How to Overcome Your Poisoned Thoughts

Table of Contents

1-Happiness and marriage:

2- Happiness and School Inclinations

3-Happiness and money:

4-Happiness and anger:

5-Happiness, anxiety and fear:

6-Happiness and spending:

7-Happiness and Intelligence:

8-Happiness daydreams:

9-Happiness and Technology:

10-Happiness and envy:

11-Happiness and the constant evolution:

12-Happiness and religion:

13-Happiness and Work:

14-Happiness and boredom (free time):

15-Happiness infection:

16-Happiness and appreciation:

17-Happiness associated with the development level of the State:

18-Happiness and Graces:

19-The mechanism of looking at the full half of the glass:

20-Happiness and procrastination:

21-Happiness and the secret of achieving big goals:

22-Happiness and fame:

23-Happiness and the inner perception:

24-Happiness and the importance of time:

25-Happiness and revenge:

26-Happiness and age:

27-Happiness and change:

28-Happiness and hope:

29-Happiness through points:

30-Happiness and feelings:

31-Happiness through touch (hugging), and incubation:

32-Happiness and self-confidence:

33-Happiness and skill:

34-Happiness and Economy:

35-Happiness and ideas:

36-Happiness through drugs:

37-Happiness and reading:

38-Happiness and failure:

39-Happiness and relaxation:

40-Does happiness increase with aging?

41-Learn from miserable people:

42-Smiling is the Evidence of Happiness:

43-Happiness and the system of Interior beliefs:

44-Happiness and one's habits:

45-Happiness and Hobbies:

46-Happiness and Gradient:

47-Happiness and openness to the others:

48–Happiness Linked to place and time:

49-Happiness and mood:

50-Happiness and settlement:

51-Happiness and luck:

52-Happiness and genetics:

53-Happiness and disability:

54-Happiness and pride:

55-Happiness and Disagreement:

56–Do not exaggerate If you disagreed with someone:

57–Decision of happiness:

58-Retired People and Happiness:

59-Happiness and potential energy:

60-The impact of the soul on the body:

61-Happiness and the mechanism of expectation:

62-Happiness and patience:

63-Happiness and self-reconciliation:

64-Happiness and frustrating people:

65-The Ideal example of happiness:

66-Happiness and mental abilities:

67–The happy person with his family:

68-Happiness and renewal:

69-Take it easy:

70-Happiness and learning for happy people:

71-Happiness and hard work:

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1-Happiness and marriage:

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If you are agreed with your spouse, then you have achieved half of happiness; and if you are not agree with your spouse, then you have lost half of happiness.

"Professor Ozwald said that money is not the only factor that affects psychological health and happiness.

But there are many factors in life that create happiness and psychological health - including success in marriage and work.

Since experts argue that the key to happy relationships could be accepting that there is not escape from some miserable times. Therefore, Therapists from California State University, Northridge College and Virginia Tech said that accepting that these problems will occur, is better than striving for perfection "14

Do not you share me the opinion that not many young men and young women dream of marrying inside a palace of honey, and a bed of roses and they do not see it as a responsibility and establishing a family.

"Experts blame cultural fairytales in every community of love, love and some of the modern love stories for keeping the myth that it is possible to stay in a perfect and impeccable relation.

It is a myth to think that it is possible to achieve an imaginary state of suffering through enough effort.

People need to try to understand their partners through communication, rather than demanding them of perfection.

Nadine Field –a consultant psychologist- said:

It is important to have the forethought and test what the person meant when he says that he is happy or looking for happiness or a healthy relationship, because no one can enjoy life or relationship in a permanent state of happiness - there will be always difficult times.

She stresses that it is fantasy that it is possible to reach perfection in relations, and the pursuit to achieve an impossible state could lead to bitter disappointment.

The disappointment could then cause one to focus on the negative aspects in the relationship, which leads to more disappointment and resentment.

I do not feel bored of repeating this sentence: the position of ideal marriage is in paradise.

So Jan Parker of the Association of Family Therapy says: The experts of the study are right to point out that the pursuit of an ideal relationship can be potentially damaging.15

Interestingly, that the Daily Telegraph reported that studies revealed that when the couple sleep in separate rooms, this will strengthen the marital relationship between them and to give an atmosphere of fun , happiness, longing, and vitality to the House16

Dear Reader: Do not wait for marriage to and change your beliefs and vision, because changing will be harder after marriage.

"A study in the United States declared that most newly married couples experience a period of emotional happiness after a short marriage, but they quickly return to the same view of life that they used to see before marriage.

Researchers followed more than 24 thousand people during the period from 1984 to 1995 and asked the participants to determine the annual rate of satisfaction with their lives gradually starting from zero, which represents unhappiness at all to 10, which represents complete happiness. They confirmed that the average increase in life satisfaction as a result of marriage was weak and reached ten points on the scale set for happiness"17

Researchers said, We found that people do not get more satisfied after marriage than they were before marriage. The study, which lasted 15 years found that people who were already happy about their lives before marriage are the people who are likely to have a longer period of marriage.

The findings are based on the measurement of the medium to reach that happiness is a personal experience "18

So do not comment on the happiness of marriage, and does not defer it after marriage.

2-Happiness and School Inclinations:

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What do you think, a new study revealed that the subject which the student is studying at the university could have a significant impact on the his happiness at work.

"And that the most happy people about their work are those who have chosen medicine or agriculture. Whereas the most miserable ones are those who chose architecture.

Perhaps the reason behind that, as the two academics at the University of Warwick, RI Lydon and Andrew Oswald say, is due to the restrictions laid by the study of specific subject to student's options related to his professional life later.

Where the research team found that people who have studied broad themes which have wider applications in professional life, become happier."

So, expand the prospects of your studies till you reach the law of control as Dr. Ibrahim al-Fiki says. It is to have more than one alternative.

"In the previous study, students who studied agronomy are believed to be happy because they can work in many different jobs, such as working in the cultivation of land or in food industry or others. The two academics said that teachers were among those who have a lesser degree of happiness in work , as well as for those who studied foreign languages, Life Sciences and Business Administration.

The problem is that a student spends many years studying teaching till he discovers later that he is not welcomed everywhere, what should he do then?

But some branches of education such as mathematics and computer, for example, open other chances other than teaching.

Researchers have also found a greater level of happiness among those who graduated from prestigious traditional universities than those who graduated from new universities.

The reason behind this that a graduate from these universities can easily get a better job and salary "19.

So listen to your educational inclination to become happier not to those who advise you to study more attractive subjects in the society which do not go with your interests. Then, you will fail in this field.

3-Happiness and Money:

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Do you believe that money have a strong relation with happiness, then listen to studies about that.

In a research published by University of York said: "if one won a thousand pound could he change his look to life.

But winning less than a million pounds could not likely lead for a long-term effect on one's life. Researchers found that marriage and good health may make people happy more than money."

But, does this mean that one should be happy with poverty, and enjoy the laziness and apathy, and if s/he had a chance which could generate money, does that mean to kick it away.

"We found a strong relationship between profit and one's sense of happiness and psychological health. Professor Andrew Oswald, who heads the team of researchers, said: a small amount of money will not solve a major health problem or a complex psychological problem, but we can note an improvement in one's psychological health soon after winning a little bit of money.

In general, the greater the profit is the bigger is the joy. Large amounts are better than small amounts. The research also resulted in that women tend to feel happier with money; and individuals in their thirties have a lesser sense of happiness about money"20.

"There is a research team which analyzed questionnaires with answers about different aspects of life, where the team found that happy people are those who earn a high income.

But this is an exaggeration to some extent. I found a new survey of a remarkable team of psychologists and economists said that the link between income and happiness is a great exaggeration it is also a large illusion.

Researchers found that the increase in income have a relatively short-term impact on satisfaction with life.

So do not renounce all we have said previously about happiness and turn to a fund-raiser to be happy.

Countries which a high level of income do not have a corresponding sense of well-being and happiness in people's life. Feeling satisfied about life does not tend to rise with the increase of the annual average income per capita at the national level, but there is a slight increase in satisfaction when the average income per capita is more than 12 thousand dollars a year.

To explain the slight impact of rising the income on happiness; a study shows that the level of relative income and not the amount of income in itself affects the sense of well-being. If the individual has become richer than his peers, he will feel that he is better than them, and quickly will have new rich friends, and then his relative wealth will become less than it was in the beginning.

As well as people quickly get accustomed to new things in their lives that wealth enabled them to obtain. Levels of wealth that people aspiring keep rising despite with the increase of their incomes, as man never get satisfied but with dust.

When an individual starts to gain more moneys/he spends more time, and therefore enjoys less free time. Therefore, researchers note that the activities which people with high incomes spend long times for neither bring nor is linked with any additional happiness, but it is related to some tension and stress"21.

4-Happiness and Anger:

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If you are easily irritated and believe that anger does not affect happiness. I invite you to this quick tour in the world of anger.

Anger as a form of psychological emotion affects one's heart similarly to the impact of an sprinting or running.

Anger increases the heart beating rate per minute doubling the amount of blood the heart pushes through