365 Things Every New Mom Should Know: A Daily Guide to Loving and Nurturing Your Child
By Linda Danis
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365 Things Every New Mom Should Know combines prayerful, playful, and above all practical information with thoughtful devotions to energize new moms seeking to treasure every moment of a baby's first year.
The book begins each week with a brief devotional and prayer followed by daily tips and activities that foster a baby's physical, emotional, social, intellectual, and spiritual growth. Among the daily topics:
- beginning steps to godly character development
- capturing and recording memories
- sleep problems and how to solve them
- mother/infant exercise and baby massage
- finding moments for Mom—time management tips
Designed for ease of use, 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know will inspire any new mom—whether it's her first baby, or, in the case of the author, her fourth! A great gift for anyone who wants to lay a foundation for motherhood that will last a lifetime.
Linda Danis
Linda Danis has a degree in marketing and spent five years in hotel management before staying at home to run a hotel of a different sort— guests ages 3, 6, 9, and 11. Linda has written Sunday school curricula, started a co– op preschool, and leads a Moms in Touch prayer ministry at her children’ s school. She lives with her husband, Dave, and children in California.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Infant massage, the baby blues, husbands, pacifiers, lack of sleep, etc... As a new mom, it's easy to be overwhelmed by the so-called “new normal.” Still, a universal desire of new mothers is to love and nurture the wonderful new human beings that are born to them. In 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know, Linda Danis offers daily inspiration on how to love and nurture your child whether you are struggling or thriving in your new role as a mommy.I actually received 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know by Linda Danis about two months after the birth of my first child. Therefore, I read the suggestions for days one through sixty-five during feeding sessions and started with the daily readings on day sixty-six. As of this writing, I'm only on day eighty-six, but wanted to go ahead and give my review in a timely manner. The suggestions in 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know are quick to read and very practical. Each one probably takes less than a minute to read with the exception of the end of the week devotional and that probably takes five minutes or so. (Clearly the author knows the value and scarcity of a new mother's free time!) The author gives some great tips. Some I already knew and some I didn't. Some of my favorite ideas are when she gives poems that include hand motions to do. I loved the motions for the Itsy-Bitsy-Spider! So cute and Baby does seem intrigued by it.In my opinion, 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know is a blend of practical ideas to nurture a child and spiritual refreshment for new moms. I absolutely would recommend this book to any new mom, whether it's their first, second, third or any subsequent child! It would also make a nice baby shower gift.Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher as part of the FIRST Wild Card Tour. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book provides concise and interesting day-by-day things to do with your baby during his first year of life.
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365 Things Every New Mom Should Know - Linda Danis
HARVEST HOUSE PUBLISHERS
EUGENE, OREGON
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Parents, please note: You are advised to consult with your pediatrician or other medical practitioner before implementing the suggestions that follow. Neither the author nor the publisher assumes any liability for possible adverse consequences as a result of the information contained herein.
365 THINGS EVERY NEW MOM SHOULD KNOW
Copyright © 2002 by Linda Danis
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97402
www.harvesthousepublishers.com
ISBN 978-0-7369-2382-8 (pbk.)
ISBN 978-0-7369-4726-8 (eBook)
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Danis, Linda, 1962–
365 things every new mom should know / Linda Danis.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-7369-0923-5
1. Motherhood. 2. Mother and child. 3. Child rearing. I. Title: Three hundred sixty five things every new mom should know. II. Title.
HQ759.D2635 2002
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To my husband, Dave,
and my children, Lisa, J.J., Brian, and Kevin.
You are my greatest joy and my greatest treasure!
Acknowledgments
To my children, Lisa, J.J., Brian, and Kevin: God has blessed me with the four best children a mother could ever hope for. You are truly His most special gifts to me.
To my husband, Dave: This book never could have been written without your help, support, and encouragement. You are the best! I love you.
To my parents, Barbara and Charlie Reynolds: Thank you for the solid foundation you gave me in a secure and loving home. Thanks also for being such devoted grandparents.
To Melinda Blake, Claire Humphrey, Steve Kay, and Jenny Lyons: Thank you for reading through this manuscript and offering me feedback, input, and encouragement.
To all my mom friends whom I have met through playgroups, school, church, and the neighborhood: I have learned something from each of you as we have come alongside each other on this journey of motherhood.
To Kim Moore: Thank you for your valuable editing skills, insight, and encouragement. It was a delight to work with you.
To Bob Hawkins, Sr., Carolyn McCready, LaRae Weikert, Barb Sherrill, Betty Fletcher, and all the others at Harvest House: Thank you for believing in this book and making it a reality.
To my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ: Thank You for giving me the wisdom, strength, and patience to help me be the mother You want me to be. Please take this book and use it for Your glory!
Contents
Acknowledgments
Mother to Mother
The First Three Months ~ A Bundle of Joy
An Incredible Love
Children Are Gifts
The Postpartum Blues
The Perfect Mother
A Relationship with God
The Most Important Job
Take Care of Your Body
Loving Your Husband
Talking with God
Motherhood Is a Ministry
Looking Good!
Managing Your Home
Good Friends
The Second Three Months ~ A Bundle of Smiles
A Cheerful Disposition
Making Time for God
The Love of a Grandparent
Cherish the Moment
Oh, Those Endless Chores
The Sounds of Laughter
Take Time for Yourself
I Love Being a Mom!
Creating Memories
Have Realistic Expectations
Raising Your Children to Know God
No Comparisons Allowed
Getting Organized
The Third Three Months ~ A Bundle of Baby Babbling
Loving Your Baby
Leave Your Worries Behind
Nurture Your Marriage Relationship
Depending Solely on God
Think Positively
Praying for Your Children
Managing Your Time
Learning from Our Mistakes
Practicing Hospitality
Teach Your Children
Overwhelmed and Exhausted
Character Development
Creating the Atmosphere
The Fourth Three Months ~ A Bundle of Energy
Determining Your Priorities
Living in Contentment
The Moral Training of Our Children
Spending Time in God’s Word
Lead by Your Example
Enjoy Your Child’s World
The Need to Discipline
Learning to Be a Better Mom
Grow in Your Relationship with the Lord
Brothers and Sisters
How to Discipline Your Child
Use Your Time Wisely
Our Children Change Us for the Better
May the Lord Bless You
Other Harvest House Reading
Mother to Mother
Congratulations on your new baby. I am so excited for you! You probably feel a mixture of awe, anxiety, and excitement for this little person, this miracle, this gift given to you by God. What a special time of life you are entering!
In the pages ahead you will find encouragement, practical tips, and spiritual insight on a daily basis to help you become the mother you always hoped to be. This book is filled with the nuts and bolts of parenting. Games, songs, activities, and advice will help you nurture your baby’s physical, social, intellectual, and emotional development as well as encourage your child’s spiritual and moral growth. All of these interactive activities are easy to do and require only a few minutes of time.
At the end of each week there is a devotion that will nurture you as a mom. So many changes are happening in your life right now that it can be a bit overwhelming. These reflections will help guide you down the path of motherhood, giving you perspective, encouragement, and godly counsel. They will help you grow in your faith as you depend more on God to meet the new challenges of parenting. And they will point you toward God as the source of all patience, strength, and wisdom.
I began writing this book when my fourth child was born so I would know exactly what a new mother was experiencing and would need to know. I pray that it will give you the confidence and skills necessary to become an effective, godly mother who enjoys and cherishes her new role.
This book isn’t meant to be read all at once, but instead should be used as a daily companion to guide you through your baby’s first year, one day at a time. You might find it handy to keep it on your nightstand or by the changing table. My goal is to make sure you have just the information you need when you need it. It’s my hope that reading this book will be like receiving a daily phone call from a good friend who can offer you advice and helpful insight gleaned from twelve years experience as a mother of four.
Whether this is your first child, and you don’t know what to expect, or your fourth child, and you’re too busy to read up on what you should be doing and need some fresh ideas, you will benefit from 365 Things Every New Mom Should Know. The first year of a baby’s life is an exciting time of new discoveries, phenomenal brain growth, and the beginning of an intense love affair between mother and child. This book will help you lay a foundation of love, trust, and closeness for your baby that will last a lifetime.
Warmly,
Linda Danis
The First Three Months
A Bundle of Joy
My child, you hold the whole of my heart in your small hands.
AUTHOR UNKNOWN
Week 1
Day 1
After all these long months, your precious little baby has finally arrived. The child you have longed for is here to hold, to look at, and to touch. Your baby will look up at you and recognize your familiar voices. You are the ones he has been longing to meet—his mommy and daddy! Get to know your sweet little baby—hold him, rock him, smell his skin, gaze at him, marvel at his tiny fists, caress him. Treasure this awesome miracle!
Day 2
On the day you bring your baby home for the first time, have everyone in your family place their hands on her and pray for her. This will be a precious moment for your family to share together as you welcome her into your family and give thanks to God for this wonderful gift!
Day 3
If you have older children who want to hold their new sibling, use a nursing donut pillow
to help them support your baby’s head. Have your child sit all the way back on the couch. Place the semicircle nursing pillow around his waist. Set your baby on the pillow with his bottom wedged in between your older child’s tummy and the pillow. Rest your baby’s head on your older child’s arm that is resting on the pillow. Even if your child lets go of the baby, his head will still be secure on the pillow. Of course, you should always be sitting right next to your new baby, monitoring his safety. This also works for young visitors, but I would suggest waiting a week or two before letting a nonfamily-member child hold your baby.
Day 4
Despite what all the books may say, most women experience some soreness (or a lot of soreness!) in the first weeks of nursing. Try using your Lamaze breathing when your baby latches onto your breast. If your nipples are cracked or blistered, blot them dry with a cotton diaper after you have finished nursing. Saliva has enzymes that can irritate sore nipples. After you have dried the saliva off, express a little milk and rub it on your nipples. Let them air dry. Also, do not look down at your baby the entire time you nurse. This position can strain your neck and cause tension headaches. If you can persevere through the first two weeks of nursing, things will get better.
Day 5
Sometimes as a new parent it’s hard to tell whether or not you should call your pediatrician. If you are reluctant to call your doctor in the middle of the night, you can usually call the nursery at the hospital where you gave birth. The nurses are awake and can advise you as to whether you should call your doctor right away or if it can wait until the morning. Do not wait if your baby has a fever higher than 99.9 degrees rectally (this is the most accurate way to take your baby’s temperature). Call your doctor immediately.
Day 6
Drink water every time you nurse to stay hydrated and to maintain your milk supply. Always keep a water bottle close at hand. It is a good idea to set up a nursing station
wherever you will be nursing the most. Have everything you need right at hand—a water bottle, a burp cloth, a nursing pillow, a book or magazine to read, and nursing pads.
Day 7
When your baby startles while lying on her back (the Moro reflex), gently but firmly hold her hands together close to her chest to calm her and make her feel more secure. Say, It’s okay, sweetheart. Mommy will help you.
This reflex will disappear by four months.
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Reflections on the Week
I prayed for this child, and the LORD has granted me what I asked of him.
1 SAMUEL 1:27
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.
JEREMIAH 1:5
An Incredible Love
You have had your baby only one short week and yet you can hardly remember what life was like without him. You prepared for months for his arrival—read books, set up the nursery, went to prenatal classes—yet nothing could prepare you for the overwhelming love you feel for this child. There are no words quite powerful enough to describe the emotions you feel.
Then the impossible happened; each day you grew to love him more. The sheer magnitude of love takes your breath away. Can there be anything more wonderful than when he gazes into your eyes, when you feel his small body curled up in your arms, when you feel his warm breath on your cheek, when his little fingers wrap tightly around yours? Your heart is ready to burst with this new miracle in your life.
It doesn’t matter if this is your first or fifth child, the profound love you feel for your new baby never changes. I remember during my second pregnancy, I secretly worried that I might not love this new baby as much as my first. How could I ever love another child as much as I loved her? But the moment I held my new baby, I knew immediately I had worried