Teaching People Teaching Dogs
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This book is about the dog-training instructor's first job: teaching people. Our human students require much more attention and understanding than do their canines. If we don't inspire their interest and cooperation, they will not be successful in training their dogs. It offers insights, information, and ideas to help you work more effectively with your human students. It urges you to engage your intelligence and curiosity and courage to try some of these ideas in your own classes and private lessons. It will help you open your mind to new ideas, consider other views, and explore new possibilities in your instructing. And if you are training your own dog, it will enhance your efforts by suggesting new ways to think about the teaching and learning process.
Stephanie Colman of APDT wrote: While it is often said that most dog trainers find themselves in the business of training dogs due to a love of dogs, the most important relationship in a group class setting is that between the human student and the instructor. When that relationship is solid, everyone—especially the dog—will benefit. Weinberg’s book is about teaching people. As the introduction states, "Although we describe ourselves as "dog trainers," we know that our human students require much more attention and understanding than do their canines. If we don’t inspire their interest and cooperation, they will not be successful in training their dogs." Teaching People Teaching Dogs is divided into two sections. Part one addresses the student and offers the reminder that they often arrive to class with a laundry list of preconceived ideas about their dogs and what drives dog behavior. Chapters include, "What I want My Students to Learn," "Ten Assumptions That Lead Students Astray," and "Guiding Students Toward New Beliefs About Their Dogs."
The second part starts with Weinberg’s classification of "Instructor Types" based on the temperament models of psychologist David Keirsey. Explained as the intellectual, the cheerleader, the organizer and the jiggler, this section highlights the importance of maintaining a willingness to reach beyond one’s primary instructor type in an effort to best assist students. It serves as a friendly reminder that, as instructors, we are often are willing to think outside the box and try new things when it comes to working with dogs, but many of us aren’t always as flexible in our style of dealing with the humans at the other end of the leash. The book goes on to give useful advice on how to interpret student feedback while avoiding unnecessary emotional baggage that can easily be created by attempting to read between the lines. The chapters on maintaining self-esteem, hints for self-appreciation and preventing burnout do a nice job of reminding the instructor that it’s not only okay, but extremely important to take care of himself throughout the process of helping students with their dogs. I particularly liked the chapter entitled, "The ABCs of Fee-Setting," which does a lovely job highlighting what instructors really get paid for. While I love my job and often joke that I get paid to play with dogs all day, it was good to be reminded that my clients are actually paying for the fact that my attention to their dog extends far beyond the scheduled lesson time. Ever wake up in the middle of the night with a sudden idea about how to help a client? As trainers we bring passion, dedication, experience, flexibility, honesty and much more to the table. It’s a complex recipe of interpersonal communication and it was nice to be reminded that we deserve to be paid for it. A review of this chapter is no doubt cheaper than an hour with a therapist when my trainer self-esteem is running low!
At a short book, it’s a quick and easy read. For me, as long as a book makes me examine at least one new idea or reconsider an old one, it’s a worthwhile addition to my training library.
Gerald M. Weinberg
Gerald M. Weinberg (Jerry) writes "nerd novels," such as The Aremac Project, Aremac Power, First Stringers, Second Stringers, The Hands of God, Freshman Murders, and Mistress of Molecules—about how brilliant people produce quality work. His novels may be found as eBooks at or on Kindle. Before taking up his science fiction career, he published books on human behavior, including Weinberg on Writing: The Fieldstone Method, The Psychology of Computer Programming, Perfect Software and Other Fallacies, and an Introduction to General Systems Thinking. He also wrote books on leadership including Becoming a Technical Leader, The Secrets of Consulting (Foreword by Virginia Satir), More Secrets of Consulting, and the four-volume Quality Software Management series. He incorporates his knowledge of science, engineering, and human behavior into all of writing and consulting work (with writers, hi-tech researchers, and software engineers). Early in his career, he was the architect for the Mercury Project's space tracking network and designer of the world's first multiprogrammed operating system. Winner of the Warnier Prize and the Stevens Award for his writing on software quality, he is also a charter member of the Computing Hall of Fame in San Diego and the University of Nebraska Hall of Fame. The book, The Gift of Time (Fiona Charles, ed.) honors his work for his 75th birthday. His website and blogs may be found at http://www.geraldmweinberg.com.
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Teaching People Teaching Dogs - Gerald M. Weinberg
Teaching People Teaching Dogs
Insights and Ideas for Instructors
by Dani Weinberg
with Gerald M. Weinberg
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Dedication
I dedicate this book to my own German Shepherds, past and present, who have been my most forgiving teachers: Joe, Lily, Sweetheart, Rose, Honey, Sweetie, Ruby, and Caro.
Acknowledgements
My warm appreciation goes to Val Hughes. She was the first editor of Forward, the quarterly publication of NADOI (National Association of Dog Obedience Instructors). Val was an exemplary editor, encouraging and supporting me when I was a regular columnist for the journal. Without realizing it, I started working on this book in 1995 when I was asked to write a 500-word article for the first issue of Forward. The columns I wrote during the next six years provided the framework for this book. If you've been a Forward reader all these years, you might find hints and echos of those columns in these chapters, now much more developed and expanded as my own thinking and experience have grown.
My thanks to Betty Mueller, my publisher, for seeing the possibilities of the book and helping me realize them.
Several of my colleagues were kind enough to read the manuscript. I thank them for their thoughtful and helpful comments:
Barbara Brill, owner of the Aggressive Behaviors in Dogs list on the Internet (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/agbeh)
Suzanne Clothier, author of Bones Would Rain From the Sky: Deepening Our Relationships with Dogs.
Terry Ryan, President of Legacy Canine Behavior and Training, and author of Coaching People To Train Their Dogs.
Kathy Sdao, owner of Bright Spot Dog Training and Clicker Expo faculty member.
I also thank my colleagues and students here in New Mexico and around the world (thanks to the Internet) for the marvelous continuing education they provide.
My husband, Jerry Weinberg, is a successful author whose most recent book, Weinberg on Writing: The Fieldstone Method, is flying off the shelves. Jerry is my best, and most loving, critic and my inspiration. To him I offer my deepest thanks.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION: Inspired Instructing
About This Book
PART 1: THE STUDENT
Chapter 1. What I Want My Students to Learn
Chapter 2. Ten Assumptions That Lead Students Astray
Chapter 3. Three Ways to Reach a Difficult
Student
Chapter 4. Guiding Students Towards New Beliefs About Their Dogs
Chapter 5. What Happens When We Treat Dogs as if They're People
Chapter 6. On the Road to Smooth Communication
PART 2: THE INSTRUCTOR
Chapter 7. When Management Ends and Learning Begins
Chapter 8. Understanding Our Problem Solving Styles
Chapter 9. Designing an Effective Training Place
Chapter 10. How to Read a Feedback Form
Chapter 11. A Toolkit for Maintaining Self Esteem
Chapter 12. A Valentine's Day Card: Hints For Self Appreciation
Chapter 13. What To Do About Burnout
Chapter 14. What Instructors Are Paid For: The ABCs of Fee-Setting
Chapter 15. My Year as a Seminar Junkie
A Final Word
Readings and Other Resources
INTRODUCTION: Inspired Instructing
Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to be captured by aliens? I've actually had that experience. Well, not exactly by aliens, but by a different species called Dog. And not exactly captured, but captivated. It happened in the mountains of Colorado. I was attending a 5-day workshop about Conflict Resolution. On the third day, we were asked to refrain from speaking or using language in any other way (like writing notes) for the entire day. That was probably the most memorable day of the week for me—not just because of the marvelous lesson in communication, but also because of a particular moment of communication that I will never forget.
I was doing very well at following the no-speaking rule and even enjoying the silence—until the group went on a hike. We climbed a steep slope that ended at a beautiful meadow. In silence, we sat on the ground, close together, taking silent pleasure in each other's company. Suddenly, the biggest and hairiest dog I had ever seen appeared at the edge of the meadow, seemingly emerging out of thin air because the trail up to the meadow was so steep that we had no warning of his arrival.
The dog saw our group immediately and was irresistibly drawn to us, rushing over to lick and nuzzle each person. When he came to me—I spoke! Out loud! I have absolutely no memory of the words I uttered but only of being transported—captured
—into another universe. Nothing existed except the dog and me, in profound communication. I was speaking English, and he was speaking
Dog, and the moment was one of perfect connection.
Then I felt an elbow (human) in my side and I came out of my trance, a little embarrassed at having broken the silence rule. The dog's owner finally appeared on the meadow, a slower hiker than his dog.
For the rest of the day and for years to come, I marveled at what had happened. If connection was based on communication, then how could this have happened when the two participants in the dialogue were using different languages—and one of them non-verbal?
I understand now that this was a kind of magic, a moment of complete engagement between Dog and me. I also realize that I experience this magic, in small measure, whenever I am with a dog. It can be one of my own dogs or a student's dog—makes no difference. The moment is seldom as dramatic as it was that first time on a Colorado mountain, but I feel it just as deeply.
This magical connection is the beginning of what I call inspired instructing. It's about being fully present, in pure communication with a dog. My students, of course, have to learn how to do this with their own dogs, but they always recognize the magic when they see me do it. Maybe this is what they're seeing when they ask why their dogs are more attentive to me than to them. No mystery here! Inspired instructors have had lots of experience making immediate connections with new dogs. An important part of my job is to show my students that they can do this too. Once the magic is there with their own dogs, anything is possible. I have seen truly amazing turnarounds in dog behavior when the dog-person relationship was infused with real communication.
I also want to have this kind of communication with my human students. The person-to-person form of this magic is called empathy, and it comes from having had many of the same experiences that my students are now having and remembering how I felt. I know about the sleep-deprived desperation that makes me think of returning a puppy to the breeder. I know about the fury that once, many years ago, made me slap a dog on the face. (I still shudder that I was able to do this.) I know about the grief and emptiness of losing a dog.
I also know about the thrill of qualifying in an obedience trial for the first time ever, the pleasure of hiking with dogs and seeing the world through their eyes (and noses), and the transcendent joy of watching my dogs play exuberantly with each other.
When we connect empathically with our human students, we can teach them how to connect magically with their dogs. That's inspired instructing, and that's what this book is about.
About This Book
This book is about the dog-training instructor's first job: teaching people. Although we describe ourselves as dog trainers,
we know that our human students require much more attention and understanding than do their canines. If we don't inspire their interest and cooperation, they will not be successful in training their dogs.
The primary message of this book is that we are teaching people first, rather than training dogs. This book is not a comprehensive work on how to be an instructor, but it will contribute to your becoming a great instructor. Nor is the book a how-to manual that gives detailed directions for teaching specific behaviors, but it will make your training instructions more effective. And if you're training your own dog, this book will enhance your efforts by suggesting new ways to think about the teaching and learning process.
But that's not enough. We instructors are people too. In order to do our best teaching, we must take our own humanity into account. We must constantly examine what we're doing and why. I learned how to do this from Virginia Satir, family therapist extraordinaire, who was a major influence on my life and work. Virginia believed we have within us the resources we need to live happy and productive lives. Sometimes, though, we need help to develop our skills so that we can actually use our inner resources to best advantage.
One of Virginia's great strengths was her ability to choose an approach to help a client and, if it didn't seem to be working, to change course immediately, without any embarrassment or apology. She would actually say to the client Okay then, let's try this instead.
That's what this book is for: helping you open your mind to new ideas, consider other views, and explore new possibilities in your instructing.
This book offers you information, insights, and ideas to help you work more effectively with your human students. It urges you to engage your intelligence and curiosity and courage to try some of these ideas in your own classes and private lessons. Virginia used to put it this way: Taste everything, but swallow only what fits for you.
Every outstanding instructor I know is also a lifelong student, constantly seeking new ideas to taste. As instructors, then, we have a lot in common with the people who come to our classes with their dogs. Above all, we share the dream of building the most satisfying relationships possible between people and their dogs. This book will help you and your students realize that dream.
How I Became An Instructor
Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that I would, one day, be living with dogs, let alone have a career as a professional dog trainer and instructor.
I was raised by professional-class European parents to be highly cultivated (read marriageable
). At the age of 5, I started taking piano lessons. When I was 10, ballet lessons were added, because my mother thought it would make me thinner and more graceful. I also took private French lessons, studied Spanish and Russian in school, and made several summer trips to Europe during my college years. After college, I continued living at home and found an interesting
job, quite unrelated to my education or career dreams, while presumably waiting to find a suitable husband.
These were the things that well-bred New York City girls of my generation were supposed to do. We were well educated, usually in the humanities (more ladylike
than the sciences). After graduation, we worked at respectable but low-paying jobs for a couple of years. Then, we met and married Mr. Right (my parents were sure that he would be Dr. Right, like my father). We set up house in an apartment not far from where our parents lived and, as soon as we were able to start a family, we quit our jobs to become full-time homemakers.
Most of my friends lived up to these expectations, but I was something of a disappointment to my parents. I turned down several eligible young doctors, waited until I met a man from Chicago of all places, married him when I was 25, and promptly left town for the Wild West (Michigan).
My family had come to America as refugees at the beginning of World War II. We lived in a Manhattan apartment in New York City. I don't believe that any of my friends had pets. It never occurred to me to want a dog. One summer, I did buy some goldfish at the local five-and-dime store, but they didn't last much longer than other living things last in Manhattan. Only the cockroaches seemed to thrive.
Instead of having dogs, we kids entertained ourselves on the city streets. Bikes and roller skates were hardly practical or safe in that environment. Instead, we played hopscotch, handball against the walls of apartment buildings, and hide and seek using the basements of apartment buildings as our hiding places.
I was not one of those animal-loving children who dreams of having a dog or owning a horse. For the first 33 years of my life, in fact,