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    Random Thoughts
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    Random Thoughts

    By Hiranya Borah

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    HIRANYA BORAH’S RANDOM THOUGHTS AND FACTS THROUGH A COLOURED PRISM is book on thoughts, not necessarily completely new nor will give any new philosophy towards life. Some fictional narrations, mixed with real experiences, are also covered in the book to see human relations from different angles of life. But most of these articles are prepared like new packaging by small grocers, from big packets bought from large farms/ whole sellers. Readers may not find anything new in it- it is packed with ‘everything is known to us’ syndrome. Stories and sub-stories are written as if these are told to a group of friends after third or fourth peg of whisky away from family members.
    Some of the articles are fresh looks from author’s point of view. Every point of view made by the author in these articles may be debated. However, the stories in the name of Kanak are based on true encounters which are either faced by the Author himself or by a very closely related person, either, male or female. Names are changed; situations are deliberately away from reality to avoid un-necessary controversy. In many of the stories, name of the story teller is given and other characters are not given any name even.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHiranya Borah
    Release dateJun 4, 2014
    ISBN9781311730886
    Random Thoughts
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    Hiranya Borah

    Born in a teachers' family in a village of Assam, a province of India, Borah started his journey of writing at a tender age of eleven. He published two novels in Assamese language and other fictional and non-fictional stories in Assamese periodicals during his college days. Then Borah almost stopped his literary activity for more than three decades. In the meantime he became a Gender specialist.However,so far, he has published more than one hundred and sixty five books on this platform in English and one book in Hindi within a span of five years. The books are on different topics like inspiration,romance and love, humour, ghosts, suspense thriller, children etc and those are written both in prose and poetry.Eight English and two Assamese books are also available in printed form. 2nd edition of his first book, 'Random Thoughts' is also in the public domain.

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      Random Thoughts - Hiranya Borah

      Preface

      All the new articles presented in this edition are already published as ebooks on the Smashwords platform.

      The articles do not carry any new thoughts nor give any new philosophy towards life. Underlying philosophy of the articles are like new packaging by small grocers, from big packets bought from large farms/ whole sellers. Readers will not find anything new philosophy in it. Stories and sub-stories are written lighter vein as if these are told to a group of friends after third or fourth peg of whisky. The stories are independent of each other and based on my own experiences, real experiences encountered by my friends and some fictional thoughts. They are not arranged in a particular order and placed randomly as the title of the book suggests.

      By criticizing and praising my posts in FB, many of my friends, directly or indirectly encouraged me to publish my e-books and now a few printed versions of those books, for which, I shall be always thankful to them. I am also thankful to my lovely wife (Mrs. Monalisha) for her non-ending criticism of my writings.

      I am the opportunity to express my gratitude to my parents, brothers, sisters, friends, foes and teachers for their support for developing my personality, good or bad depending upon the perspective of the person who is looking at me. I am also thankful to my children, Anusuya, Ayusman, Anwesha, Avneet (spiritual daughter) and Deepika (spiritual daughter) for their costant encouragement and support. Last but not the least, I shall be remain thankful to Shri Radhakrishna Rao for his wonderful cover page.

      Finally, I am thankful to Smashwords for publishing the replica of the printed book in their platform.

      Hiranya Borah

      Chapter: 1

      On Saying ‘I Love You’

      Let me ask all my friends, ‘How many of you actually used the three magical words, I love you, to someone you love?’

      I am not asking how many of you have told these words to your GF/BF/spouse, I am asking how many of you have told these magical words to your old parents/grandparents/uncle/aunt/ old servant recently.

      Probably, a very few of you have told these words in the last 24 hours to any of the persons in the group stated above. Some more will be added in the list if time period is extended to one month.

      Many of us probably ceased to think that those people are in the list of our love ones. I am not blaming any one of you. I am only trying to share some of my experiences on this issue.

      I hugged my father for the last time in 1989 when my son was born. My father died in 1997. That means, I did not hug him for the last 8 years of his life. Now, whenever, my son/daughter hugs me, I feel very happy and also feel a pain in the bosom of my heart thinking what I had deprived my father few happy moments for the last 8 years of his life before his death.

      For the last time, I put my arms around my mother in March, 2005 when she was critically ill. Unfortunately, I could not even put my head down on her lap when she died in May, 2005 as I could not reach my village before her cremation.

      But I still vividly remember the last hug I made to her. She pressed her chest to my face and did not allow me to take my face away for long five minutes or so. At the time of her death, none of us (my brother and sister) was present beside her. She fought her last battle of life all alone. We justify our actions with some good or bad reasons. However, at the back of the mind, I always think, she would have survived few more months had I been with her.

      Why I am writing this after so many years? I missed an opportunity to make my parents happier.

      Please, please do not miss the opportunity to tell ‘Hey, old buddy/old sweetheart, I love you, I care for you’ before it is too late to realize what you are going to miss in your life forever.

      Chapter: 2

      Happiness is only a phone call away

      All of us are experienced, at least once in a month, waiting anxiously for a phone call from someone, may be, for different reasons. We always see the mobile phone, again and again, thinking, why it is not ringing or whether I have missed the call by not hearing the sound of the ring. We use to check the apparatus whether it is ok or not. Finally, when we get the call, we are happy/ relaxed or may be anything.

      However, all those activities what we are doing, knowing well that the phone call will come only when the caller will make the call. The caller will decide when to call to the person who is anxiously waiting for the call. The receiver has no control over it.

      Sometimes, we think, we shall not receive the call to show our unhappiness/annoyance for the late call- but finally we pick up, knowing that we want the call more than the caller, who happens to be the decision maker.

      All parents of my age (50 plus), experience many times the anxiety of not picking up phones by your children despite of repeated phone calls. Sometimes, you may have to call his/her friends/colleagues to know about his/her wellbeing. After, calling to his/her friends, you may sometimes get a good verbal thrashing from your ward. But you will do the same mistake again and again to ease out your anxiety.

      But your wards, are cool with the following probable answers: i) I forgot to carry the phone; ii) lack of charge in battery; iii) I was in a meeting and so on. Despite of the verbal thrashing or the apparent lie on their part, once you got the phone call, you become very happy and relaxed.

      Now, consider the people, who are around 20 year’s senior to us in age (70 plus). They also want to hear from us, something on regular basis. On the other hand we may be extremely busy (at least mentally) with our routine duties including calling our children in time, attending phone calls from our boss/client/colleague/spouse/GF/BF.

      Let us ask this question to ourselves, ‘Can we not spare two minutes a day to call our parents and other elderly ones who are waiting for our calls every day looking at the mobile/land line phone from morning to till midnight and even during the sleep break also who check the phone whether phone is properly placed or working properly so that any call from you is not missed?’

      Probably many of us are not mentally prepared to spare those two minutes a day. But, yes we can do it with some planning. Fix a time, may be after your dinner, to call your elderly near and dear one, every day. Once you are accustomed with the timing, you are unlikely to forget to call him/her.

      My humble submission is to all of those who are not calling their elderly dear ones, please spare two minutes and make them happier so that he/she can also boast to his friends/relatives that my son/daughter/nephew/niece telephones me every day. Your little effort and small spending on telephone will make your dear ones happier, which in turn make you also happier.

      Chapter: 3

      Try to smile when you are even in pain

      Earlier it was boasted that only human being can smile and that is why it is precious. But now scientists find that even animals and plants can smile when they are happy. Smile is always contiguous like any other moods of any living being. You always try to see a smile on the face of your love one. Even when you are in trouble/pain you try to be in good mood in front of your love ones so that they are not unduly worried about your wellbeing.

      But can we smile to a stranger? We advise our young ones not to mingle or not be very friendly to unknown persons. In public places like metro stations, through public announcement systems also, we normally hear that ‘Do not be friendly to the strangers’.

      These types of announcement/ cautions are necessary, considering the law and order situation in the country. But, if we close all the doors for all the strangers, we shall close doors for development of new friendship as well. Probably, that will be contrary to our earlier teachings to make friend all over the world. Personally, I make lot of new friends (you may call them as new acquaintances only) during the last few years who happened to be totally strangers to me and interestingly nobody had introduced me to them and vice versa. I proudly say that some of them are now good friends of mine and glad to inform you that they are from across the globe. However, one common observation I had made in all of them, all of them have smiling faces.

      Is smile so important in life? Is smiling face is an indication of timidity? Is it deceptive for others whom he/she wants to flinch? All these questions are coming out of our own experiences. As the answers are also coming out of our own experiences, we have to deal with all these smiling faces differently.

      An innocent smile of a toddler can make you happy at any time. However, we must admit, every smile sends you a different messages, if it emanates from different personalities. Even for the same person, context of smile may be different. A lion, may also smile, when a zebra is approaching to its striking distance. Same lion may also smile when he is approached by his cubs or when a lioness approaches for sex. Even it is said about some bosses, ‘Today boss is smiling and therefore grave danger is looming ahead of us’.

      When and why we are worried to see smile on some person’s face- I need not have to explain. As our mythology says ‘Smile of Mahakaal (God of death) is the most dangerous indication for any living being as that is the last smile- one is destined to see.’

      How do you feel about a plastic smile? When an airhostess welcomes you into her aircraft or a model on the ramp with a smile, nobody finds any warmth in it. But when you see a similar smile from a neighbor, your mercury level may shoot up in excitement, depending upon his/her relations with you and depending upon his/her earlier records. For example, if he/she asks for a favour after every smile, you will be worried and on the other hand, if he/she gives a lift, you will be more than happy.

      Unfortunately, smile on the others face cannot be controlled by you. So keep smiling always! Let the other person interpret your smile!

      This article is dedicated to one of my maternal aunts who just one hour before her death at around 6 in the morning told me with a sweet smile, ‘Go home my child, take bath, take breakfast and take a nap before coming to hospital again’.

      Chapter: 4

      Learn to hear a ‘No’…

      While Saying ‘I love You’

      Recently a highly educated boy of a very reputed university attacked a lady classmate with sharp weapons who refused to love him. He also committed suicide after committing the crime. This is not a ‘one off example’.

      Every day, it is happening all over the country. Every day, one spurned lover either throws acid on the face of lady whom he claims to love or stabs her. As per statistics provided by the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), Ministry of Home Affairs, Government of India, in 2012, there were 24923 rape cases, 45351 cases of Assault on women with intent to outrage her modesty and 9173 cases of insult to modesty of woman. These are only recorded cases against women. There may be lot of unrecorded cases where women are victims.

      Why women are targeted? Why a spurned lover attacks a lady whom he apparently loves? These are generic questions. But let me concentrate on those cases where spurned lovers attack their loved ones. The moot question, can anybody harm a person whom he/she actually loves? Perhaps, that is not possible. Then, can we call it as an aberration to drive a divine activity to a heinous crime? Perhaps yes, that may be one of the plausible answers.

      Before going to a serious discussion on the issue, let me introduce a friend who looks ‘love’ in his own perspective. During his college days, he claims, he proposed, each and every beautiful girl of our class. In his own words, none of those classmates had accepted his proposal. But all the girls, now all are middle aged women are good friends of him. According to him, to love somebody is his prerogative, whereas acceptance or rejection was her (their) prerogative. He claims that even now he proposes beautiful girls/women, with same results. However, in the process he has a big pool of beautiful girls/women as his friends. His wife is also pretty confident that none of the female friends will ever be GF of her husband. None of his women friends have any grudge against him for proposing the other women as well or even their husbands have any bad feeling about him. He claims, I also personally feel that he may be speaking the truth, he has lot of respect for all those ladies whom he once proposed and also respect for their decisions to reject his proposals. When asked, if any of them would have accepted his proposal, would he stopped proposing another one, his answer is emphatic ‘no’.

      Now let us come to the serious part of the problem. While a man proposes a girl/ woman whom he loves, he has to muster a lot of courage- (assuming that girls/women normally will not propose). But only a brave man has the courage to hear a ‘no’ and respect the decision of the girl/woman whom he loves. A brave man will never hurt the sentiment of the girl/woman and he will always be helpful to the girl/woman knowing fully well that she will never be with him or she will never love him.

      In this world, unfortunately, there are very few extremely brave people like Temuc(s)in, Bidhan Chandra who can digest the rejection of someone whom they actually love, and made those painful moments to build inner strength to do something to their community/country/race or as a whole for the mankind.

      Though everyone cannot be like those well-known personalities of history, there may be many unsung heroes in different fields, about whom we may know very little or nothing at all. However, they are also hero of their own right. Similarly there may be thousand brave persons after getting a rejection, they may excel in one field or other field(s) which may be unknown to others. Those brave persons may also be happy with their life partners and also faithful to them all their lives. They may not shed tears for the girl once he loved.

      On the other hand, what a coward will do after getting a rejection from a lady whom he thinks, he loves? He may put himself in to a cocoon, which he has made to destroy himself. Alternatively, he may physically or mentally or socially harm the lady whom he once loved. Unfortunately, there may be many more cowards than the number of brave people. That is why crime graph against women are going northwards.

      It is a fact that most of the Indian families do not discuss about personal life of self or about their children amongst themselves. To be more precise, we do not share our experiences- bad or good with our children to avoid embarrassments- if any; forget about discussing about love affairs etc.

      However, now it is felt that time has come, at least we should realize that we all have the social obligation to teach our children in general, and sons, in particular to be brave enough to muster the courage to hear a ‘No’ not only in the fields of education/ job market but also in the world of ‘love’. They should be taught that loving someone may be their decisions but to be loved by someone, is the decision of someone else. They should be taught to respect others’ decisions and take those decisions with humility. They should be taught that every one may not get back equal love from the other party. Even he/she who has rejected you, may be in the same position where you are at this juncture (they may also be spurned by others!)! Therefore, there is no embarrassment for a refusal from someone you love, nor, it will demean your masculinity/ personality/ or your position in the society.

      So be brave, take a ‘No’ into your own stride and try to welcome a new friend. Who knows, the new friend may be qualitatively far better than the one, who has rejected you.

      As mature persons we may also teach our daughters how to react to an unwanted proposal to avoid confrontation. A girl also should respect the sentiment of a person who proposes to her. One should remember that, success of a person depends upon his/ her saying a ‘No’ to a proposal. How to say a ‘no’ depends upon the situation under what condition,

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