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    Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...
    Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...
    Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...
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    Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...

    By B. A. (Beverly) Smith

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    As a Nurse I am constantly surprised that my caseload is not overrun with cases of Human Hoof & Mouth disease. It is not healthy to put your foot in your mouth every time you open it.
    As a psychiatric Nurse, I often find myself worrying less about my patients, and more about those “normal and well” individuals. I keep trying to convince myself that they don’t mean to trivialize another’s pain, that surely what they said is not what they meant to say. If you are talking with a person that is depressed or suicidal, I beg you to think before you speak. Be thoughtful about giving advice and the words you choose. Hardly a shift goes by that I am not struck by the statements that people make; when I don’t go “please tell me you didn’t say that” and have to ask what the individual intended to say or ask them to tell me what they were thinking when they said that. Then rush on to check on my patient; too many of which can’t manage one more, real or perceived, blow.
    To trivialize a person’s pain with platitudes is cruel and unnecessary, whether done intentionally or unintentionally. To purposely set out to say cruel and hateful things is simply sick. Often it is not so much the words that are used as how they were said; sarcastic, uncaring or worse. The tone of voice and the context in which they were used; often destroy any intended benefit to the person hearing them. Sometimes it is better to listen and say nothing. As momma said: If you can’t say something nice, then keep your say nothing while you think..
    I can tell you that this human hoof and mouth disease can strike anyone at any time; there is no group of people that are immune. But take heart, it is a very treatable disorder and responds well to a little information and practice on engaging the mind before opening the mouth. Remember it is how our words are received that makes a difference. Please while you read these; think about how you would feel. Here is my collection of 193 of those statements; that all too frequently make a depressed or suicidal person feel worse.
    Beverly Smith AA, BS, RN

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherB. A. (Beverly) Smith
    Release dateMay 1, 2014
    ISBN9781311242440
    Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...
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    B. A. (Beverly) Smith

    Hello. I am Beverly. A normal woman in a hectic world; sometimes "Super" at other times "Wonder” Woman.My main job titles include Mother, Grandmother and wife of over 28 years. Secondary titles (though less formal, still of utmost importance) include Domestic Engineer and Hearth Manager; not to mention that I am a master at juggling.Professionally I am a Registered Nurse, specializing in psychiatric nursing with over 30 years of experience in helping people in crisis. This "calling" started with a degree in Psychology from VPI&SU in 1981. This was combined with a RN degree in 1992 and advanced into the specialty with ANCC certification in Mental Health and Mental Illness in 1995.I have worked in many professional areas over the years including medical hospitals (general medical and cardiac care), counseling, mental hospitals, and home health. The specific job titles have varied, including Psychiatric Nurse, RN Clinician, and Behavioral Nurse Specialist. By far the most intense experiences came from over 15 years working in a state-run mental institution in areas of Detox, Substance Abuse, Adolescence, and Acute Admissions. The most challenging experiences came from Psychiatric Home Health Nursing.Hobbies (when time allows) include Music, Cooking, Art, crafts, photography, physical fitness, volleyball/softball and raising northern breeds Siberian Huskies and American Eskimos.Writing has been a lifelong passion. It is something that I am compelled to do. Whether writing fiction, poetry, or a professional in-service the enjoyment I get is the same. So many stories clamoring for attention, impatiently waiting to be told.

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      Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That... - B. A. (Beverly) Smith

      Tell Me You Didn’t Just Say That...

      (Depression 3)

      By: Beverly Smith BS. RN

      Copyright: 2014

      Beverly Smith BS.RN

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