Dr. Spock's The First Two Years: The Emotional and Physical Needs of Children from Birth to Age 2
By Benjamin Spock and Martin T. Stein
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This first-time collection of essays brings together Dr. Spock's insightful writings on connecting with your child's inner life during the all-important early years. Dr. Spock's The First Two Years covers such topics as:
- understanding your baby's different cries
- helping your little one cope with separation anxiety
- communicating with your baby
- teaching your child about giving and sharing
- the easiest way ever to toilet-train
- dealing with the impact a newborn can have on siblings
- treating the most common ailments
With Dr. Spock's The First Two Years, new parents everywhere will return again and again to Dr. Spock for all of their child-rearing questions.
Benjamin Spock
Dr. Benjamin Spock was the most trusted and most famous pediatrician worldwide; his reassuring and commonsense advice shaped parenting practices for half a century. The author of eleven books, he was a political activist for causes that vitally affect children: disarmament, day care, schooling, housing, and medical care for all. Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care has been translated into thirty-nine languages and has sold more than fifty million copies worldwide since its first publication in 1946. Please visit DrSpock.com for more information.
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Dr. Spock's The First Two Years - Benjamin Spock
Dr. Spock’s THE FIRST TWO YEARS
Turn to Dr. Spock’s The First Two Years for invaluable advice on topics vital to all new parents:
The many meanings of your newborn’s cries
Separation anxiety
Helping your child cope with unfamiliar faces
Understanding baby’s moods and emotions
Sibling jealousy
Sleep problems
Dealing with the stresses of parenthood
… and more!
BOOKS BY BENJAMIN SPOCK, M.D.
Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care
Dr. Spock on Parenting
Dr. Spock’s The First Two Years
Dr. Spock’s The School Years
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This book is comprised of a series of essays previously published individually in Redbook (1985-1992) and Parenting (1992-1998).
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This book is dedicated to
the mothers and fathers who taught Dr. Spock about the growth and emotional development of their children;
Dr. Benjamin Spock, who shared with me, during the last year of his remarkable life, the evolution of his ideas about the development of children;
Mary Morgan, Dr. Spock’s widow, who steadfastly maintains his legacy for the children and parents of future generations;
my parents, Gertrude and Gerald Stein, who guided the lives of their children with a respect for their independence and an intuitive understanding of Dr. Spock’s reminder to parents to trust yourself … you know more than you think you do
; and
my wife, Mary Caffery, and children, Joshua, Benjamin and Sarah, who continue to teach me about the developmental journey of children and young adults.
Acknowledgments
There are many individuals who are important in the development of this book. I am indebted to the pediatricians who shaped my thinking about children, families, and the practice of pediatrics, including Drs. John Castiglione, Louis Fraad, William Nyhan, Samuel Spector, Stanford Friedman, John Kennell, and T. Berry Brazelton. I especially want to thank my colleague, Dr. Suzanne Dixon, with whom I collaborated during a twenty-year period at the University of California San Diego.
There are many other colleagues in the emerging specialty of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics who continue to work with me and teach me about ways to assist pediatricians to become more effective in counseling parents and the early recognition and treatment of children with develpmental and behavioral conditions. They include Drs. Michael Reiff, Heidi Feldman, Ellen Perrin, Paul Dworkin, William Coleman, Lane Tanner, Jim Perrin, Mark Wolraich, Esther Wender, William Carey, Ronald Barr, Randi Hagerman, Barbara Howard, Robert Needlman, and David Snyder. My colleagues in San Diego, Philip Nader, Laurel Leslie, Barbara Loundsbury, Dorothy Johnson, Eyla Boies, and Howard Taras continue to support this work.
I also wish to express sincere appreciation to Robert Lescher, Dr. Spock’s literary agent for many years. He steadfastly encouraged and guided the publication of this book. Dr. Spock wrote the original articles included in this book for two magazines for parents. Bruce Raskin encouraged and guided the publication as Dr. Spock’s editor at Parenting magazine. Sylvia Koner was his editor at Redbook. I am also grateful to Tracy Bernstein, a superb editor at Pocket Books.
Dr. Benjamin Spock’s legacy is sustained today at drSpock.com, a company that disseminates his writings and contemporary information for parents. The leadership of that group worked with me and actively encouraged the development of this book. I appreciate the support from Douglas Lee, John Buckley, David Markus, George Strait, and Drs. Laura Janna, Robert Needlman, and Lynn Cates.
Contents
Introduction
1. Communicating with Your Baby: Reading Your Baby’s Cues
Crying: An Early Form of Communication with Parents
Baby Colic
Periodic Irritable Baby
Fretful Baby
Cries of Hunger
Hypertonic Baby
Crying Associated with Diaper Rash and Teething
Responding to Your Baby’s Cry: A Few Specific Suggestions
Is the Baby Sick?
Sucking
Reaching Out
Kicking Legs
Grunting
High-pitched Squealing
The Parent’s Response
Happy to Crying
Enjoy Your Baby
2. Parents’ Biggest Newborn Concerns
Umbilical Stump
Floppy Head
SIDS
Exposure to Germs
Breast-feeding
Swelling of Babies’ Heads
Breathing Patterns
Soft Spot
Playing Too Vigorously
Spitting Up
Jaundice
3. Choosing a Doctor for Your Baby
4. The Arrival of the New Baby
Feeding and Behavior
Breast-feeding
Formula feeding
Preparing for the New Baby
Preparing Sibling for the New Baby
Preparing the Parents for the New Baby
Arranging Help for Mom
If I Have a Baby Boy, Should He Be Circumcised?
5. How Much Regularity to Infant Feeding?
When a Mother Thinks About Going Back to Work
6. Beginning Solids
Which Solids, in What Order?
7. Poor Eaters
8. Common Physical Problems
Teething
Sneezing, Coughing, and Dripping … the Common Cold
Ear Infections
9. Stranger Anxiety
10. Transitional Objects
Thumb-sucking
11. Sleep Problems
Newborns
Six to Sixteen Months: Demanding and Walking
Naps: Six Months to Two Years
Co-sleeping: Children Sleeping in the Parents’ Bed
Bedtime Rituals
Bottle in the Bed: Age Six to Twenty-four Months
Separation Anxiety: Six Months to Six Years
12. Toilet Training
13. Discipline and Temper Tantrums: An Opportunity for Parent-Child Communication and Learning
Anger and Temper Tantrums
Physical Punishment
Humiliation, Shame, and Guilt
14. Can You Spoil a Child?
Index
Introduction
For nearly sixty years, from the 1940s to the end of the twentieth century, Dr. Benjamin Spock was the pediatrician to whom parents turned for guidance about a wide variety of child-rearing issues. The popularity of his first book, Baby and Child Care, brought national and international recognition to Dr. Spock for his sound, practical advice and gentle voice. It became the most widely read book on child care ever written.
Today, decades later, it is still the most respected parenting book in the world; and Dr. Spock’s other books have been equally celebrated. Although he is gone, millions of parents continue to consult
him by virtue of his writings. Why such popularity and success? I think there are three major reasons.
First, his range of subjects was comprehensive, addressing parents’ concerns about both physical health (for example, nutrition, safety, immunizations, early signs of illness, and home remedies) and psychological health (normal development, parent and sibling relationships, the different experiences of mothers and fathers, the effects of work outside the home on family life, and many others).
Second, a hallmark of his writing is that Dr. Spock spoke
to parents. Mothers and fathers often wrote to him with some variation of When I read your book, it is as if you are sitting at my kitchen table talking and listening to me.
His focus was always on the parent; he wrote with the assumption that parents are capable, wise, and open to understanding the development and needs of their children. Trust yourself
was a theme that guided all of his advice to parents.
The third reason, I believe, for the preeminent place Dr. Spock continues to hold among parents is his respect for change and diversity. He recognized that the way we raise children reflects a culture’s values, and that some of our values and perspectives on children and family change over time. Characteristically, he did not tell us the right way to do it.
He recognized the inherent value of diversity in families and communities. In every position he took, he respected that diversity.
This book derives from a series of articles published in two magazines, Redbook (1985-1992) and Parenting (1992-1998). The articles have been edited, catalogued, and published in two volumes.
Dr. Spock’s The First Two Years addresses the major concerns of new parents, from planning for the arrival of a new baby to problems with sleep, toilet training, and temper tantrums in the second year. The first chapter introduces the idea that babies have a remarkable ability to communicate with parents and others immediately after birth, and aims to improve our ability to respond to and interact with them. In the second chapter, Dr. Spock answers specific concerns raised by parents, from a floppy, misshapen head after birth to a baby’s breathing patterns, jaundice, spitting-up, and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
From his experience in pediatric practice, Dr. Spock recognized the importance of quality communication and trust between parents and a child’s doctor. In the section Choosing a doctor for your baby
he encourages both parents and doctors to work at building this alliance and provides some specific guidelines.
The next section is a how-to-guide that covers feeding (breast and formula feeding), baby equipment for the home, preparing the older sibling for the arrival of the new baby, and circumcision. Infant nutrition is then discussed in detail, followed by a section on teething, colds, and ear infections. In each case, Dr. Spock helps parents to see the emotional side of a new experience for a baby, from the introduction of solid foods and weaning from breast milk (or a bottle) to teething and colds.
Special attention is given to developmental events in the first two years that may have an impact on parent-child relationships, including the baby’s response to a stranger, the use of a comforter (including pacifiers and thumb sucking), sleep variations, and toilet training. The final chapters on discipline, temper tantrums, and spoiling explore perhaps the most challenging moments of parenting in the second year of life.
The second book, Dr. Spock’s The School Years, explores current trends in our society that affect families, including the effects of media violence on children and teens, parents’ work outside the home, child care, peer pressure, adolescent sexuality, and many more. The complete table of contents can be found at the end of this volume.
During the year prior to his recent death, Dr. Spock and I met several times each week. With his wife, Mary Morgan, he had moved from the colder climate of his beloved Maine to southern California, a more gentle climate at a time of declining health. Sitting in his patio surrounded by many plants, colorful flowers, a large aquarium and a canyon view covered with green chaparral, we talked about children. Together, we reviewed the seventh edition of Baby and Child Care. I was amazed at his enthusiasm. At ninety-four years of age, with a weakening physical body, he found the intellectual and emotional strength to engage and be engaged in a dialogue about ideas that remained important to him. Ways to encourage and sustain breast-feeding, eliminating the traditional use of powder for diaper rashes, aspects of his new recommendation for a vegetarian diet, and new approaches to problems with bed-wetting are just a few of the subjects we discussed. Dr. Spock’s thoughtful responses were consistently laced with his clinical experiences and the ideas and suggestions he gleaned from the many parents who wrote to him.
When I read the essays collected in this book I hear that voice. It is a voice that comes from an informed and thoughtful mind, a voice that speaks directly to parents—with confidence in your wish to be a