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    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
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    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged

    By H. Norman Wright

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    The Perfect Remedy for Cold Feet!

    More than half of all couples who become engaged this year will never make it to the altar. Why? Leading experts believe it's because couples fail to really get to know their potential mate before getting engaged. Relationship expert and noted couples counselor Norm Wright steers potential brides and grooms through a series of soul-searching questions to discern if they've really met "the One."

    Couples will be much more confident about whether or not to pursue marriage after completing these in-depth and personal questions. Norm also addresses the delicate subject of calling off the wedding if readers discover that a potential mate isn't actually meant to be a life partner.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherHarvest House Publishers
    Release dateJun 1, 2004
    ISBN9780736931038
    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged
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    H. Norman Wright

    H. Norman Wright is a well-respected Christian counselor who has helped thousands of people improve their relationships and deal with grief, tragedy, and more. A licensed marriage, family, and child therapist and certified trauma specialist, he has taught at Biola University and the Talbot School of Theology, given seminars, developed curriculum, and worked as a private practitioner. The author of more than ninety books, he resides in Bakersfield, California.

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    • 4/5
      Well-known marriage and family therapist H. Norman Wright has come up with a set of questions couples should discuss prior to marriage. The questions are probing and revealing. Many of them will take time to think about and discuss. It's a book that probably should be discussed in person with your future spouse rather than by phone, Skype, chat, or another means. Many couples may have already discussed some of these, but there will still be plenty which will give both parties a chance to know and understand the other better.
    • 2/5
      Very conservative Christian- limited and outdated . Not the best out there, and only for certain kinds of people and relationships.
    • 5/5
      Excellent all people preparing for marriage need to go trough that!

      1 person found this helpful

    • 2/5
      its very christian - centered in dealing with relationships. One should be a devout christian before reading this book.

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    • 3/5
      This book offers some useful questions to consider before asking someone to marry you. Hopefully, many of these questions will have already been answered earlier in the relationship. While some of the author's questions are repetitive, most of them provide an opportunity to dig into one another's backgrounds, convictions, methods, and dreams.

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    101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged - H. Norman Wright

    Wright

    One

    Warning—Never Marry

    (or Get Engaged to)

    a Stranger

    YEARS AGO THERE WAS A VERY POPULAR love song, Getting to Know You, Getting to Know All About You. Well, that’s probably the best advice to follow if you’re thinking of engagement.

    This is not a book about marriage or how to prepare for getting married. It’s more basic than that. It’s designed to help you answer the question, Is this the one I want to even consider as a marriage partner? Is this the person I want to be engaged to as the next step to marrying them?

    During my years of counseling, I’ve heard so many people say, The person I married was not the same one I honeymooned with. It’s as though they changed overnight. What happened?

    The answer is simple. They married a stranger. There was either courtship deception, or naïveté or not enough questions were asked. Thus, many marriages falter. That’s why this book was written—to give you some of the questions you need answers to now, not later, in order to make a wise decision.

    Let’s assume you have sufficient money to purchase a new car. You go to the auto mall where there are 16 dealerships…with cars of all makes, models, colors, vintages, and prices. You pull into the lot, park, and stroll over to this great looking car. It’s a previously owned model (which means used). It’s been around the block a few times. But you really like the way it looks and smells, and it’s comfortable inside. There are a number of gadgets, including a GPS.

    A salesperson comes up and asks if he can help you. You respond with, You sure can. I want to buy this car.

    Great. What would you like to know about it?

    Know? What’s there to know? I saw it. I like it. I want it—let’s draw up the paperwork.

    Well, I can do that. Do you have any questions about its warranty, performance, estimated mileage, or the GPS? And since it’s a recent addition, we haven’t even put the price on it. Don’t you want to know that?

    Not really. All I know is I want it. And you don’t even have to wrap it up for me!

    Would you buy a car in this way? It’s doubtful. It’s almost ridiculous. If you did, you’d be going into it blind. No—of course you’d ask questions. It’s too big of an investment, and you don’t want to make a costly mistake.

    However, many people who make the decision to become engaged do the very same thing. They don’t ask enough questions. They like what they see and that’s all that counts. After all, asking questions isn’t very romantic…and you may not like the answers.

    The fact is, though, at some time you will discover the answers to your questions. Asking them before you say, I do, can help you make your decision, save you some unneeded heartache, or confirm the direction you’re heading. The greater the amount of information you have, the better you’ll be able to make a good decision.¹

    I want to help you avoid becoming engaged to a stranger. Yes, it’s painful to experience the end of a dating relationship. But, it’s even more painful to break off an engagement. Hopefully these questions will help you say, Yes, I really know this person and feel comfortable in moving ahead, or I’m glad I asked these questions now so I don’t pursue this. It’s time to move on.

    Better Now Than Later

    One of the principal questions I’d like you to consider is, How is your acquaintanceship? Yes, acquaintanceship. Jeffrey Larson, in his excellent book Should We Stay Together? described it this way:

    I define one’s acquaintanceship as a combination of how well you know your partner (depth of knowledge) and how long you’ve known your partner (breadth of experiences) before marriage. The relationship between acquaintanceship and later marital satisfaction is simple: The longer and better you know someone before marriage, the greater the likelihood of marital satisfaction. This is because the longer you become acquainted with someone before marriage—usually—the better you know them, understand them, and understand your couple strengths and weaknesses.²

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