Psychic Insights On Matters of Relationships

Psychic Insights

On Matters of Relationships

Copyright 2004 Ryllandra Rose

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with special thanks to Kieran Brannan

Published 2015 by Ryllandra Rose at Smashwords

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Table of Contents

Foreword

Psychic Insights On Relationships

About Ryllandra Rose

Other Books by Ryllandra Rose

Foreword

Want to know what other people ask a psychic?

Want to know if anyone else is wondering the same thing as you about their situation?

Want to know if there's a chance for something better than, or different from, how things are now, for you?

Psychic consultant and medium of more than 40 years, Ryllandra Rose has the answers for you here, and in her other titles in the Psychic Insights series.

Having worked as a psychic consultant for so many years, I've listened to the living ask their questions, and heard the dead tell their stories. Mostly, I told the living what their questions, and answers, were before they were asked. In time, with input from the other side, it became clear there were many other people with questions about their lives who would never get to see me.

This series of books was compiled from the questions, and the answers, that those on the other side told me were needed by those still living, and for whom they still cared. I can only hope the answers eventually reach the loved ones they were intended for, and just perhaps, they may help others along the way.

Psychic Insights

On Relationships

Happily never after

I'm worried about my dad. He's been saying some mean things about mum and just recently I found some inappropriate texts to another woman in his phone. Should I risk their marriage and tell mum about it? What can I do to save the marriage and get everything right again.

As awful as it sounds, this all needs to be brought out into the open. Things will explode eventually no matter what you do, and I doubt the pieces will fall where you want them to. The issue is many fold. Your parents might claim otherwise, but they really have fallen out of love with each other, some years ago in fact. Everything indicates they've stayed together until the kids were out of home, and now with that goal reached, they're letting down their guards and showing their real feelings. Your dad is also going through a bit of a mid-life crisis. He's trying to create more meaning in his life by trying to restart it all with teenage-like behaviour, it's not just the secret relationship, he's been actively finding ways to be irresponsible. The separation really does need to take place and the sooner it happens the greater the chance your parents might be able to be civil to each other. If these old wounds are left to fester much longer, what was once love will turn into a deep hatred where they'll actively be vicious towards one another. Those phone messages on your dad's mobile might be the catalyst to finally bring things to a head and allow the next part of their Life Paths to begin. I realise you would like a happily ever after here, but nothing indicates the happiest path being one in which they stay together. People change, and where they were once perfect for each other, that just isn't the case any more. Let go of the idealism and the need to make everything like it once was. If you want to do something positive for them, then help your parents with emotional support without taking sides. Not all fairy tales have a happy ending, if you aid, instead of resisting, the natural course of these events this particular tale can at least lead to a happier new story for all of you.

It's about possibilities

I got married at a young age and I'm starting to think I made a mistake. Am I just going though a rough patch or should I really seek to end the marriage and move on?

Your Life Path Profile indicates you got married for all the wrong reasons right from the start. This is not a criticism, it's more a statement of how things occur, and, you're not alone in having made that choice either. You married because you were in love with the idea of marriage and the perceived security it offered, and because it's what you were told your options were. Now that you've discovered the realities, you're starting to realise that marriage isn't some sort of mystical force that families happy. You could continue to go through the motions with your husband and life wouldn't be terrible, it just won't have a lot of high points either as neither of you truly love each other. To help you understand what I'm saying, really think about it; do you really care any more for your husband than you do for other close friends? The alternative is to divorce and go your own ways. It'll be difficult and scary, and I cannot guarantee you'll meet Mr Right, but at least you'll have an open option if you do find him. Nothing is set in stone and a psychic can only outline potentials. In your current situation your potentials for finding a happy love life are minimal, but not impossible. If you choose to divorce I can see the potential increase considerably for finding a meaningful relationship. How long that will take depends on you but I see the first real potentials in approximately four years, starting around the work environment. Don't fret if nothing happens, it's only one potential and others will come your way as well. Whichever way you choose I want you to realise that having a child doesn't magically fix a relationship. The additional stress can break an already shaky relationship or cause deep emotional resentment for creating such a binding responsibility. Children tend to have a bonding influence on families that already have good foundations to strengthen. The choice is yours, and you have the potential to make either path work. The sooner you make a decision and commit to a path, the greater your chance of happiness.

Wedding woes

Our wedding date has had to be pushed back three times now. The reason each time has seemed legitimate but I'm wondering if the Universe is trying to give me a sign it's not the right thing to do?

Fear not, this isn't any sort of sign of a doomed marriage. In fact all things look very good for the future of your relationship. These are just chance occurrences which stem from trying to keep pushing to the next available date. Take a step back and re-plan again from the start, setting a date when the busy work life both of you experience can be reasonably put aside for the required time. Right now it's just too much stress trying to force the event into gaps in your lives, so make the gap first and all should flow smoothly.

Simple hearts

In two years with my current job I've had three guys fall in love with me, none of whom I wanted a relationship with. I'm really just there to work and I made it clear from the start that I'm not interested in a relationship right now, but I'm concerned I'm somehow still sending out the wrong signals. How can I make this stop?

There is a reason many attractive women have unpleasant personalities, it's their defence against this sort of attachment. Love isn't something we truly control, so when you are a positive, friendly outgoing personality, people will naturally be attracted to you. When you have a positive personality and are also physically attractive then you have the problems you are currently experiencing. I won't suggest you stop being who you are to prevent this, that really isn't a good solution. You do need to stop blaming yourself and thinking it's your fault. There is nothing to indicate you're unwittingly behaving in an overtly sexual manner, nor are you inviting such responses by your speech or behaviour, the only issue here is that you are a lovable person - and that isn't a fault. What I'm saying is that you cannot make it stop without sacrificing who you are,all you can do is deal with each case as it arises. I do know this can make your work environment tense at times but that's not really your fault. The one thing I will caution you on is to not try to 'play along' in any way in the hope of reducing that tension, it actually just makes things worse in the long run. The problem is that many people are lonely and unhappy and look to others to fill that longing.

Culture of the lost

My husband has an issue with alcohol which I fear will pull the family apart. What can I do to save the family before it's too late?

I do hate to sound so negative, however, it's already mostly too late, especially to save the family in the way you mean. The regular and extended consumption of alcohol has become a way of life not just for your husband but for the older boys as well, and, with numbers on his side, your husband will be exceedingly resistant to any effort to alter what he sees as harmless behaviour. The truth is, his behaviour is far from harmless. The current financial issues you are having run much deeper than he's letting on because he's trying to protect his addiction. By teaching his children to be alcoholics he's not only protecting his behaviour by normalising it, he's setting them up to fail at life in the same ways he has. He has systematically pushed away everyone other than his drinking buddies, so getting any support to help you confront him with will be almost impossible. Your Life Path Profile indicates your best option at this stage is to seek professional help for yourself, this will help you work out the steps you'll need to take, over time, to move forward in your own life. I simply do not have the space here to take you though every step of this and it would be irresponsible for me to try to do that with the limited details you've provided. There are free services out there that can help you. However, to make an informed choice I recommend you find those services that are independent of the types of organisations that promote the idea of a wife being of secondary importance and obedient to the husband. Life partnerships must be reciprocal or the imbalances lead to problems, so choose an advisor who can take a more life-centred view of the steps best suited to your future. The culture of alcoholism is terribly insidious and there are no simple fixes to this problem. Just know that you must take steps for yourself at this point. The situation is not hopeless, but you might need to revise your current ideals on what a perfect solution might be.

Dazed and confused

My girlfriend of over a year has dumped me without offering any reason as to why. I'm just so confused and was hoping for some insight as to what's behind it all?

While there are a number of factors involved, there is one main one that needs some explanation so you can understand the whole situation a bit better. One of the things her Life Path Profile indicates is a great deal of confusion about her own sexuality. While at first she thought she was committed to the relationship with you, she has since been influenced by social and peer pressure and is no longer comfortable with a same gender relationship. She doesn't even truly understand or know her own mind on the matter; all she is consciously aware of is that she now feels uncomfortable in the relationship and has had to move on. That's why she hasn't been able to tell you anything, she doesn't know herself. I'm not saying she'll suddenly sort out her sexual preferences and come back to you either, you really do have to let her go, for both your sakes. Even if she comes back she'll drop in and out of the relationship and just cause you more heartbreak, the best solution is to walk away from this one whether you really understand her position or not. I see that she will experience continued sexual confusion for most of her life with no real resolution. You need to know is that it wasn't you, it wasn't even about you, and although that sounds very cliché, it's true. The inconsistencies in her behaviour is all about her own inabilities to perceive of how to be in her own self. Do recognise that she hasn't actually been dishonest with you, nor is she intentionally withholding reasons for the break up, she simply doesn't understand what is going on for herself yet so is incapable of explaining it to anyone. Sadly there are no clear cut results here, it's just one of those ugly situations where people get hurt for no good reason. Take heart that the fault isn't with you and move on. No matter how things seem to change with her, it will be best for you in the long run to remain in the outside circle of her contacts, if you remain in contact at all. Simply put, your life will move forward now that she is no longer pulling your strings. Take that trip and begin that new venture you've been putting off, it will be