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    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid
    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid
    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid
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    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid

    By Deborrah Cooper

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    Fine tune your dating strategy and stop dating the wrong men! This book contains vital information on what every single woman tired of short-term relationships with losers needs to know.

    If you've been repeatedly hooking up with guys that that don't pay you the proper attention, treat you like you're nothing but a booty call, or make you cry then you need to change what you seek in a man and how you look for it!

    This book shows you how to quickly recognize and eliminate 24 different time wasting jokers. You'll get the tools you need to avoid dead-end relationships with commitment phobic jokers, heart breaking players, immature mamas boys, addicts of any type, indecisive men that don't know what they want, angry woman haters, and a host of other rogues single women run into on a daily basis.

    Also great for guys that have been wondering why they struggle getting and keeping a woman's interest. Check yourself - make sure you're not one of the 24 suckas on the list!

    Advice columnist Deborrah Cooper comes at you with no holds barred straight talk about changing yourself so you can change your love life. Learn how to recognize a man that can truly love you back, be the man that can love a woman deeply, and finally land the relationship of your dreams.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDeborrah Cooper
    Release dateMar 19, 2012
    ISBN9781452451763
    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid
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    Deborrah Cooper

    Deborrah Cooper gained underground acclaim through her 18-year career of relationship advice counseling, conducting seminars and workshops in the San Francisco Bay Area and as a producer and host of ”HeartBeat,” a cable television talk show in Oakland, California. She was a frequent on-air guest at KMEL 106.1 radio and guest columnist on AOL’s NetNoir channel. Since 2007 she hosts and produces The Date Smarter Not Harder Relationships Talk Show on the BlogTalkRadio Network. Ms. Cooper has been featured in Black Enterprise magazine, and interviewed for CNN.Com, Ebony, Essence, Honey, Jet, and Downtown Oakland magazines, The Dallas Morning News, The Oakland Tribune, and many other regional and international publications and websites. She has also appeared as a guest expert on the nationally televised Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Michael Baisden Show, The Al Sharpton Show, The Michael Eric Dyson show, on “Men Are From Mars, Women are from Venus” with host Cybill Shepherd, and featured on BET Television’s “Oh Drama!” Currently, Ms. Cooper writes a dating advice column for the San Francisco Examiner (online edition), serving as the S.F. Dating Advice Examiner. Writing under the moniker, “Ms. HeartBeat,” she has penned hundreds of articles and provided relationship advice to thousands on her popular blog Surviving Dating.Com, and the groundbreaking AskHeartBeat.Com website. Established in 1997, AskHeartBeat.Com is one of the longest running Black owned websites on the Internet, and the first to focus exclusively on Black male/female relationships.

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    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid - Deborrah Cooper

    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid

    Fine Tune Your Dating Strategy and

    Stop Wasting Time Loving the Wrong Men

    By Deborrah Cooper

    Smashwords Edition

    Copyright March 2012 Deborrah Cooper

    Thank you for downloading this Ebook. You have purchased a license for your personal enjoyment only. This book may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this work with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and download your own copy. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. Visit our website and submit your interview request online at www.askheartbeat.com

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    Truth is mighty and will prevail. There is nothing wrong with this,

    except that it ain’t so. ~Mark Twain

    *****

    Table of Contents

    Preface

    The 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid

    The Too Nice Rattlesnake

    The Emotional Wasteland

    The Dream Weaver

    The Indiscriminate Baby Breeder

    The Transient Mooch

    The Emotionally Abusive Sociopath

    The Repeat Offender

    The Brokeback Mountain Down Low Man

    The Addict/Substance Abuser

    The Serial Monogamist

    The Broken Patient

    The Big Ass Baby

    The Player

    The Indecisive Man That Can’t Make Up His Mind

    The Unadulterated Freak

    The Narcissist Who Loves Himself More Than You Ever Could

    The Perpetrating Frontin’ Man

    The Mama’s Boy

    The Medicine Man

    The ABC Man – Angry, Bitter and Critical

    The Woman Hating Misogynist

    The Religious Fanatic

    The Bitch Made He-Motional He-Bitch

    The Stupid Is and Stupid Does Man

    Changing Your Mate Selection Criteria

    The Makings of a Great Husband

    Finding Your Mr. Right

    Conclusion

    About The Author

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    Preface

    Worldwide, women are socialized to believe that the gold standard of feminine accomplishment is a walk down the aisle of holy matrimony. In their anxiety-driven quest for a two-carat rock, many women will align themselves with anything male that has a pulse.

    Most women live in terror of being alone and growing old without a man; poor choices in a mate made hastily is the usual result. Sadly, these fast-track relationships end often as quickly as they began. A favorite and oft quoted phrase by my grandfather was act in haste, repent in leisure. Women must better prepare themselves for the rigors of dating, develop the patience to pace new relationships slowly and hone their critical and analytical skills. Women must allay their fears of being single, and instead take their time to determine a man’s true compatibility and rightness for long-term involvement.

    I used to believe most women could recognize when a man was truly a waste of time and not someone they should be bothered with, but I was very wrong. I’ve been shocked and disappointed hundreds of times to see dirty, drug addicted, alcoholic, half-crazy men with adoring wives and girlfriends. These women were no slouches either, but well educated, polished and sometimes professionals in their fields. Thankfully though, the vast majority of women seek to be more discerning.

    Even when trying to be careful, women sometimes find themselves in situations with men that are lacking in some very important areas of compatibility. Younger women are especially vulnerable if they haven’t been taught what to look for with regards to personality and character flaws.

    This book will provide you with clear cut descriptions of and behavior patterns exhibited by the suckas of the world. Most of us over the age of 16 have met, dated and/or loved at least one or more of these guys in the past.

    Be aware… many suckas may fit into more than one category, but all of them are high risks for loving relationships. Close contact with the villains on this list will always prove to be damaging to your mind, heart and spirit.

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    The Too Nice Rattlesnake

    Have you ever noticed that when women describe a man as being too nice, other guys get annoyed? You women don’t know what you want! they complain. Yet, women that have run across the Too Nice Rattlesnake and have personal experiences with this underhanded wolf in sheep’s clothing nod their heads knowingly.

    You will usually recognize him by his broad toothy smile and eagerness to do for you. He grins and simpers and does everything he can to please… you can practically see his tail wagging with joy. He may almost beg you to be of service, to be your friend, to help you. Be warned that there may be a steep price to pay for all this kindness… Too Nice Rattlesnakes speak with forked tongues.

    Every woman wants a guy that treats her well and that loves her – nothing new there. However, most women want that niceness to come in a package that involves commitment, respect, romance and passion.

    Sometimes you may think the Too Nice Rattlesnake is 'nice', you know deep down inside that something important is missing. There is no romantic tension, no heat… being around him is like being with a female friend because he exudes no masculinity energy. The words No! or Stop! don’t seem to exist in his vocabulary. He is always apologizing about something, even things that are not his fault.

    He rolls over and acquiesces to everything you want, even crazy things that you request just for something to do. He often sacrifices his own needs or desires to satisfy those of others. He is often taken advantage of at work by his boss that insists he stay late, arrive early and work weekends, and he never stands up for himself. His buddies repeatedly borrow money and never think of paying it back. His ex-wife is a terrorist that uses his children against him, and he never stands up to her or demands to be treated fairly… even his children run him.

    His insecurities are displayed romantically and sexually as well. He will wait timidly for you make the first move or assure him that you want him. He also waits for you to be the aggressor when it comes time to do or say things which advance the relationship (i.e. dating exclusively, moving in together, or getting engaged). His fearful hesitancy puts you in the position of doing most if not all of the planning, initiating and follow-through. This lacking results in lukewarm, yawn filled lovemaking as he is unable to stir in you that fire of feminine passion, since he exudes little to no confidence. He’s afraid of rejection and attempts to mask his insecurity by giving.

    Some Rattlesnakes are very gentlemanly in the beginning, making sure they do everything to make a good impression on dates. Nothing is too good for you, as he takes you to the best restaurants and entertainment spots. Some will give extravagant gifts as well, slightly out of sync with the level of involvement you two have.

    Women are sometimes instructed not to accept gifts from men under these circumstances because the man ‘might’ think you owe him something. However, I think it is rude not to accept a gift someone buys or makes for you of his own volition.

    "I know women that have received gifts from men, for basically nothing in return. A very attractive friend of mine received a nice gift last week from a male co-worker - a very nice pair of boots that she had been wanting. He must have over-heard her talking about wanting those boots and he went out and got them for her. This isn't the only gift she's received from men she knows or works with. I even had a random guy get me something just out of the blue one day. In all these cases, the guys were guys that we would never go on a date with. In my friend's

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