Recipe For Lemonade
By April Capil
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"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade." Tolerating unexpected disappointments is par for the course in tough times, but how does one begin the process of true alchemy, of turning bitter into sweet? In this short guide to making the best of things when they're at their worst, breast cancer survivor April Capil shares her insights and strategies for making it through misfortune.
April Capil
April Capil is a breast cancer survivor and author. She holds a Green M.B.A. in Sustainable Enterprise and lives in Northern California.April has been a guest speaker at the First Descents Annual Gala (2010), the Life Beyond Cancer Conference (2011), the OMG Summit for Young Adult Cancer Survivors (2013, 2014), and the Conference For Young Women (2014).
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Recipe For Lemonade - April Capil
Tracking Game
When humans first came on the evolutionary scene, we lacked a gift that most predators at the top of the food chain had: a keen sense of smell.
We can live without this now, but thousands of years ago, your nose was what fed you. As a relative newcomer competing with the lions and tigers and bears, we had no choice but to innovate if we wanted to survive. And so, humans learned how to do something no other species could do.
We learned how to track game.
The process for tracking game is, not surprisingly, one that’s stuck with us all these years. We use it today for everything from diagnosing illnesses to solving crimes: we look for evidence, analyze our findings, and we construct a story, based on what we think happened. Language developed because we formed teams and used it to coordinate our efforts. The hunters of our early years were, in a way, like the forensic scientists of CSI, inferring a chain of events from residual data - putting two and two together to draw conclusions about the world around us.
The stories we construct, of course, are dependent - in large part - on our individual histories and perspectives. Our assumptions about future events are almost always based on our past experiences and our observances of others’ past experiences. While this is helpful in many situations, it can also be detrimental to our development as human beings in other situations. Past experiences can preserve our safety by teaching us to, say, stay away from open flame when we’ve been burned before, but they can also bias us against new opportunities, like opening our heart to people after a rough breakup.
Because of our histories, we can also make false assumptions, especially if we expect our future experiences to mimic our past ones. We may even go so far as to create future experiences that duplicate or mimic our previous ones, just so we can reinforce our existing beliefs.
Why would we do this? Fear. We don't want to be caught off guard; we don't want to be surprised or scared about our future, and convincing ourselves that we are somehow capable of predicting the future (as crazy as it sounds) gives us a sense of security. We tell ourselves, "This city will be full of crime and rude people, just like the last one I lived in was," or "He will cheat on me, just like my last husband did." These assumptions are not always wrong (after all, humans do have a habit of falling into old patterns), but they are also not always right, and can be detrimental when they hold back our personal development. Always expecting your future to duplicate your past creates biases which often hamper your judgment.
What's important to understand is the fact that the way we see the world depends largely on the stories we tell ourselves, based on the evidence we observe in it.
Navigating our path through the world via stories we construct is not some magical, mystical process; it is simply a pattern of behavior that we have adopted because of the way we evolved as a species. We make sense of the world around us by examining evidence and telling ourselves a story that makes sense of that evidence, based on beliefs we have about the way we think things work. These beliefs themselves are based on assumptions, which may or may not be valid, because, again, they are based on expectations resulting from past experiences, and subject to bias.
Let me give you an example: A child, when it is very small, tends to believe that its sole source of comfort is its mother’s presence. Because many children have limited exposure to other people, they have no basis of comparison, and are likely to assume that