Girl in the Mirror
By Nina Dhillon
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Girl in the Mirror, by Nina Dhillon, is an important new book that will help you plan your life. Girl in the Mirror is not for girls who want to be cool. It’s not for girls who would like to "only" enjoy their life before they make their life. Instead, this book is meant to drive you toward your life’s journey in such a way that you don’t have to take the wrong path. The intent of Girl in the Mirror is to teach you, as a young girl, how to prepare yourself for life, how to make your goals, and then how to achieve them. Plus, Girl in the Mirror is fun to read--it's chock full of great advice, fascinating real-life stories, and lots of fun illustrations. MIRRORS ARE SPECIAL! A mirror shows you as you are now, but if you look closely and dream big, it can also show you your future. What will your future be? Will it be bright? Will you make the right choices? Will you take the right path? Girl in the Mirror can raise your awareness and help you find your purpose in this life. Girl in the Mirror can help you plant big dreams in your heart. Girl in the Mirror can teach you how to make the right choices, avoid bad choices, and find the right path!
Nina Dhillon
Nina Dhillon was born in Shimla, a beautiful city in the Himalayan mountains of northern India. She completed her formal education in India with a master’s degree in business management and worked as a marketing executive before coming to the United States in 1992. Nina speaks six languages: English, Hindi, Punjabi, Urdu, and a little French and Spanish. Both of Nina’s daughters are studying to be doctors. Jane, twenty-seven, finished medical school and is currently taking the United States Medical Licensing Examination. Sara, twenty-three, is a medical student and will soon begin clinical rotations, most likely in New York. Both graduated from Granada Hills High School in Los Angeles, California. When Nina arrived in America, she took whatever jobs she could. She worked as a waitress for four years. She also worked at a Subway sandwich shop for six months and then bought the same restaurant in 2000. She earned her real estate license in 1996 and has worked as a real estate broker since then. Nina says, “I have lived in Los Angeles since I arrived in the U.S., and I love it!” Nina loves to play golf and once had an ambition to be a professional golfer. She laments that when it comes to golf, she didn’t follow the advice she gives in this book to “set your goals and pursue them.” She says, “With this book, I’m trying to keep young girls from those kinds of ‘ifs, ands, or buts,’ so that they can pursue their goals and live full and happy lives!
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Girl in the Mirror - Nina Dhillon
GIRL
IN THE
MIRROR
The Totally True Truth About
Making Choices and
Understanding Consequences
Nina Dhillon
Copyright Nina Dhillon 2011
Published by Luxmi Books at Smashwords
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For
my two wonderful daughters
and
to all the daughters of the world
who gave me the
inspiration and insight
to write it back to them
so that they can learn
to live life to its fullest.
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
I came to write this book not because I was experiencing something positive, but because I was seeing so much that was negative. When I went to my daughters’ school to pick them up, so many times I saw young girls and boys kissing right in front of their middle school. There were teachers around, but none of them bothered to stop the bad behavior!
I was new to this country and felt I couldn’t say anything to the school authorities for fear that their schoolmates would bully my daughters if they found out who blew the whistle.
That kind of inappropriate behavior is still taking place, but I have now written out my feelings to young people in a way so that they don’t feel singled out.
As I wrote at the beginning of this book — it isn’t written for the girls who want to be COOL and only have FUN. Instead, it’s meant for those girls who want to have a life even better than their parents had. If, for example, a girl’s mom had a baby when she was seventeen, that girl doesn’t have to repeat her mother’s mistake. Isn’t it better to learn from what your mom did wrong?
That’s why I started writing this book.
As I began, I spoke very often to my friend, Annie La Fleur, and then I met another friend, Debbie Jackson, who edited what I wrote and turned this book into something beautiful. Thank you, Annie and Debbie; you are like sisters to me. I would also like to thank Jack Barnard, who coached me into being a better speaker so I can talk freely and easily about this project, and Josh Nixon, who did his amazing artwork for the cover all the way from New Zealand.
I would like to acknowledge the help I received from my daughters, Jane and Sara, who gave me insight about their lives at school that helped me understand them better.
Finally, thank you to all the young girls who will read this book and, I hope, learn something from it. The essence of my message is that when you come across a decision that looks and feels bad, run the other way and do just the opposite! Remember: You have to live with the consequences of whatever choices you make, even if you make those decisions while you’re very young.
I would like to rewind my life and do so many things differently, but I can’t! You, however, can make good decisions to start with. It’s my hope that what you learn from this book will help you to make the very best decisions for your life.
CONTENTS
WHAT IS THIS BOOK ABOUT?
Mirrors Reflect Something Special: You!
Even Everyday Girls Have Options
The World is Soooo Tempting!
Isn’t Every Little Girl a Princess?
Books Aren’t Just Good for You — They’re Fun!
The Times, They Are A-Changin’
What’s the Key?
Chapter One: ARE YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?
The Truth About Consequences
The Most Important Choices You’ll Make
Good Choices Give You a Push
The Ultimate Time-Waster
The Gossip Channel
Cyber-Spaced Out
Still a Good Idea: Save Sex for Marriage
It’s Time for Some New-Fashioned Morals
Who Is That Girl in the Mirror?
The Wild Child vs. the Good Girl
Are You Sure About That? Making the Right Choices
Chapter Two: BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE!
There’s That Princess Thing Again
Mary, Mary, Quite Contrary, How Does Your Garden Grow?
What Kind of Plant Are You?
What Seeds Are You Sowing?
Take It Step By Step
Before It’s Too Late!
Chapter Three: DAYDREAMING
See It, Feel It — Be It!
Never Ever Stop Daydreaming!
To University … and Beyond!
First You Have to Dream It, Then You Make It Real!
Chapter Four: BE AWARE … ABOUT EVERYTHING!
What’s the Quickest Way to Kill Your Dreams?
Awareness: Make a Commitment to Yourself
Chapter Five: ENERGY
The Care and Feeding of Daydreams
What Others Say Matters — Except When It’s Negative!
May the Force (Energy) Be With You
Attitude — or Bratitude?
Confidence — or No Sense?
Nature Nurtures
Food Fortifies
Exercise Energizes
Awareness = Energy
Rockin’ Relationships
Those Glorious Gal Pals
Those Talented Teachers
Those Proud Parents
Outrageous Honesty
Hard Work = Even More Energy — It’s True!
Precious Pets
Energy
Chapter Six: SELF-ESTEEM — YOU CAN WORK ON IT!
Awareness = Self-Esteem
How to Boost Your Self-Confidence
Study Study Study
Talk Talk Talk
Friends Friends Friends
Clothes Clothes Clothes
Boys Boys Boys
It’s Your Choice
Self-Esteem — You Can Work on It!
Chapter Seven: PRACTICE MAKES A GIRL PERFECT!
Practice, Practice, Then Practice Some More!
Eating
Tying Your Shoes
Brushing Your Teeth
Studying
Sports
Singing and Dancing
Mold Your Life — Hold Your Dream
Practice Makes a Girl Perfect!
Chapter Eight: CONFIDENCE KEEPS YOU STRONG!
The Keys to Confidence
Confidence Keeps You Strong!
Chapter Nine: MANNERS AND ETIQUETTE
Manners: The Universal Language
Lookin’ Good, Mi Amiga!
At School
At Work
At Home
Out in the World
Let Your Parents Be Parents
What Happens When Life Is Hard?
A Little Goes a Long Way
Manners and Etiquette
Chapter Ten: EDUCATION IS THE KEY!
Education is Not ALL Academics
Make the Smart Choice — and Stick With It!
Make a Commitment to Yourself
Lose Your Time … and It Can Lose You in Return
Education Is the Key!
Chapter Eleven: HEALTH
Everything in Moderation
Fruit Fancies and Veggie Tales
Work That Body
Maintaining a Healthy Body Weight
Smile and the Whole World Smiles with You
Health
Chapter Twelve: FOCUS
Pay Attention!
Focus
Chapter Thirteen: GOAL-SETTING
Aim High
Write It Out
Goal-Setting
Chapter Fourteen: PRAYER
Pray — But Still Work Hard!
Let God Help You Make Right Choices
God’s Most Precious Gift
The Power of Prayer
Prayer
Chapter Fifteen: LOVE
Be Your Own Guardian Angel
Love Is Really Wonderful … Unless It’s Really Really Bad
The Biggest Love
Mistake Kids Make
When It Comes to Love and Sex, Don’t Follow the Crowd
When It Comes to Love and Drugs, Don’t Follow the Crowd
The Power of Love
Is There a Trick to Falling in Love the Right Way?
Love Isn’t Supposed to Hurt
Love Must Sometimes Be Tough
Loving Yourself First Isn’t Selfish — It’s Smart!
Love
Chapter Sixteen: YOUR LIFE — A LONG AND HAPPY ONE
Building the Right Kind of Life
Take Steps in the Right Direction
Your Thoughts are Electric!
Your Life — a Long and Happy One
GLOSSARY
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
WHAT IS THIS BOOK ABOUT?
This book is not for girls who want to be cool. It’s not for girls who would like to only enjoy their life before they make their life.
The purpose of this book is to drive you toward your life’s journey in such a way that you don’t have to take the wrong path and then, once you’re already exhausted, end up turning around so you can make the right choices and find the right path.
Mirrors Reflect Something Special: You!
Why did I choose a girl in a mirror as the main theme of this book?
A mirror shows you as you are now, but if you look closely and dream big, it can also show you your future. What will your future be? Will it be bright? Will you make the right choices? Will you take the right path?
Girl in the Mirror can raise your awareness and help you find your purpose in this life. Girl in the Mirror can help you plant big dreams in your heart. Girl in the Mirror can teach you how to make the right choices, avoid bad choices, and find the right path!
If you go down the wrong path at the beginning, you just might give up. When you go down the wrong path, you might get tired, discouraged, and disappointed with yourself. It’s not so easy to pull yourself back and head the right way when you’re going through life carrying that kind of pain and suffering.
The intent of this book is to teach you, as a young girl, how to prepare yourself for life, how to make your goals, and then how to achieve them. Your most important lesson is to recognize your own role in shaping your own life. And you have to start early — while you’re young.