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    The Ultimate Wife
    The Ultimate Wife
    The Ultimate Wife
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    The Ultimate Wife

    By Richmond Donkor

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    What makes a woman a dream wife? Is it her appearance, her Career, her wealth, her fame, her spiritual life, her Social life, and her talents? I do believe with all my heart that every woman can be a dream wife. Men and women who marry usually love each other deeply, but that love too often transforms into anger and frustration, which leads in turn to separation and divorce. In such cases, something in the relationship was amiss—some problem that ought to have been prevented or addressed in order to establish a happy home.

    If God leads you down the path of marriage, however, then you must approach the matter in all seriousness. Finding and choosing the person who will complete your life, and joining that person in holy matrimony, is no trifling affair; it requires preparation and direction. Entering into a marriage is like starting a lifelong journey. To successfully face challenges, reach your intended destinations, and enjoy the many other experiences that you will share along the way, you need spiritual, emotional, psychological, physical, and material preparation.

    Whether you are married yet or not, this book will help women to understand how to be good wives—and men to be good husbands. Husbands and wives alike should also pray for each other to be good spouses. Of course, if you are currently unmarried, this book will better prepare and enable you to find the ultimate wife—your dream wife.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRichmond Donkor
    Release dateFeb 9, 2015
    ISBN9781502229199
    The Ultimate Wife
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    Richmond Donkor

    Richmond is Author, self-development coach, Evangelist, Pastor, teacher, motivational speaker and philanthropist. He is the author of 3 steps to Overcome Poverty, The Call With Promise; Failure Is Not Defeat, How to Evangelize With Confidence, The Ultimate Wife, The Ultimate Husband and The Ultimate Dream Family. Richmond has been preaching, teaching, training, and planting churches in South-East Asia and currently he is the associate pastor at the Restored House Chapel Ministries in Vancouver, Canada. He enjoys reading, writing, praying, and singing praises and worship songs. Learn more about him from his website: 

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      The Ultimate Wife - Richmond Donkor

      INTRODUCTION: It’s Not Easy

      Afriend of mine introduced me to a song, by Lucky Dube, called It’s Not Easy. The lyrics took me aback with their insight into a root cause of the trouble that afflicts many marriage—lack of advance knowledge about the other person’s true character.

      This song contrasts the excitement that generally accompanies a young couple’s decision to get married with the cautionary advice of a concerned parent. When two people decide to marry, most friends and relatives express excitement for that decision. Others, often including spiritual mentors like parents and pastors, may also harbor reservations about the readiness of the couple or the suitability of the match. When people are in love, however, they tend to become blind to each other’s faults or incompatibilities until vows are already exchanged.

      The lyrics of It’s Not Easy speak to the dishearteningly common consequences of such blindness:

      I remember the day I called mama on the telephone

      I told her mama I’m getting married, I could hear her voice

      On the other side of the telephone, she was smiling

      And she asked me a question that I proudly answered

      She said, Son did you take time to know her?

      I said mama she’s the best but today it hurts me so

      To go back to mama and say mama I’m getting divorced

      Oh I’m getting divorced

      This choice I made didn’t work out

      The way I thought it would...

      I remember in church, when the preacher read the scriptures

      You looked so beautiful and innocent

      I did not know that behind that beauty

      Lies the true colours that will destroy me in the near future...

      Oh Lord I’m hurting now...

      (by Lucky Philip Dube, Warner/Chappell Music, from MetroLyrics, emphasis added)

      The question that the speaker’s mother asks him on the telephone—Son did you take time to know her?—is not an unusual question for a mother to ask her son when he finds a women he wants to marry. More knowledge early in a relationship can avoid conflict, heartache, and grief later on.

      A good mother wants her son to find a wife who possesses qualities similar to her own. Like the speaker in the song, men reply with full assurance and confidence in our choice. However, in most cases, they have no idea what they are getting into.

      Mothers want to protect not only their sons but also the women involved, for a mother tends to feel partly responsible whenever unhappiness or divorce afflicts her child’s marriage. A divorce hurts everyone, including the families of both husband and wife. In such cases, blame is cast about liberally; but in all fairness, a man must reconsider the question: Did you take time to know her?

      People often ask me why divorce has become rampant in our society. Although people decide to end their marriages for many different reasons, a fundamental cause of divorce is that we don’t take time to know each other before we get married. Getting to know another person is a profound and complex process, which we will explore in this book. For you to know your potential spouse adequately, you must plan carefully and consider many different factors.

      Most men desire to marry and have children someday. Others shy from marriage because of the process and the preparation involved. Proper preparation, however, leads to proper performance. Preparation is crucial to everything we do in life, and most relationships that suffer inordinately do so because of a poorly laid foundation. Most of the preparation that precedes marriages nowadays concerns the wedding and other ephemeral matters, which are unrelated to the growth and maintenance of a healthy, lasting relationship.

      Men and women who marry usually love each other deeply, but that love too often transforms into anger and frustration, which leads in turn to separation and divorce. In such cases, something in the relationship was amiss—some problem that ought to have been prevented or addressed in order to establish a happy home.

      Marriage requires a man to find a woman who is fit to become a proper wife, both in general and for him in particular. He must consider and contemplate his choice carefully. Finding a good wife proves overly challenging for many men, who complain that they can’t find a woman who truly understands them. Oftentimes, men fail to distinguish between a pleasant woman and a proper wife. Moreover, no amount of outward beauty can make someone a good wife, nor can any amount of money buy such a wife. Finding the right partner requires the grace of God.

      Having a family is important; as God saw from the beginning, mankind needs companionship. As Genesis 2:18 recounts, Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him (ESV). The word alone carries the idea of being isolated, removed from the company of others and separate from any larger whole. Therefore, getting married is a serious matter for your spiritual health and the wellbeing of your soul.

      Marriage Isn’t for Everyone

      Lest anyone who is single should get the wrong idea, however, realize that God’s will is not for every person to be married. Jesus had this to say about marriage:

      But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it."

      (Matthew 19:11-12 NKJV, emphasis in original)

      In this passage, Jesus clarifies that marriage is an option, not mandatory. Regardless of the comments that friends or family members may make about your love life, you can choose to marry or choose to remain single. In God’s eyes, marriage is best for some people; celibacy is best for others. Apostle Paul expressed this same idea when he said, For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that (1 Corinthians 7:7 NKJV).

      God works His plans through people in all manner of circumstances, and sometimes He determines that He can better use a person when he or she remains single. Paul explained to the Corinthians why this is so:

      But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.

      (1 Corinthians 7:32-33, NKJV, emphasis in original)

      Therefore, instead of obsessing over your difficulties in attracting a mate, or becoming upset with the Lord as a result, perhaps the correct response would be to realize that God might have a better plan for your life.

      Marriage with Purpose

      If God leads you down the path of marriage, however, then you

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