understanding and better comprehension always in mind.

      We ask and pray that Allah the Almighty may make this modest work beneficial both for couples who have already established a home and for those who are planning to start one.

      May Our Lord help us to establish and maintain strong families in this contemporary age in which families are torn apart, in which immorality and hate have spread like a disease! May our home be a paradise of peace and tranquility! And may the last gate of this paradise open upon the eternal Paradise where union with the beauty of Allah the Almighty manifests!

      Amin!

      Marriage and Family in Islam

      Marriage is the path of the prophets, the custom of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), the wellspring of new generations, the honor of man and woman, the castle of chastity and the privilege of human beings over the rest of creation.

      Q - We might begin by asking: Do people have to live socially and start families at all? Can’t they just as well live alone?

      Being alone is only truly appropriate for Allah the Almighty. The Creator has reserved oneness for Himself alone, while He has created all of existence in pairs. Thus all creatures are in need of each other and at the same time, since they are created, they have intrinsic deficiency and weakness in their nature. Ma siwa Allah, the other-than-Allah - all beings except Allah the Almighty - are continuously in need of both each other and Allah the Almighty.

      Out of all creation, human beings need each other the most. People have so many needs and requests, compared to other beings! Because people always want to live in material and spiritual comfort, their needs constantly increase and never come to an end. Problems, privation, pains, sufferings and disasters all present us with difficulties. In times of trouble, we look for a soul to take shelter with and a hand to hold.

      Thus the descendant of Adam is indicated in Arabic by the word insan, which is derived from the word uns or unsiyya, meaning intimacy. Even philology demonstrates our need to be close to our fellows! This need is our first quality and humans are distinguished by this quality.

      The clearest manifestation of intimacy is the togetherness that joins a man and a woman. This matter is necessary, even obligatory, for the continuance of human generations.

      The necessity of togetherness manifests itself in living beings through the existence of males and females and in inanimate beings though the existence of positive and negative poles. This situation is stated in the Qur’an in many verses:

      And of everything We have created pairs: that ye may receive instruction. (51: 49)

      Glory to Allah, Who created in pairs all things that the earth produces, as well as their own (human) kind and (other) things of which they have no knowledge. (36:36)

      And (have We not) created you in pairs? (78: 8)

      To possess the nature of being created in pairs means to be created as man and woman, complementary, not in twos of the same kind. In such a case, the creation of one of the two would be redundant and redundancy cannot be attributed to Allah the Almighty. Therefore Allah created the creation in gendered couples. Yet each individual created is unique in itself. Allah does not create duplicate beings, exactly the same. Even identical twins have many physical and spiritual differences.

      So Allah the Almighty created all beings in complementary pairs and simultaneously placed His divine law

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