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    Finding the Boyfriend Within: A Practical Guide for Tapping into your own Scource of Love, Happiness, and Respect
    Finding the Boyfriend Within: A Practical Guide for Tapping into your own Scource of Love, Happiness, and Respect
    Finding the Boyfriend Within: A Practical Guide for Tapping into your own Scource of Love, Happiness, and Respect
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    Finding the Boyfriend Within: A Practical Guide for Tapping into your own Scource of Love, Happiness, and Respect

    By Brad Gooch

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    In the tradition of the perennial bestseller I'm OK, You're OK, noted author Brad Gooch offers single and coupled gay men a provocative, sophisticated, and inspirational guide that addresses the big issues of love, romance, and being alone.

    Part memoir, part self-help, Finding the Boyfriend Within is a remarkably practical and helpful guide in the quest for self-discovery for the thousands of gay men who despair of ever being in a committed relationship. Filled with anecdotes, romantic advice, problem-solving suggestions, and humor—as well as wisdom from both the East and West—Finding the Boyfriend Within offers simple self-awareness exercises to help discover the respect, happiness, and love that come first, and most importantly, from within.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSimon & Schuster
    Release dateMay 19, 2015
    ISBN9780743242271
    Finding the Boyfriend Within: A Practical Guide for Tapping into your own Scource of Love, Happiness, and Respect
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    Brad Gooch

    Brad Gooch is a poet, novelist, and biographer whose previous ten books include Flannery: A Life of Flannery O’Connor, which was a National Book Critics Circle Award finalist,a New York Times Notable Book of the Year, and a New York Times bestseller; City Poet: The Life and Times of Frank O’Hara; Godtalk: Travels in Spiritual America; and the memoir Smash Cut. He is the recipient of National Endowment for the Humanities and Guggenheim fellowships, and lives in New York City.

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    • 1/5
      The Great White Expanses between lines and the gigantic margins tip you off that this is not a "dense" book. I guess the reader is expected to take notes. Gooch's advice and chatter is akin to bar talk, three glasses of wine minimum. It's harmless stuff, but hardly anything one would expect of a middle-aged, mature gay man. Gooch tries, but his profound narcissism defeats him at every turn -- or mirror -- found in this book.

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    • 3/5
      A self-help book which encourages the reader to become one’s own boyfriend. Gooch draws from a number of sources, but does not include a bibliography. A “lite” book which might be a starting point for some.

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    • 4/5
      I am not a huge fan of self-help books, but what Gooch says is true: in order to find love, you have to love yourself. He marches past the cliche with some solid writing and good examples, urging the reader to think about the things we do in pursuit of a mate and consider turning some of that energy inwards. Treat yourself the way you would a potential new boyfriend, he tells us, and you will be surprised how this can change your life for the better. The advice is old hat, but embraced as it is by Gooch's entertaining prose, it's charming and cozy as well.I recommended this book to wordgirl2006 years ago and we periodically call each other to make sure each of us is setting aside time for "the boyfriend within." Sometimes when I have been neglecting the boyfriend within, I make myself a cup of hot chocolate, light some candles, and curl up in my favorite reading chair with Brad Gooch.

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