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    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed
    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed
    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed
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    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed

    By Harry Jay

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    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed: It is far easier to limit our examining of life’s missing keys to easy, comfortable places is a compelling book that goes to the heart of the human condition; a condition of attempting to understand why we seemingly only look to solve our problems in comfortable places and in these places, there are no answers. It is in the darkness where the answers reside and this book addresses life application, problem solving, problem solving strategies, problem of pain, problem based learning, letting go of the past and letting go of anger. It takes the reader on an adventure into their mind, demonstrating that what they seek – the answer to many of life’s dilemmas – is an easy task once you know where to find the answers. We are what we are in the dark; all the rest is reputation. What God looks at is what we are in the dark-the imaginations of our minds; the thoughts of our heart; the habits of our bodies, these are the things that mark us in God’s sight. Dr. Harry Jay is a behavior scientist at Applied Mind Sciences and has written numerous books on life application. His studies of the human mind and why you do the things you do are freely offered to his readers. This is a must read book and it is an adventure into the mind you will not soon forget.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDr. Leland Benton
    Release dateFeb 22, 2015
    ISBN9781310332340
    We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed
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    Harry Jay

    Dr. Harry Jay is Director of Research for AppliedMindSciences.com, a mental health and mind research group of Applied Web Info, and is the author of over 100 books and research papers as a behavioral scientist. In his 31-year career, Dr. Harry Jay has contributed many new mental health treatment treatments and protocols using some of the new advances he has discovered in Energy Psychology. He specializes in addictions of all kinds, sexual abuse, child predation and gender relationships. He is also a board member to ePubWealth.com and serves on the science committee assisting non-fiction science writers in book publishing and promotion. As a leading behavioral scientist, he provides profiling services to the company's ForensicsNation.com unit as well as criminal psychology research to aid in identifying and apprehending child predators and cyber-criminals of all kinds. He resides in Southern Utah and enjoys the outdoors, fishing and photography.

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      We Dream of the Perfect But Live in the Flawed - Harry Jay

      Introduction - Where the Light Is Strong

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      In science, there is only one element that is both energy and matter…only one.  It is called light!  Since light can be both energy and matter, it is without a doubt the most important element. 

      I once read an article that used light to prove God.  Christ is depicted as the Holy Spirit and as a member of the Trinity.  He manifested Himself in the flesh on earth; hence he is both energy and matter.  The Holy bible also tells us that Christ is the Light of this world.

      Here is an article by one of my most admired authors – Jill Carattini of RZIM Ministries that I think you will enjoy:

      A classic vaudeville routine begins with a pitch-black theater except for a large circle of light coming from a street lamp. In the spotlight, a man is on his knees, crawling with his hands in front of him, carefully probing the lighted circle. After a few moments a policeman walks on stage. Seeing the man on all fours, he poses the obvious question: Did you lose some­thing?

      Yes, the man replies. I have lost my keys.

      Kindly, the police officer joins the man’s search, and two figures now circle the lighted area on hands and knees.  After some time, the officer stops. Are you absolutely certain this is where you lost your keys?  We’ve covered every inch.

      Why no, the man replies matter-of-factly, pointing to a darkened corner. I lost them over there.

      Visibly shaken, the policeman exclaims, Well, then why in the name of all heaven are we looking for them over here?

      The man responds with equal annoyance: Isn’t that obvious?  The light is better over here!

      The classic comedy enacts a subtle point. It is far easier to limit our examining of life’s missing keys to easy, comfortable places. Like a modern parable, the story registers an illogic common to most. Searching dark and difficult corners—where the keys may have in fact been lost—is far less desirable.

      Somewhere between reading belittling headlines of a once-popular celebrity and hearing an open invitation to weigh-in on the latest political scandal, I wondered if the drama didn’t register something more. It is becoming increasingly difficult to avoid the signs that we live, particularly in the west, in a world of criticism. We are encouraged by all facets of the media to examine the flaws of everyone, to search for the scandal in every story, and to pour over everything that divides us, offends us, or otherwise differs from us in any way.

      But more than this, we are encouraged to opine and criticize regardless of whether we know anything about the subject or person whatsoever. Online news articles quite typically now have a section for comments where readers are invited to put their own remarks in writing. And comment they do. The long list of critics offers thoughts on anything from the topic, to the author, to things completely unrelated. Carrying this one step further, one online bookseller not only invites anyone to be an official book reviewer; they also invite anyone to comment on these comments, to vote on whether or not the reviewers themselves need to be critiqued. While I appreciate some of these services, the attitude they endorse seems so pervasive. Everyone is now a critic and an expert at once.

      And this is where the man in the drama seems unquestionably familiar. How easy is it to search where the light is strong, to examine the faults and scandals of others as if it were the best place to logically spend our time? As the light of the media shines on an individual or the light of gossip draws our attention like searchlights to a grand opening, how easy is it to declare this particular spot the place we will fully scrutinize? How readily do we prefer to be critics of those in the spotlight rather than fumble over our own flaws in the dark?

      In the Christian journey in the shadow of the God-Man, where some follow the darkened path of self-examination, it is helpful to know that Jesus was aware just how tempting is the option of the easier route. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own?… You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye (Matthew 7:3-4). The flaws we see in pop-stars, politicians, and co-workers may seem so startlingly clear to us. The critiques and opinions we can so readily offer about books and public scandal, internal gossip and things about which we actually know little all may seem innocent enough. But might there not be a better place to spend our energy searching? Maybe we are looking where the light is strong, but not where keys are really lost.

      An old proverb explains, The mocker seeks wisdom and finds none, but knowledge comes easily to the discerning. Perhaps this is true because the mocker spends his time searching the comfortable places of life, the easy targets where light and company will always be found. The difficult, dimly lighted places require much more of us, and often we are left to search on our own. But the discerning know that wisdom comes with the kind of seeking that pulls us mysteriously inward, into places where there is actually something to find, and before a merciful throne that compels transparency. Here, everyone who seeks finds, the lost themselves are discovered, and once dark corners of the soul are changed by the light of Christ.

      Jill Carattini is managing editor of Ravi Zacharias International Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia.

      *****

      So what does the above article truly mean?  What lesson(s) can we gather from Jill Carattini’s words?  Listen: The classic comedy enacts a subtle point. It is far easier to limit our examining of life’s missing keys to easy, comfortable places. Like a modern parable, the story registers an illogic common to most. Searching dark and difficult corners—where the keys may have in fact been lost—is far less desirable.

      We dream of the perfect but live in the flawed and this article addresses the fact that we are more comfortable looking to solve life’s problems where we feel safe – in the light – rather than search our dark and difficult corners where not only the problems reside but also the answers.

      We live in a society of consumerism and entertainment and within our current social fabric; it is easier to let other people do our thinking rather than our own.  We look for scandals and relish the fact that the rich and famous, the strong and the powerful, can be brought down to where we reside and maybe get a touch of reality.  Criticism is the rule of thumb; expressing our discontent has become the social norm.  Rather than look for solutions and answers; we prefer to relish in the pain and anguish that problems bring.  Somewhere between reading belittling headlines of a once-popular celebrity and hearing an open invitation to weigh-in on the latest political scandal, I wondered if the drama didn’t register something more. It is becoming increasingly difficult to avoid the signs that we live, particularly in the west, in a world of criticism. We are encouraged by all facets of the media to examine the flaws of everyone, to search for the scandal in every story, and to pour over everything that divides us, offends us, or otherwise differs from us in any way.

      As a writer, my works

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