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    Know Yourself: The Concise Enneagram Guide
    Know Yourself: The Concise Enneagram Guide
    Know Yourself: The Concise Enneagram Guide
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    Know Yourself: The Concise Enneagram Guide

    By Dragan Matijevic

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    This book is an essential guide to the nine types in the Enneagram, an ancient character divination system. It will help you find your own type and your type’s development. It covers your hidden inner motivations, relationships, work, emotional and life orientations. You will also learn about closely guided secrets of the people around you. The light the Enneagram can throw on relationships is nothing short of remarkable.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDragan Matijevic
    Release dateNov 5, 2015
    ISBN9781310030468
    Know Yourself: The Concise Enneagram Guide
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    Dragan Matijevic

    Pendragan'Pendragan' is the pen-name for children's fiction-writing duo Penny Williams and Dragan Matijevic. They also write independantly as Penny Williams and Dragan Matijevic (adult fiction, self-help and cookery books).They launched Pendragan Publishing as an independent, international publishing platform for storytellers around the world. If you would like news about forthcoming publications, or books in the works, or if you have questions about any of the characters, please let us know.Dragan MatijevicDragan started writing during the war that broke up Yugoslavia in the early '90s. Living in England with his one-year old son at the time, Dragan wondered how he could help his people in Croatia. The solution turned out to be magic! Dragan founded a theatre charity called Rise Phoenix, wrote his first puppet play for children, created his own puppets, and together with a bunch of troubadours, jesters and jugglers, drove a truck down to the war zone. In 1993, "Peppe the Magician" began to appear in refugee camps throughout Croatia, Bosnia and Kosovo. Small puppets and theatre plays gave way to giant puppets and theatre spectacles. Children who had lost everything rediscovered the ability to laugh. Adults slowly joined in. One Croatian soldier shouted from the audience, "Croatia needs puppets, not guns!" Quentin Blake agreed and gave permission for Rise Phoenix to take his Big Friendly Giant to the war zone. Dragan went on to write and perform in many other children's plays, quite a few of which are now stories and novels. When not writing, Dragan teaches at The Artisan Bakery School, and continues to perform as the magician Sol Ray.Penny WilliamsAs a child, Penny would row ashore to school from the sailing boat she grew up on with her family. This gave her a quirky view on life, encouraged by the stories she heard from blue-water sailors arriving in Falmouth Harbour. Penny grew up with a hunger for distant horizons and foreign shores. Her explorations took her to Europe, Africa, South America, Asia and even Antarctica. But her biggest adventure, which was falling in love with a Croatian magician (Dragan), happened right on her own front door step in England! So far, their story includes building their own woodfired oven for The Artisan Bakery School, moving to a crazy old cottage in Devon, taking an Invisible Man to Singapore, working with children in Sri Lanka and India and kayaking round the islands of Dalmatia. Penny also runs a professional copywriting, editing and translation business. She and Dragan write together to celebrate the magic that happens in real life.*** Connect With Us ***penny@pendragan.comwww.pendragan.com

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    Know Yourself - Dragan Matijevic

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    1: The Crusader

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    The Spectrum - from Judgmental to Forgiving.

    The Crusader’s potential character ranges from being an angry, misunderstood bully, to being a visionary, life-enhancing hero - at any level from the gutter to the great leader.

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    The Light Side

    Crusaders who have understood and overcome their shadow side combine a great ability to discriminate with an excellent pragmatism and a proven faith in human nature. Their refined sense of justice makes them responsible and reliable people who are grounded in the real rather than the ideal.

    Able to see things as they really are, they become the best kind of visionary reformers, with the ability to perceive the ‘bigger picture’ and then apply the best practicable methods for improving it. Crusaders are usually physically and emotionally strong, capable of putting up with a lot for the greater good. Rational perfectionists, their wisdom stems from accepting life as it is, yet still guiding and helping others to improve their lot.

    Crusaders who have overcome their shadows are at peace because they accept their human flaws without repressing their human needs. They are very conscientious, with strong personal convictions, but still flexible in their ideals, and understanding of human frailties.

    The truest Crusaders - truest to the light they were born with - are wise, fair and objective with others. They are also inspiring, putting into practice their love of truth and justice with a realistic sensitivity to human nature.

    Where their shadow-haunted cousins tend to write people off, enlightened Crusaders remain alert for that inexplicable event that turns a drug-dealer into a human rights activist - and welcome the change unequivocally. They believe in personal redemption. Their sense of a higher purpose is underpinned by highly developed personal integrity. They have the healthy focus and drive to achieve those goals which are allied to the common good. They teach by example, by living in a balanced and caring way.

    Crusaders make valuable, lifelong, loyal friends.

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    The Shadow Side

    The main negative belief creating the Crusader’s shadow:

    ‘Life’s a mess!’

    Crusaders perceive chaos and injustice very early in life. They quickly conclude that life as a whole is a nasty mess, and decide that only they can set it right. In order to make (their) life bearable, they begin changing it by forcing themselves to be perfectly virtuous. But perfection is not a trait of human nature. The struggle makes them think hard about what is right and what is wrong, and about concrete changes they can make. They perceive a need to lead: to lead others out of chaos, injustice or even sin.

    How the negative belief creates a basic negative fervor: anger

    ‘It makes me so mad!’

    Crusaders strive to create order in life and are afraid of chaos. This fear converts into powerful righteous anger towards life as it appears. However, since Crusaders consider anger as destructive and unacceptable, they disguise it as a virtuous intention to do good. They rationalise their anger as the means towards a higher end.

    Forever vigilant for vice and virtue in themselves, Crusaders react angrily to anyone else that they perceive as less moral or less disciplined - the un-admitted question being, why should you escape judgment, when I can’t? This results in Crusaders becoming critical, dominant, watchful and emotionally retentive.

    The shadow turns into a real handicap when the requirement for Crusaders to see themselves and the circumstances as perfect before they can engage, results in over-cautiousness and consequent frustration. The more the shadow is active, the more frustration grows. Levels of self-criticism go down and criticism towards others goes exponentially up. ‘Armchair Crusaders’ sit in front of the TV, or the tabloids, and explode.

    Crusaders are afraid of losing control, of others and of themselves. They fear being unbalanced, corrupted or simply evil, and this fear leads them to suppress their instincts to an unhealthy extent.

    The obsession with right v wrong / good v bad, can lead to massive self-deception. Crusaders possessed by their shadow ignore what is, and obsess with what ‘should be’, to the extent that they will even hide their real intentions from themselves. The original, benevolent desire to improve ‘life’ becomes a compulsive desire to control others and oneself. In modern times, centuries after the original Enneagram was drawn, we see workaholics, de-frocked priests and dictators pursuing the same old line.

    How basic fervor warps the personality:

    ‘Someone is to blame. Well, it can’t be me!’

    Crusaders believe their mission in the world is to improve it. Their secret irritation at the status quo makes them at best assertive but, at worst, domineering and superior. As self-appointed arbiters of virtue, Crusaders trapped by their own shadows become relentlessly demanding, competitive, arrogant and eventually full of hidden hate. Steaming far ahead of others they can become critical fault-finders and derive ugly pleasure from making others feel guilty. Unaware, or wilfully ignorant, of their own motivation, which is their anger at life as it is, Crusaders wish to revenge themselves on reality, they hide their frustration behind the apparently constructive intent to make others and themselves ‘better people’. An inflated sense of moral superiority stems from the pursuit of noble causes on one side and frustrated anger on the other. These two unhappy feelings feed each other: the sense of nobility serves to hide anger while the initial anger runs wild with the sense of futility caused by living life according to rules that pinch and bruise any sense of

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