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    Why You Are Lonely
    Why You Are Lonely
    Why You Are Lonely
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    Why You Are Lonely

    By Dr. Leland Benton

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    Loneliness – Why You Are Lonely is a book that dives into the human mind and allows its readers to discover the mind science behind many of their behavioral traits and not just loneliness. It tackles topics such as loneliness, what is loneliness, cures for loneliness, single and lonely condition, loneliness depression, loneliness to happiness, and more. Loneliness is most often misdefined. Loneliness is not being without someone; loneliness is being without love. Written by one of the nation’s leading behavioral scientists, Dr. Leland Benton is the author of over two dozen self-help books and nonfiction behavioral science texts. He is a best-selling Amazon author with over 200-books published on Amazon alone. You need to read this book. It is the fifth book of Dr. Benton’s “Why” series of books.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDr. Leland Benton
    Release dateJul 28, 2015
    ISBN9781311196989
    Why You Are Lonely
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    Dr. Leland Benton

    Dr. Leland Benton is Director of Applied Web Info, a holding company for ePubWealth.com, a leading ePublisher company based in Utah. With over 21,000 resellers in over 22-countries, ePubWealth.com is a leader in ePublishing, book promotion, and ebook marketing. As the creator and author of "The ePubWealth Program," Leland teaches up-and-coming authors the ins-and-outs of today's ePublishing world. He has assisted hundreds of authors make it big in the ePublishing world. Leland also created a series of external book promotion programs and teaches authors how to promote their books using external marketing sources. Leland is also the Managing Director of Applied Mind Sciences, the company's mind research unit and Chief Forensics Investigator for the company's ForensicsNation unit. He is active in privacy rights through the company's PrivacyNations unit and is an expert in survival planning and disaster relief through the company's SurvivalNations unit. Leland resides in Southern Utah.

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      Why You Are Lonely - Dr. Leland Benton

      Introduction – To Ask The Question Is To Answer It

      The first book in this series is titled, Why You Do The Things You Do.  You need to read this book first. Since you bought this book please write to me lee.benton@epubwealth.com and I will send you the PDF version to my first book as my gift to you.

      The question of why has been a part of the conscience of man since the dawn of time.  It has caused us to seek answers, better solutions, invention, progress, increased knowledge and more. 

      But more often than not, most of our questions of why now centers on personal behavioral traits and habits that perplex us and cause us consternation and regret. 

      This consternation and regret in turn causes stress and anxieties more often than not relieved by drug abuse, alcohol abuse and more as people choose to self-medicate themselves.

      Candidly, most people have no idea why they do the things they do so in this book – the fifth book in the Why series of books – I am going to explain in detail why you do the things you do as it pertains to loneliness…but more importantly why you don’t do what you are supposed to do.

      The subsequent books in this series will deal with specific behavioral traits and target certain conditions that really are bothersome.  To wit:

      Why You Do the Things You Do

      Why You Are Greedy

      Why You Are Immoral

      Why You Are In Debt Up To Your Eyeballs

      Why You Are Lonely

      Why You Are Unhappy

      Why You Fail In Relationships

      Why You Get Angry

      Why You Gossip About Others

      Why You Have Bad Habits

      Why You Lie, Cheat & Deceive

      Why You Overeat

      Why You Procrastinate

      Why You Smoke

      In all of the books of this Why series, Chapter 1 always begins with Laying a Proper Foundation and deals with the mechanism of the human mind and how the mind functions both conscious mind and subconscious mind.

      I will then teach you how to change the subconscious mind’s belief systems.  In other words, the Introduction and Chapter 1 will appear in the entire Why series of books as the foundation.  From Chapter 2 on, I will then discuss each book’s specific topic in detail.

      It is important to note that there is no such thing as personal versus commercial behavioral science. 

      The human mind uses the same mechanism in both personal situations as well as commercial. 

      The way each individual employs their respective psyches is what is different. 

      For example; we all have cars but we all have different driving habits and drive cars differently. 

      Hence, in a personal situation, i. e. relationships or a commercial situation, i.e. addicted to shopping, the human mind employs the same mechanism and the corrective protocols used to correct any of the situations described in the Why series of books will be similar.

      Loneliness is usually misdefined.  People believe that loneliness is defined as being without someone in their life whether it be someone to love, a friend, a family member, etc. 

      Loneliness is not about being alone; loneliness is being without love!  Some of what you learn from this might be painful.  The lessons may be hard but they will be learned and you will become a better person because of these lessons.

      This will definitely become an adventure as you go along and better understand who you are and why you do the things you do.   As usual, I stand ready to assist you and answer any questions you might have.  Write to me: lee.benton@epubwealth.com and I will respond. So let’s get to it…

      Chapter 1 - Laying A Proper Foundation

      In all of my Why series of books, I will provide the following discourse on the Human Mind in order to lay a proper foundation to what I am about to teach.

      The Mechanism of the Human Mind

      Prior to the fall of man into sin as described in the Garden of Eden, man’s spirit was hooked to God’s infinite spirit.  There was no death because God’s spirit is infinite.  Man is the only animal on earth that shares the eternality nature of God.  The subject of eternal life has been a heated topic of man from the beginning of our existence. 

      In Greek mythology, there’s a story about a mortal youth named Tithonus.  Aurora, the goddess of dawn, fell in love with the boy and when Zeus, the king of the gods, promised to grant Aurora any gift she chose for her lover, she asked that Tithonus might live forever.  But, in her haste she forgot to ask for eternal youth, so when Zeus granted her request, Tithonus was doomed to an eternity of perpetual aging as a grouchy old man… forever.

      In the movie Highlander, Angus McLeod was born in 1518 as an immortal being.  He could not die and to me, the best part of the movie was the depiction of this immortal's agony here on earth as he watched everything he loved die forcing him to begin his life over and over again. He saw all of the ugliness, which man had caused over four centuries.  He witnessed the Spanish Inquisition, Waterloo, the atrocities of the Third Reich, and more.  He saw the slavery and bigotry of the eighteenth century, the slaughter of the Native American tribes after the Civil War.  This man's life was a living Hell! 

      There is a very big difference between the ways our feeble minds picture eternal life versus God’s idea of eternal life.  Our understanding comes from Quantum Physics and is limited within the Time-Space Continuum.

      Life is your spirit, but the soul of man has usurped the spirit's position and psychology is now forced to define how we live our lives based on the animating force of the soul instead of the spirit.  As I said previously, the soul has usurped the spirit’s place as our animating force.  Let's discuss this now.

      Body First Person - When the body becomes our life, we live as animals.

      Body-Mind In Sync - When the soul becomes our life, we live as rebels and fugitives in a life of desires, emotions, and will (consuming entities).  This is the position of mankind today!

      Mind First Person - But when we come to live our life in the mind/spirit and by the spirit, though we still use our soul’s faculties just as we do our physical faculties, they are now the servants of the spirit.

      If you live as a consuming entity, you will always lose.   In other words, to get, you must give - you must sacrifice!  Have you ever wondered why you have so many anxieties, phobias, worries and fears?  The reality of this world is evil.  So what is reality?  I will tell you.  This is reality:

      "Life without war is impossible either in nature or in grace.  The basis of physical, mental, moral and spiritual life is antagonism.  Health is the balance between physical life and external nature, and it is maintained only by sufficient vitality on the inside against things on the outside. Everything outside my physical life is designed to put me to death.  Things, which keep me going when I am alive, disintegrate me when I am dead.  If I have enough fighting power, I produce the balance of health. 

      The same is true of mental life.  If I want to maintain a vigorous mental life, I have to fight, and in that way the mental balance called thought is produced.  Morally it is the same.  Everything that does not partake of the nature of virtue is the enemy of virtue in me, and it depends on what moral caliber I have whether I overcome and produce virtue (GOOD CHARACTER). Immediately I fight, I am moral in that particular.  No man is virtuous because he cannot help it; virtue (character) is acquired.

      Psychology only studies the observable aspects of the mind and discounts the unseen or intangible aspects of the human mind.

      Behavioral science attempts to study the intangible aspects of the human mind…why you do the things you do and more importantly why you don’t do what you should do.

      There is no such thing as commercial psychology versus personal psychology. The mind uses the same mechanism to evaluate all types of relationships.

      Everything we do revolves around relationships. We relate to our environment, our friends, family, co-workers, other people and even our pets.  We are social animals.

      The Mechanism of the Human Mind

      Belief Systems + Thought + Delight = Action/Behavior/Conduct

      Conscious Mind

      5-senses:

      Sight

      Hearing

      Taste

      Touch

      Smell

      ESP (women only)

      Subconscious Mind

      Intellect:

      Experiential

      Empirical

      DEW:

      Desires, Emotions and Will

      The Human Psyche Differences Between Genders

      The female psyche operates on emotional, spiritual, physical and intellectual planes

      The male psyche operates only on the intellectual and physical planes.

      Here is an exercise you might find weird but it demonstrates the power of the human mind.

      Fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too.     Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe out of 100 can.   I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno’t mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt! 

      You might have found it somewhat unusual that you could probably read the jumbled mess above.   Actually over half the people that see this exercise can decipher the words at the same speed of reading as if the words were not jumbled.

      It is important to note that the human mind thinks in packages…concepts rather than individual ideas.

      Your eyes see each letter but the mind looks at the whole word instead.   As you read, the mind looks at the first and last letter only. Remember this; the mind

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