10 Things Your Divorce Attorney Won't Tell You
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Everything in life starts with a simple question.
If you or someone you loved was facing the prospect of divorce, how would you help them find the best divorce attorney to meet their needs?
This is the number one question I am asked on an almost daily basis.
Why you ask?
Because I am one of the over 50% of formerly married people living in the US that has gotten divorced and had to live with the ramifications of the divorce agreement that was negotiated on my behalf.
I try to answer many of the questions and put to rest much of the confusion related to the divorce process and walk the reader through what they will face as they proceed with their attorney through the divorce process.
I can honestly say that I would not wish divorce on the worst of my enemies, but having been through this process and seeing first-hand how callous the court system is and the professionals who feed off of this system, I felt compelled to write this book and to do something to try and help others.
I try my best to provide my answers to many of the issues, questions and concerns that I faced during a rather lengthy and complicated divorce process. I am not an attorney, do not claim to be an attorney and this book is not an attempt to practice law, but rather is based on my personal experiences of traversing the intricate issues tied to divorce.
My hope is that you never need to use this book, but knowing the statistics as I know them to be, someone you know or love will be able to use the knowledge I provide in this book to help make their life truly livable after their divorce.
J. Ellis Hill
J. Ellis Hill • Divorced twice • Two children by the first marriage, a 27-year-old son and 26-year-old daughter • Obtained full-time, primary custody of the these children when my son was age seven and my daughter was age five • Raised these two children as a single dad • Happily re-married for over twelve years now, new son and stepson • Resides in South Orange County, California
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10 Things Your Divorce Attorney Won't Tell You - J. Ellis Hill
10 THINGS
YOUR DIVORCE ATTORNEY
WON’T
TELL YOU !!
by
J. Ellis Hill
Copyright © 2013 J. Ellis Hill
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First Edition: March 2013
Cover design by Jeroen Ten Berge
This book is a work of non-fiction and everything contained herein is written by and of the opinion of, the author. Any attempt at practicing the art of legal work, representation of clients, the portrayal of an attorney or in any way providing legal advice is entirely coincidental and is not be relied upon without first consulting a licensed and practicing attorney.
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This book is dedicated to:
My wife Heather, who answered my prayers,
My mother and father for always believing in me,
My two oldest, Tim and Erin, for living thru the excitement,
My stepson, Christian, who accepted me with open arms,
And lastly, my son Jaxon, who selected his mom and me.
Contents
1: How do you find the best divorce attorney for you?
2: What is this going to cost you?
3: What happens after you retain your divorce attorney?
4: Got Children?
5: Court-Required Mediation
6: The Divorce Agreement
7: The Day in Court
8: After the Court Hearing
9: Where do you go from here?
10: Final Thoughts…
About The Author
Acknowledgements
If you need to find a divorce attorney and have never been through the process or you went through the process and felt hooped,
then this book is written for you.
I wrote this book because there are several critical and important issues that I feel are never clearly outlined or discussed between many clients and divorce attorneys. Often, when asked about the specifics of an issue, most divorce attorneys just provide their versions of the standard response and move on to the next issue.
Please Understand…
There are no standard clauses in divorce agreements.
Everything, and I mean everything, is negotiable!
If the Divorce Agreement (Agreement
) is not carefully read, evaluated and understood, then believe me when I say this, the Agreement will come back to bite you.
It is not the amount of money paid for divorce services that determines the outcome, but rather your ability to prepare for meetings and court appearances, engage in the process, review everything involved, raise questions as soon as they occur to you and direct your divorce attorney. This will make all the difference in how you move on with your life post-divorce.
Understanding the most important things your divorce attorney won’t tell you while you prepare to take control of the divorce process will allow you to achieve critical goals and objectives for your final divorce decree. Hopefully this knowledge will eliminate the need to have to return to court on a repeated basis to have the standard and ambiguous clauses
in your Agreement interpreted.
One last thing: Remember, the divorce attorney works for you!
1
How do you find the best divorce attorney for you?
Imagine you needed heart surgery and you needed it fast. You would interview doctors, search the web, speak to everyone and relentlessly try to find the absolutely best heart surgeon that you could possibly find. Yet when trying to find the best divorce attorney to handle one of the most important and life-changing events, the outcome of which you will be living with for years to come, the majority of people just ask one of their friends for a recommendation. Why?
The reason is because most people have never been through the process before and do not know the critical components in trying to find the best divorce attorney, which are:
Find an attorney who’s been