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    Bad Boys, Bad Girls: A Teen Guide to Cheaters and Liars
    Bad Boys, Bad Girls: A Teen Guide to Cheaters and Liars
    Bad Boys, Bad Girls: A Teen Guide to Cheaters and Liars
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    Bad Boys, Bad Girls: A Teen Guide to Cheaters and Liars

    By Victoria Summit

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    Are you walking on eggshells in valiant attempts to please your new kind-of- emotional friend?

    Is your dreamy summer fling turning into a nightmare of epic proportions?

    Do you always seem to end up in turbulent relationships?

    Do you always seem to end up with drama queens despite your best intentions to avoid them?

    Stop walking on eggshells around your partner and learn when enough is enough.

    How many lies are too many?

    What is gaslighting?

    It's never too soon to learn red flags about people. Toxic relationships happen at all ages and between all sexes. It's not just "all guys" or "all girls." There are "good" and "bad" people of both sexes.

    This short book is geared towards teens and young adults who are beginning to explore the dating world.

    Though navigating human nature is always trial and error, there are some basic qualities that so-called "bad boys and bad girls" have in common. This book points out what is normal and not normal in some familiar everyday dating life scenarios.

    It takes a really long time to truly get to know some one. Don't rush into a new romance. Relax, take one step at a time, and abide by your own set boundaries. If something doesn't feel quite right, trust your gut instinct. No one is worth wasting the summer over! If someone hurts you or you find you're hurting him or her, move on.

    Protect your heart (and bank account!) and trust your gut. Don't get trapped in a dysfunctional codependent relationship. Domestic violence never begins looking like domestic violence. Learn how to identify red flags and have the courage to take action.

    Other books in the Gaslight Survivor Series:

    100 Red Flags in Relationships
    How Many Lies Are Too Many?
    Dancing in the Gaslight
    Bad Boys, Bad Girls

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherScarlett Publishing
    Release dateDec 14, 2015
    ISBN9781310887574
    Bad Boys, Bad Girls: A Teen Guide to Cheaters and Liars
    Author

    Victoria Summit

    Victoria Summit is a life coach.

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      Bad Boys, Bad Girls - Victoria Summit

      Bad Boys, Bad Girls:

      A Teen Guide to Spotting Cheaters and Losers

      by

      Victoria Summit

      Gaslight Survivor Series

      Book Four

      This book is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This book may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please purchase your own copy.

      Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      Copyright 2014 Victoria Summit

      Copyright 2014 Scarlett Publishing

      Update 2015 March

      Smashwords Edition 2015 December

      Bad Boys, Bad Girls:

      A Teen Guide to Spotting Cheaters and Losers

      by

      Victoria Summit

      Gaslight Survivor Series

      Book Four

      Table of Contents

      Introduction

      Belonging

      Chemical Romance

      It’s a Gaslight World

      Narcissistic Personality Disorder

      Best Friends Who Betray You

      Cheaters

      Cheaters Impose Boundaries

      Cheaters’ Endless Stories

      Social Media

      Dating Rituals

      Jobs

      What’s the Deal with Presents and Gifts?

      Awards

      Starving Artists and Other Entitled People

      Parties

      Phases of an Abusive Relationship

      Picking Up the Pieces

      Conclusion

      About the Author

      Introduction

      What is the allure of the villain, the monster, the bad guy? Who can resist the siren call of a succubus, a vampire, a queen?

      Media is full of shows about bad boys and bad girls. We love to root for evil, it’s the modern way. Perhaps it was always the way.

      In movies, the bad boys and bad girls are usually pretty easy to spot. The writers drop clues about the motives and character traits and all is revealed complete with repercussions within two hours.

      In real life, there is no director indicating where you’re supposed to look, which snippets of dialogue should be noticed, what is happening off camera. You have to navigate relationships all by yourself and learn by trial and error, who are the bad boys and girls and how bad is bad?

      Going back to the idea of media in 2014, I’m using the label of bad to illustrate people who are rebels, who think the rules are for everyone else but them, who have no empathy for others, who enjoy manipulating others for the sheer joy of causing misery and creating chaos. These are the same types of people who you think of as bad guys in comic books or movies.

      These bad people really do exist. They are just more complex as living breathing humans and come in various assorted personality types with various assorted disorders that may or may not be curable. And there is no director or writer to drop clues for you about how dangerous this person might or might not be if you let him or her into your life It’s up to you to stay alert and aware and protect yourself.

      Some people bring out the worst in each other and yet may blend wonderfully with another. This is part of dating and learning about human nature and finding future mates. It’s better to find out that you don’t get along instead of pretending that you do, whether to yourself or to those around you, just for the sake of avoiding a fuss. It’s better to say thanks and move on. Dating is fun and is part of the teen and young adult experience. Yes it hurts to break up but life is short and you shouldn’t waste time on a relationship that isn’t working. And sadly, will likely never work.

      Becoming exclusive is perfect for some people and not so perfect for others. For some people, becoming exclusive means drama. And drama interferes with meeting personal goals.

      Bad can be Bonnie and Clyde. Bad can be Dracula and his brides. Bad can be Jimmy Dean or Marilyn Monroe. Bad can be Sid and Nancy. Bad can be Cruella Deville or the witches or the wizard in the Wizard of Oz movies or Dandy in American Horror Story: Freakshow.

      Is bad that bad and should it be forgiven?

      Is bad just a phase?

      There is no right way or wrong way to be a teen. But there are right ways and wrong ways to be a decent human being no matter your gender, race, religion, or class. We are all on this earth together and it’s in our best interest to get along with each other and get on with living.

      Life is hard enough without a lot of head games, mind games, mind tricks, manipulations, gaslighting, and lies. Why put up with someone who won’t be honest with you or respect you?

      Despite what you might have been told, you are no different than anyone else and neither is the person who is filling your head full of lies. We are all put on this earth naked and alone. Some of us will die that way as well. All that time in-between is ours to fill as we desire. All choices we make belong to us. When we die, we want to look back on our lives and remember happy moments and the relationships we built.

      Understanding the stepping stones to a life of happiness requires lifting up the rocks to fully appreciate the dark underpinnings of human nature. With good, comes evil. No one is purely one or the other but you need to figure out which side you’re on and which side you wish to attract.

      One of the tasks of being a good-hearted person is learning that not everyone deserves your generous nature and tendency to give the benefit of the doubt. Most people learn this hard lesson early and young. You may find this attitude too careful, that everyone deserves a chance, that redemption is possible for even the most heinous of acts. You may not realize you have a pattern of letting people take advantage of you. Learn to say no and don’t feel guilty about it.

      If nothing else, you need to understand that you can only take care of you. Every choice you make is yours alone. You never have to listen to others if what they demand is against moral, legal, or social ideals that transcend common sense.

      Hopefully

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