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    Intimacy and Disability
    Intimacy and Disability
    Intimacy and Disability
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    Intimacy and Disability

    By Joseph P. Badame

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    A search of books being published will disclose an abundance of works depicting fantasy intimacy, sex if you will, of all types. The public apparently shows great interest in these titles and they sell quite well or else there would not be such a plethora of these works. Yet despite this bounty of fictional books on sex and intimacy there are few about real intimacy other than text books. Furthermore, works that attempt to cover the subject of intimacy as it relates to disability seem to be almost non-existent. I must agree, that it not an easy topic to discuss. But, for something so important and prevalent today, the scarcity is most baffling and troubling.
    Because of this phenomenon, millions of couples are left to fend for themselves in dealing with this most disrupting problem. You might assume that the issue is thoroughly covered in the institutional rehabilitation of the person afflicted with the disability. Therefore, books covering the subject are not necessary. In reality, the subject is ignored. It is as if it doesn’t exist. This preoccupation and interest with intimacy and sex that is everywhere when we are able-bodied seem to suddenly disappear when a person becomes disabled. I find this most disheartening.
    At least in the case of my dear wife, the subject was not breeched at all in the course of the rehabilitation routine after her stroke. As a result, we novices had to attempt to figure it out ourselves among life-threatening circumstances. Were we successful? My dear, a master teacher, would probably give me a C+ grade – not good enough for the love of my life. But, my hope in writing this account is that it will instigate some interest on the part of professionals and serve as a caution to those in like circumstances. It is a short, easy read with a touch of “wisdom” to mix in with some of the fantasy for a change – and it’s free.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherJoseph P. Badame
    Release dateJan 6, 2015
    ISBN9781310229398
    Intimacy and Disability
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    Joseph P. Badame

    Joseph Badame is a retired architect living in New Jersey. He is spending his remaining years working on projects to honor his late wife who was a master teacher. This book is one of his endeavors to pay tribute to her memory.

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      Intimacy and Disability - Joseph P. Badame

      Copyright © 2015 by Joseph P. Badame

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      Written by

      Joseph P. Badame

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      This eBook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This eBook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to your favorite eBook retailer and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Book design by Joseph P. Badame

      I find my tired mind meandering as I age,

      Contemplating my departure from life’s lonely stage.

      Embracing yesterday with fondness, rebuffing tomorrow with dismay,

      The present most often blurs, and becomes that yesterday.

      My thoughts reside in the year of fifty-seven,

      That glorious moment we found each other in our everlasting heaven.

      But now that she is gone, never to return,

      Awaiting our reunion, my broken heart will yearn

      The love of my life

      Dedicated to the memory of

      Phyliss Marie Crudo Badame

      August 28, 1927 – October 29, 2013...)

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      INTIMACY and DISABILITY

      This is a delicate, but necessary subject, one that no one seems to want to address, before or after an illness or disability.

      I am not sure what makes me think I can address it, but I feel I need to try. Maybe the fact that I truly believe that Phyliss is guiding this authorship, is what gives me some confidence that I can cast some light on the topic. I hope it can be helpful to you or someone you care about.

      Please be aware that success in managing this aspect of a disability must be tailored to the individual, her spouse, and the nature and severity of the disability. No combinations of those factors will be the same.

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