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    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide: How Forgiveness can Transform Your Marriage
    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide: How Forgiveness can Transform Your Marriage
    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide: How Forgiveness can Transform Your Marriage
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    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide: How Forgiveness can Transform Your Marriage

    By Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

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    Did you know that spiritual, emotional, physical, and relational exhaustion lead to anger? And unresolved anger leads to sin. All couples deal with anger and how they respond (stuff it, spew it, or study it), can make all the difference in their relationship and in their lives. In From Anger to Intimacy, Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham explore this often maligned and God-given emotion that, unless dealt with, can strip us of everything we love.

    Now couples can learn the skills to:

    -resolve conflict, hurt, and pain in a healthy way
    -master their internal buttons so as to overcome feelings of anger, frustration, and rage
    -use five specific tactics to deal with anger and rage when they rear their ugly heads
    -walk in the freedom God intends by learning the three essentials of forgiveness and five keys to nurturing a forgiving spirit
    -craft the perfect apology
    -remove the roadblocks to forgiveness once and for all
    -break sexual addiction and heal after an affair
    -and find answers to big questions about anger and forgiveness in their marriage
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBaker Publishing Group
    Release dateJan 2, 2009
    ISBN9781441225740
    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide: How Forgiveness can Transform Your Marriage
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    Gary Smalley

    Gary Smalley es presidente y fundador de Smalley Relationship Center. Realiza congresos en todo el país y ofrece recursos para familias e iglesias familiares. Se han vendido más de seis millones de copias de sus libros en todo el país. La Bendición y Las dos caras del amor han sido ganadores del premio «Angel» por: Mejor contribución a la vida familiar.

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      Churches, small group leaders, Family Ministers - this one is worth the $99.00 price tag. I must say hats off to Gospel Light for producing a cost effective, all-inclusive kit! This one has the Leaders Guide, Hardcover book, DVD and not one but SIX study guides! This is a deal that absolutely can not be beat anywhere. Most kits do not include the six study guides or a hardcover book and cost over $100.00.Look past the title - do not let pride mislead you - this is a must read - we ALL of buttons that can be pushed! This book is highly convicting to those seeking Christ's direction and sharpening in their lives. It exposes the very sin nature of acting on unrighteous anger - and all of us do it - is is our fleshly first instinct and must be brought under control of the Holy Spirit. I have quickly become a fan of these two authors and now own many of their most recent works thanks to being able to review them for the publisher. This one is no less impressive than the first - I have already handed it out to others I know. In addition to this incredibly insightful book this kit comes with the equally great study guides. These challenge couples to take a close look at their individual issues with anger. I know some people think they don't have any anger issues - after all you don't blow up and throw a screaming tantrum or throw stuff across the room - that's an anger problem isn't it? But what about pouting, or running away from the issue. We all have buttons that get pushed, secret insecurities, hidden hurts. This study guide and DVD explores these issues and challenges couples to face these things and overcome them - leading to a more fulfilling marriage!Thank you Gospel Light for this review copy!
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      Churches, small group leaders, Family Ministers - this one is worth the $99.00 price tag. I must say hats off to Gospel Light for producing a cost effective, all-inclusive kit! This one has the Leaders Guide, Hardcover book, DVD and not one but SIX study guides! This is a deal that absolutely can not be beat anywhere. Most kits do not include the six study guides or a hardcover book and cost over $100.00.

      Look past the title - do not let pride mislead you - this is a must read - we ALL of buttons that can be pushed! This book is highly convicting to those seeking Christ's direction and sharpening in their lives. It exposes the very sin nature of acting on unrighteous anger - and all of us do it - is is our fleshly first instinct and must be brought under control of the Holy Spirit. I have quickly become a fan of these two authors and now own many of their most recent works thanks to being able to review them for the publisher. This one is no less impressive than the first - I have already handed it out to others I know.

      In addition to this incredibly insightful book this kit comes with the equally great study guides. These challenge couples to take a close look at their individual issues with anger. I know some people think they don't have any anger issues - after all you don't blow up and throw a screaming tantrum or throw stuff across the room - that's an anger problem isn't it? But what about pouting, or running away from the issue. We all have buttons that get pushed, secret insecurities, hidden hurts. This study guide and DVD explores these issues and challenges couples to face these things and overcome them - leading to a more fulfilling marriage!

      Thank you Gospel Light for this review copy!

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    From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide - Gary Smalley

    © 2009 Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham

    Published by Revell

    a division of Baker Publishing Group

    P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287

    www.revellbooks.com

    Revell edition published 2014

    ISBN 978-1-4412-2574-0

    Previously published by Regal Books

    Ebook edition originally created 2012

    All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.

    Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.

    All Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House. All rights reserved.

    Contents

    Introduction

    SESSION ONE

    Anger: Stuff, Spew or Study

    Chapters 1–2 in From Anger to Intimacy

    SESSION TWO

    Personal Responsibility and Emotions

    Chapters 3–5 in From Anger to Intimacy

    SESSION THREE

    The Spirit of Forgiveness

    Chapter 6 in From Anger to Intimacy

    SESSION FOUR

    Crafting the Perfect Apology

    Chapter 7 in From Anger to Intimacy

    SESSION FIVE

    Roadblocks to Forgiveness

    Chapter 8 in From Anger to Intimacy

    SESSION SIX

    Forgiving the Difficult, Addicted or Cheating Spouse

    Chapters 9–12 in From Anger to Intimacy

    Leader’s Guide

    Introduction

    The From Anger to Intimacy Study Guide is designed to be used in conjunction with the From Anger to Intimacy book and DVD. Whether you partake of the study with your spouse, a small group or during a church seminar, we encourage you to share what you’re learning with those closest to you! Talk about the questions and Scripture passages with your spouse, friends and any mentors. As you grow closer to God and to your spouse as you work through the study, don’t be shy about sharing the good news of what God is doing in your life.

    Each section begins with an introductory section, For Starters, followed by some open-ended questions designed to get the discussion going. After you complete this section, you’ll want to watch the DVD and see Gary and Ted share their thoughts and insights on the material. Then, it’s time for the main Study and Discussion. You’ll want to keep your Bible nearby. There are lots of great Scriptures and questions to reflect on and discuss. Finally, you’ll have the opportunity to put what you are learning into practice by selecting at least one of three Put It into Practice options before you begin the next session.

    Our hope and prayer for you is that God will use this study to awaken new levels of communication, understanding and forgiveness in your relationship with your spouse and that you will discover the marriage you never thought possible!

    Session 1

    Anger: Stuff, Spew or Study

    Chapters 1–2 in From Anger to Intimacy

    For Starters

    While I (Ted) have an amazing relationship with my wife, Amy, there are still times when we misunderstand each other. Those moments always lead to tension. Sometimes, particularly if my feelings are hurt, I will express anger. It may be something small like a misunderstanding about something I asked her to do; or worse, something she asked me to do, and because of my forgetfulness, I left it undone. In those moments, I am really mad at myself; but all too often the first person I take it out on is my wife.

    Over the past few years, both Amy and I have really begun to be students of our anger. We don’t want to stuff the anger away, because we know it will rear its ugly head later. And we don’t want to spew out awful words that can never be taken back. Instead, we want to live together in a way that is God-honoring and builds each other up. That means that when tensions flare, we need to look at the source of the misunderstanding. We need to look at the circumstances of what caused the situation if we’re going to avoid it in the future.

    Studying our anger has been one of the most powerful tools that Amy and I have used in our marriage to build intimacy. It has forced us to examine our hearts. Instead of spending our time and energy stuffing anger or spewing it, we focus on studying it and finding a solution. Why does this matter so much? Because stuffing or spewing anger is a waste of emotional, mental and spiritual energy. These reactions open the door of our hearts to unhealthy things like unforgiveness, bitterness and cynicism. And those are doors that all of us should keep shut.

    When anger grips either Amy’s or my heart, it causes us to step away from each other and feel disconnected; this naturally undermines the intimacy of our relationship. That’s why I need to be proactive to study and prayerfully consider what causes our anger. We want to feel close to each other and have the best possible marriage. We have a hunch that you do too! That’s why, over the course of this study, we’ll help you dive into the issue of anger and how you can resolve conflicts and tensions in your marriage relationship.

    Think of several small things people can do that get on your nerves. In the space below, make a list of three pet peeves.

    Now take a moment to study the pet peeves you listed. Why do these specific things bother you? Is there a history or background story to why they are bothersome? Explain.

    How does listening to your spouse’s pet peeves and the reasons behind them, and your spouse’s listening to your pet peeves, help you both feel more understood? Why is understanding each other so important for a healthy relationship?

    Introduction to DVD

    Everyone experiences anger from time to time; anger is a God-given emotion. It’s even possible for anger to be expressed for healthy reasons. To know the difference between healthy anger and unhealthy anger, you need to study it. In this first lesson, we’ll explore how anger is a secondary emotion, not a primary one. You’ll begin to discover how you can better deal with the anger that pops up in your own marriage and life. Let’s watch as Gary and Ted introduce this idea.

    Discussion and Study

    It’s important to recognize that anger in and of itself is not a bad thing. Anger is a God-given, God-designed emotion. In fact, God feels anger too! But what you do with your anger determines its impact on your spiritual, mental and emotional health.

    Can you think of any situations in which anger is a healthy response?

    One healthy expression of anger is toward evil. If you cannot feel anger toward evil, then it stands to reason that you do not love what is good. In other words, there are some things that it’s okay to get angry about, like oppression of people and injustice.

    Nehemiah’s Righteous Anger

    This kind of anger was demonstrated in the life story of Nehemiah. As he listened to the outcry

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