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    Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome
    Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome
    Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome
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    Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome

    By Jay Ryles

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    'Loud and Proud' has been written by an ex-shy bladder sufferer who knows exactly how it feels to suffer at the mercy of this social phobia. The book is a comprehensive, easy to understand text that provides all the information the reader needs in order to learn about the disorder and to undertake their own therapy to overcome shy bladder syndrome. For ease of use, the book is divided into two parts. Part one provides the reader with an in depth, look into what shy bladder actually is, how it develops and is maintained into adulthood, how our evolutionary past sheds light onto where all our anxiety has come from, and easy to understand anatomy of the body's nervous system and the functioning of the bladder in those with shy bladder syndrome. Part two covers the practical elements of the recovery process, providing comprehensive, structured insight into easy to understand evidence-based cognitive behavioural therapy techniques to allow you to identify and change any irrational thinking you may have about peeing. In addition, it covers topics on: motivational techniques and goal setting to ensure you set your sights on structured steps to give you the best possible chance of success; how to begin to use visualisations as a means of 'practice' to start the process; and finally the chapter on systematic desensitisation is written to provide a step-by-step approach to guide you through all you need to know to undertake your own practise both at home and out "in the field." The book is written in no-nonsense style providing check lists, tasks and guidelines enabling the reader to gain a thorough understanding of this disorder. 'Loud and Proud' is definitely the common sense, all in one package that both provides hard facts, as well as a walk through guide to the process of doing what is required to overcome shy bladder syndrome for good and to start living the life you deserve.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherJay Ryles
    Release dateJul 10, 2013
    ISBN9781301578955
    Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome
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    Jay Ryles

    Hi, I'm Jay. I live in UK and of course like everyone else on here I imagine, I love to write. I am a keen reader and publisher of 'how to' books. I also love to dabble at the piano.

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      Loud and Proud - The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide To Overcoming Shy Bladder Syndrome - Jay Ryles

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      Loud and Proud

      The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming

      Shy Bladder Syndrome

      *****

      By Jay Ryles

      Copyright 2013 Jay Ryles

      Smashwords Edition

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      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you're reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

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      table of contents

      what others are saying about the book

      medical disclaimer

      a note on spelling/terminology

      introduction

      part one

      chapter one - what is shy bladder syndrome?

      a definition

      other terms for shy bladder syndrome

      defining social phobia

      shy bladder syndrome as a phobia

      all alone

      why are men more affected?

      avoidance

      how can I be certain I have shy bladder syndrome? (self assessment)

      the good news

      chapter two - why me?

      getting over the victim mentality

      how it all starts

      why do some develop SBS and others do not?

      when all the bullies have gone home

      avoidance (again)

      chapter three - our evolutionary past

      fear - it's a life-saver

      the fear response and your brain

      the amygdala and shy bladder syndrome

      modern-day fear

      symptoms of anxiety

      the difference between 'you' and 'them'

      the vicious cycle of anxiety

      observations from the animal kingdom

      'if/then' thinking

      chapter four - the brain-bladder connection

      the brain and nervous system

      the urinary system

      the bladder

      urine production

      urine storage

      the process of 'peeing'

      urinary system functioning with SBS

      part two

      chapter five - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

      what is CBT?

      how does CBT work?

      the CBT process

      common unrealistic thinking patterns

      how your unrealistic thoughts affect you

      why we get trapped in unrealistic thinking patterns

      identifying your own unrealistic thoughts

      checking the evidence

      chapter six - motivation and goal setting

      what is motivation?

      the difference between 'fear' and 'desire'

      how fear affects you

      goal setting

      what does goal setting actually do?

      how to set irresistible goals (you just have to reach)

      chapter seven - visualisations

      soviet sports visualisation experiment

      the benefits of visualisations

      how to practise visualisations

      trying a visualisation for yourself

      chapter eight - systematic desensitisation

      what is systematic desensitisation?

      an example of facing your fear

      a case study in desensitisation

      the desensitisation process explained-

      practising at home

      practising in public

      maintenance practice

      References

      More Information

      about the author

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      To all of you who have helped me and so generously given up your time to assist me with my own struggles and on my journey to get this book finished. I thank you and love you very much.

      what others are saying about the book

      From a professional point of view, I was very impressed both by the contents of the book and by the writing style. It appears the author has a tremendous, in-depth understanding of shy bladder syndrome. This is conveyed in a straight forward, no-nonsense writing style. The book delivers what it promises, splitting the 'informational' topics surrounding the subject in one part and in the other; the practical elements. This is a 'how to' manual that offers the reader personal insight, thoroughly researched topics and an easy to follow, step-by-step guide to enable the tasks and the 'practising' element to be fully understood and then carried out. This is a book I would highly recommend to any of my clients that needed help in this area.

      - Cynthia Hip-waye BSc (Hons) Psych, MClin Psych, CCLIN, MAPS

      medical disclaimer

      This program is for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended as medical or professional advice. Always consult a qualified health care professional if you have any concerns.

      The purpose of the material contained in this book is to assist those suffering with shy bladder syndrome to learn more about the phobia itself, to help them to reach their goals and to improve their personal situation in overcoming the disorder.

      The material contained within this text has been written to educate and inform you as much as possible about shy bladder syndrome; to assist you in improving your personal thoughts and perceptions and to enable you to carry out guided exercises to help improve your current situation.

      The author is neither a medical doctor nor a registered psychologist. He does however have 35 years of personal experience of living and coping with shy bladder syndrome; holds a BSc. Honours Degree in Psychology and is a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Diploma Graduate.

      If you have any physical or mental disorder other than shy bladder syndrome, it is strongly recommended that you seek the advice of a medical professional.

      The author shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any of the information contained in this book. The user assumes all responsibility for actions carried out, directly or indirectly by using any information described in this course.

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      a note on spelling and terminology

      spelling

      Due to my British upbringing and education (and the thought of my English teachers turning in their graves if I did otherwise) I have used British English spelling throughout the text. Any readers particularly from the US, may find some of the spellings perhaps a little peculiar. British English uses mainly the letter 's' and not 'z' as in 'desensitisation ' instead of 'desensitization.'

      terminology used in this book

      Some of terminology I have used interchangeably throughout this book, e.g. restroom/toilet, stall/cubicle.

      misfire = an unsuccessful attempt at peeing

      SBS = shy bladder syndrome

      paruresis = medical term for shy bladder syndrome

      stall = cubicle

      restroom = public toilet

      systematic desensitisation - a.k.a. - graduated exposure therapy

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      introduction

      You get invited to your best friends birthday bash. They'll be going into town to sink some beers. The night out isn't for a week and already you can feel your anxiety bubbling away. There's no way out of this one. The big night out arrives and all the guys are there at the bar, laughing and joking. You've arrived a little late to try to minimise the time you have to spend there. In preparation, you have already eaten a large meal and have been dehydrating yourself all afternoon to delay the inevitable trip to the restroom. You do your best to appear as carefree and jovial as everyone else, but there's a face of anguish hidden behind the mask you put on. Your attention is split between keeping up with the current conversation and trying to work out how to 'get through this ordeal'. The beers take effect and that inevitable feeling creeps into your bladder. There's no avoiding this now. You have to go sooner or later; and go without anyone noticing, to avoid them 'tagging along'. You make your move and head to the toilet. Your anxiety rockets, your stomach's twisting, your hands are sweating, you're heading to your own personal 'gallows'. You get there; the restroom is full of guys lined up at the urinals. There's no point in even trying and causing further embarrassment, as your bladder is well and truly locked, so you head for the cubicles. Both are occupied. You're desperate now. Your bladder feels like it's about to burst. You've been in there far too long already. People are beginning to notice. It's time to bale out. Back out into the bar, you rapidly head for the exit, hoping you don't get spotted. Outside, you hail a taxi and go straight home, your head full of self-loathing thoughts and full of pre-fabricated excuses to use to explain to everyone why you 'had to' leave. Another disaster to add to the ever-growing list. Why me? you keep thinking to yourself: Why me?

      Does any of this sound familiar to you? Well, you are not on your own. Millions of men, have been in similar scenarios, desperate to enjoy a night out with friends, or to take their son to the ball game but any enjoyment is always smothered by the tremendous anxiety they feel in these social situations. All the enjoyment is 'sucked out' of them through no fault of their own.

      This problem, despite being endured by millions of men everyday, is little known about and rarely discussed. This problem is a social anxiety disorder described in the medical literature as 'psychogenic urinary retention', or 'paruresis'. However, most people will be more aware of terms such as: 'shy bladder syndrome' (SBS), 'bashful bladder syndrome' (BBS), 'bashful kidneys', 'pee-shyness' or pee phobia.

      So……………………

      If the very thought of a night out with friends fills you with fear and dread because you're terrified of using

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