Whatsoever Things Are Lovely: Must-Have Accessories for God's Perfect Peace
By Rhonda Rhea
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Pure things, holy things . . . lovely things. These are the life "accessories" that are must-haves, says Rhea. And using Philippians 4:8-9 as a springboard, she takes women on a fun adventure infused with practical spiritual truth about how focusing on those things can lead to more fruitful, more blessed, and more peace-filled lives. Includes a discussion guide, making it great for small group Bible studies.
Rhonda Rhea
Rhonda Rhea has written numerous articles for HomeLife, Today's Christian Woman, Marriage Partnership, ParentLife, and many other publications. She can be heard on Focus on the Family weekend's magazine, and is the author of several books, including High Heels in High Places. Rhonda and her husband, Richie, live in Missouri with their five children.
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Whatsoever Things Are Lovely - Rhonda Rhea
WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE LOVELY
WHATSOEVER
THINGS ARE LOVELY
Must-Have Accessories for God’s Perfect Peace
RHONDA RHEA
© 2009 by Rhonda Rhea
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Rhea, Rhonda.
Whatsoever things are lovely : must-have accessories for God’s perfect peace /
Rhonda Rhea.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-8007-3252-3 (pbk.)
1. Christian women—Religious life. 2. Peace—Religious aspects—Christianity.
I. Title.
BV4527.R495 2009
248.8' 43—dc22 2009020395
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Portions of illustrations and Scripture applications have been adapted from the author’s columns in St. Louis MetroVoice, Inspire magazine (St. Louis), Living Light News (Canada), Sermon Illustrator
and Daily Wisdom
online devotionals, and the author’s e-newsletter or blog.
To my mom, Elizabeth Camille,
who openhandedly introduced me to the joy of
digging through her jewelry box,
and who openheartedly introduced me to the
True Giver of perfect peace.
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction: Keep Your Minds,
. . . and All These Blings Will Be Added unto You
Part 1 Keep your minds on whatever is true
1. Earbobs or Doorknobs? God’s Word Is True
2. Ruby-rooter Believing Lies Is a Peace Blocker
3. Cha-Ching Bling Quiet Time—the Why’s
4. Magnum Opal Quiet Time—the How’s
5. Supplementation of Ornamentation Quiet Time—Prayer
Part 2 Keep your minds on whatever is . . . pure
6. As the Ring Turns Guard against Emotion-Centered Life
7. Bling Radar Getting Rid of Sin, Living Honorably
8. When You’ve Seen One Enclosed Shopping Center, You’ve Seen a Mall Sin Results in Loneliness
9. Bling, Bling—Hello? No Peace with Guilt
10. Buttons and Boas Self-esteem vs. Others-esteem
Part 3 Keep your minds on whatever is . . . right
11. Is That a Necklace or a Disco Ball? Letting His Peace Rule
12. All That Glitters Is Not Bullion Becoming a Slave to Right
13. A Little Jaded What Living Right Does for Those Who See
14. Taking Our Accessories at Face Value The Value of Beauty, Self, Others
15. Shining Time Effervescing Hope, Wisdom
Part 4 Keep your minds on whatever is . . . holy
16. Ink-bling Surrendering in Obedience to Holy Living
17. Turn On the Bling God Is Holy
18. Looking at Life through Peace-Colored Glasses Holy Living/ Seeking Peace
19. The Accessory Pool Running from Sin, Standing for Christ, Denying the Flesh
20. The Long and Short of a Good Necklace Giving All, the Holy How-To’s
Part 5 Keep your minds on whatever is . . . friendly and proper
21. Accessory to the Crime Seeing through His Eyes
22. Bling It On Kindness/Serving Others/Giving
23. On Pearls and Swine Relationship Difficulties/Bitterness
24. Silver Lining When Someone Refuses Friendship, Peace at Any Cost?
25. Do Your Ears Hang Low? Our Words
Part 6 Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise
26. Bling-less in St. Louie Busyness
27. Keeps Me Blinging as I Go Stress
28. Virtual Gems Witnessing
29. Bling 911 Loving Things
30. Engineering the Earrings Laziness vs. the Peace of Purpose
Part 7 You know the teachings I gave you, and you know what you heard me say and saw me do. So follow my example.
31. Friend or Faux? Following the Example, Becoming the Example
32. Improper Gem Shopper Paul’s Example of Strength through Weakness
33. Accessing the Accessories Forgetting the Old and Following the New
34. Apparel Peril Difficulties
35. Using Sound Bling Judgment Resting/Following
Part 8 And God, who gives peace, will be with you
36. To Bead or Not to Bead God Is the Author of Peace
37. High Society Anxiety Worry
38. Sparkle and Spit-Shine Fear
39. On Ring Grips and Mixed Dips Real Security
40. Bling the Bells of Heaven Knowing Jesus
Notes
Discussion Guide
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
As ever and always, big, blinging thanks to my hubby/hero, Richie Rhea, for being such a shining example of the peace of Christ and for unwavering support, encouragement, and unconditional love and patience. How many husbands could resist making fun of a wife stressing over a book about peace?
Shining thank-yous to Andy Rhea (www.andyrheamusic.com), Jordan Rhea, Kaley Rhea, Allie Rhea, and Daniel Rhea for love, encouragement, inspiration—and for just being all-around wonderful people. Your love for Jesus, your amazing talents, and your sweet spirits bring great peace and joy to my blessed-mama heart!
More thanks to my faithful prayer team—what wonderful warrior women! Keeping this project bathed in prayer has been a big task and an inestimable investment. Humble, sincere thank-yous to Janet Bridgeforth, Tina Byus, Diane Campbell, Mary Clark, Theresa East-erday, Chris Hendrickson, Melinda Massey, and Peanuts Rudolph. I cherish you all!
I so appreciate the help at every corner from my favorite agent of all time, Pamela Harty, who shares my heart for ministry, and from all those at The Knight Agency who help make it possible for me to do what I love to do.
How I appreciate gifted editor Jennifer Leep—a super editor and truly super person. Big thank-yous to all those who make up the talented team at the Revell division of Baker Publishing Group. Art, marketing, publicity, editorial—every team member is such a gift. Barb Barnes even makes copyediting a joy!
A huge nod of thanks goes to Joanne Sampl of Next-Step-Up Communications, whose techy contributions are always invaluable and whose ministry counsel, web design, and marketing help keep us up and running—and whose friendship is such a great blessing.
More head-bobs of thanks to my church family at Troy First Baptist Church for prayers and encouragement, and to Halo & Wings, our local Christian bookstore here in Troy, Missouri.
Much gratitude to the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, my heart-sisters who share support, knowledge, godly insights, and powerful prayers.
A personal thank-you to Peanuts Rudolph, assistant and friend, who not only faithfully prayed very specifically over this book, but knew exactly when to offer beautiful words of encouragement. I especially loved Peanuts’ spiritual spunk the day she called to tell me that while she was praying, she started giggling. She said it was because she was overjoyed at the thought that God had already finished this book. I confess that at that point I was just hoping he was using software compatible with mine. Then I remembered that I use Word,
and that made me giggle too. It was a great reminder to keep it all funneling through, filtered by, and reflected in and from HIS Word.
Which brings me to my truest, biggest debt of gratitude. It is ever reserved for my heavenly Father, the God of peace, and the God who gives peace. My heart is full of grateful appreciation to the God who proves again and again that he can truly use anyone. I’m so blessed to be one of his anyone
servants.
Finally, my friends, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper. Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise. You know the teachings I gave you, and you know what you heard me say and saw me do. So follow my example. And God, who gives peace, will be with you.
Philippians 4:8–9 CEV
INTRODUCTION
Keep Your Minds,
. . . and All These Blings Will Be Added unto You
Finally, my friends, keep your minds
No doubt I could start a support group for the chronically over-accessorized. Bows, baubles, and bangles—rings and things and all kinds of bling—I love to accessorize.
Hello, my name is Rhonda Rhea and I’m a bling-aholic. There’s a good reason I’ll never start that support group, though. Recovery programs don’t work for those who don’t want to recover. And I’m not anywhere near willing to leave the life of over-the-top accessorizing. Is it even possible to overembellish? Not in my bling-book.
Personally, I’m continually adding more and more baubles and bangles. It’s more than just the fact that you rarely have to say, Do these earrings make me look fat?
Accessories not only add that adorable extra something that gives just the right sparkle, but they’re also great smoke screens.
Cameo or Camo?
I’ll confess that now that I’ve hit the midlife mark, these days it’s not so much about accessorizing as it is camouflaging. Got things to hide? Add a little smoke-screen-sparkle here, a little diamond-decorated diversion there. In the immortal and sage words of Anita Renfroe in her book of the same title: If you can’t lose it, decorate it!
1 It’s a philosophy that helps with whatever you need to lose, as well as whatever may be sagging, bagging, or otherwise sinking slowly into the sunset.
I’ll just warn you that the midlife need for accessory misdirection hits rather suddenly. It’s like you get up one morning, glance in the mirror, and suddenly find a forest troll looking back at you. More than scary. You’d like to assume you’ve been magically transported to some enchanted woodland. But sadly, it’s real life. In real life, you have to decide what you’re going to do about that troll.
Trolling for Bling
Take it from me, a sister who’s been there, trolled that
: when you find the lumpy-bumpy hobgoblin in the mirror, don’t try to fight him. Trust me, trolls fight dirty. What do you do instead? You go trolling for bling.
Yes, you rifle through your jewelry box to find yourself a sparkly necklace or some other blindingly shiny, attention-grabbing piece. It’s a little bling that can hopefully create a glare up the face so brilliant that no one notices any imperfections. Just the right bling can be ideally misdirecting—a helpful thing when you’re talking trolls.
I say, instead of waiting for the troll to ask questions to see if you can pass over his bridge, take the lead. Distract him with earrings that are bigger than your head.
Misdirected Lives
Sadly, there’s an entirely different kind of misdirection: one of a soul living in utter chaos. It’s a misdirected life marked by varying combinations of discontentment, stress, fear, impurity, bitterness, frustration, unfruitfulness, selfishness, loneliness, confusion, discouragement, laziness, worry, or inconsistency—all the things that are the exact opposite of peace.
I’ve been blessed to meet women from one side of this country to the other. You might be surprised to find that most (not just some, but most) are struggling with at least one of the items in that peace-crushing list. And let me confess right here at the get-go that I’ve been there so many times, it’s downright embarrassing. All too often I’ve chosen to live without peace in a situation where peace was waiting for me—right there for the asking.
Would you be surprised to learn that many women say peace is their number one greatest need? Every woman does need peace. And every woman desires peace—I daresay, most would even give up some of their greatest treasures in this life to gain it. But so many find that it always seems devastatingly out of reach. How can that be?
Our natural bent is to reach for that peace in all the wrong directions— to reach for all the wrong things.
Reaching for the Right Accessories
Let’s get some perspective and reach in the right direction for just the right peace. Never mind the jewelry box. We can find the right peace as we understand what the Bible says about the true and lasting peace of God. When we’re looking for peace, there are certain life accessories
that are absolute must-haves. And we need to go after them whatsoever
it might cost us!
The Bible teaches that we wear
this life in Christ (take a look at the Colossians 3 passage at the end of this introduction). In Philippians 4:8–9, Paul gives the perfect complements to that outfit:
Finally, my friends, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly, and proper. Don’t ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise. You know the teachings I gave you, and you know what you heard me say and saw me do. So follow my example. And God, who gives peace, will be with you.
CEV
The Philippians 4 passage becomes our outline for keeping our minds on those things that bring us the genuine peace every woman needs. Have you ever done something goofy, then asked yourself the question, Where was my mind?
This passage gives us some specifics on just the right wheres
to put our minds— and where we need to keep them to experience the life-altering peace of God.
Have You Lost Your Mind?
Losing our minds? That’s easy. As a matter of fact, that happens to be one area where I have some pretty impressive expertise. But what can we do to keep
our mind instead of losing it? Keep your minds
actually means to focus and meditate on these lovely things. We’re instructed here to spend some focused think-time and some focused think-energy.
Did you notice that our focus passage begins with the finally
part of Paul’s revealing message to the Philippians on how to live in peace and joy? I might also add that it’s not his only finally
in his letter—I thought I was the only one who did that. But a finally
means that this is a summary of other important truths he’s taught. He’s pointing to this spot as a place to zero in. He wants his readers to walk away after reading the letter with this principle firmly under their belts—sparkly or not.
Searching through these verses, we can let the truths of Scripture zero us in on learning to keep our mind,
dwelling on the right things, those things that will bring peace. Let’s reach together for the perfect peace!
Ready, Set, Embellish!
Ready to spend some time basking in and dwelling on his peace? Slip off your shoes—and your dangly earrings—pull up a chair, get comfy, and have a peace-filled read.
Or perhaps peace is something that seems absolutely unattainable at this point in your life. Busyness, doubts, troubles, sin habits, bitterness, worry—there are so many potential peace zappers. Friend, don’t put this book down until you understand that the one and only way to peace is to look into the face of Christ. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith
(Heb. 12:2). We need to fix our eyes on him before we look to anyone or anything else, or there will be no peace in this life.
O Lord, may we fix our eyes on you. Will you take us on a journey through this book—a journey that leads us to a deeper and sweeter knowledge of and trust in you? As we seek peace, Lord, may we seek YOU. And as we seek you, I ask that you would grant a more complete peace than ever before—a life-altering, right-down-tothe-soul peace. I ask, Father, that you would meet the deepest soul-need of every person who picks up this book, all by your grace and your mercy. Thank you that you are the God of peace. All glory and honor to you!
Matthew 6:33 says, But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you
(NKJV). Need peace? Let’s seek him and his kingdom. All those other things? They’ll soon be just water under the troll bridge.
Do not lie to one another, for you have stripped off the old (unregenerate) self with its evil practices,
And have clothed yourselves with the new [spiritual self], which is [ever in the process of being] renewed and remolded into [fuller and more perfect knowledge upon] knowledge after the image (the likeness) of Him Who created it.
Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].
Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].
And above all these [put on] love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together completely in ideal harmony].
And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].
Colossians 3:9–10, 12–15 AMP
PART 1
KEEP YOUR MINDS ON WHATEVER IS TRUE
1
EARBOBS OR DOORKNOBS?
God’s Word Is True
Do you have a pair of earrings that looks more like a pair of doorknobs than a pair of earbobs? Gotta love those plus-size accessories. It’s a little embarrassing, however, to admit that I have some earrings that are bigger and jinglier than a janitor’s key ring. These are the kinds of earrings that are not so much worn as they are hauled. If the dimensions of a pair of earrings get too close to the measurements of the mud