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    Invisible Bars: Why women won't leave

    By Lisa Oliver

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    With all of the recent publicity about the high rate of child abuse in most western countries it is easy to forget the steadily growing group of women who still live with domestic abuse everyday. Admittedly many of these women are not considered as photogenic as the darling Kahui twins whose deaths temporarily awoke the New Zealand public from its apathy over what happens behind the closed doors in our neighborhoods, and admittedly there is still a belief among non-affected members of society that those women who do remain with their abusive partners do so because they are brain-dead or worse, that they like their situation. But even if we believe the statistics that show that some women abuse their children, there are still those women who have been the focal point for women’s refuge and other community organizations, who live their lives fully controlled by their abusive partners, and this group is growing steadily every year.

    Freelance Journalist Lisa Oliver knows what it is like to be one of those women. She spent ten years of her life married to first a chronic alcoholic and then to an extremely controlling man who spent the last six months of their marriage working out the most effective ways of killing her and getting away with it. Escaping only after this second husband had decided that the jail time for murder was worth it after all, Lisa went on to rebuild her life for herself and her three children. However she has never forgotten the lessons she learned during her time as a domestic abuse victim, and one of her main goals in life now has been to try and explain to the rest of society why a seemingly intelligent and competent woman can end up enduring all forms of abuse from her intimate partner, without leaving. Her attempt at explaining this complex issue has resulted in her self-published book Invisible Bars: Why women don’t leave.

    Written with a wide audience in mind Lisa mingles personal anecdotes with researched facts as she discusses first her response as a survivor to the concept of Battered Women’s Syndrome and then in the second part of the book the myriad of reasons that women may have for staying with their abusive partner. Ranging from personal to social to financial reasons Lisa uses the framework suggested by Women’s Refuge as to why women find it difficult to make the break that could save their life. And therein lies the true reason behind the book because women are still being killed by their partners, and to date there is no effective way of reaching those women so that they can take advantage of the resources that the government has put in place for victims of domestic violence.

    The third section of the book suggests tips for helping a victim of domestic abuse to leave her situation, without taking away any self-esteem or self-confidence from the victim themselves. Finally there is a resource section that includes questionnaires for women who are concerned they might be in an unhealthy relationship.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherLisa Oliver
    Release dateFeb 26, 2012
    ISBN9781465983855
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    Invisible Bars: Why women won't leave
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    Lisa Oliver

    HiMy name is Lisa Oliver and welcome to my Author page. After spending years writing non-fiction books, the lure of fiction and the men in my head finally had me sitting down and writing The Reluctant Wolf, an M/M paranormal erotic romance in November 2013. Since that time I have written one hundred titles including the Cloverleah Pack series, the Bound and Bonded series, Alpha and Omega series, Stockton Wolves series, The Hellhound Collar series, The Gods Made Me Do It series and many more. All of my books are M/M (or M/M/M) come with a guaranteed HEA and absolutely no cheating.I strongly believe in the power of love - and all of my books are based on the true mate trope. However, for me, insta-lust does not equal insta-love and all of my books tell of the journey my main characters need to go through to reach that state of being in love with someone special. Some of my books can be read as standalone, but in cases like the Cloverleah series you get a good idea of the back stories of secondary characters by reading the books in order.I love to hear from all of my readers so please feel free to catch up with me on Facebook, Twitter or through my blog.

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