Unshakable You: 5 Choices of Emotionally Healthy People
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What can you do? If you’re burnt out or depressed, how do you get healthy? If you’re healthy, how do you stay that way? You start by making five choices. Unshakable You: 5 Choices of Emotionally Healthy People, introduces key behaviors which move a depressed person toward recovery, and keep an emotionally fit person well.
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Unshakable You - John Opalewski
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INTRODUCTION
The loud blast of a car horn filled the air…dad was waiting for us to pile in the station wagon once again for our weekly trek to church. It was 6:50 a.m. Sunday, and a herd of bleary-eyed kids stumbled into the car for the weekly ritual of Mass. Forty-five minutes of going through the motions at church completed my religious duties and I could forget about God until next Sunday.
As I grew older, I noticed a disconnect between what happened on Sunday at church and what happened the rest of the week. My faith was not integrated into how I talked, behaved, and treated others. I found God to be distant and almost unreachable. Going to church became a mind-numbing exercise.
As a teenager, this disconnect grew into a search for fulfillment. I tried alcohol and other drugs for a while, thinking this would make me happy. Yet with the passing of every party, I felt emptier on the inside. On several occasions I remember staggering across the doorstep to my home and thinking, there has to be more to life than this.
Enter my friend who lived across the street—Kirk. He had invited me to his church on several occasions, and I accepted. I didn’t always understand what the people at his church said, but they seemed excited about Jesus. On June 13, 1974, Kirk invited me to a Christian concert at a local coffeehouse. By this time, I knew what he was trying to do—get me saved
—or in other words, convert me to Christ. I gave him reasons why I couldn’t go, but he kept asking. Grudgingly, I agreed to go—but I remember saying to myself, I’m not getting saved tonight.
At the end of the concert, an invitation to follow Jesus was given. Despite my planned resistance, I found myself wanting to respond. Frozen to my seat…I asked Jesus to come into my heart. Almost immediately, I felt as though a load of bricks had dropped from my shoulders. For the first time in my life, I felt clean on the inside. I sensed my old, empty life had ended…and a brand new chapter had begun.
Many things changed in the weeks to follow. My craving for alcohol and other drugs disappeared. Instead of emptiness, I felt joy, purpose, and a clear sense of direction. My party buddies definitely knew something was different. I shocked my friends when I eventually became courageous enough to tell them what happened.
Within one year of my conversion, I began to sense God calling me to some sort of ministry. I made a decision to attend Oral Roberts University for training. I graduated from ORU several years later, and was off to pursue my dream of changing the world for Jesus. But lurking in the shadows was a monster I had no idea existed. The spiritual excitement in my life masked an underlying lack of emotional health. In November 1992 everything changed.
At the time, I was the lead pastor of a growing church. Life seemed good at home and in the ministry. But for weeks during autumn 1992, I had trouble sleeping, and had no appetite. Waves of sadness overwhelmed me, but I had no idea why. Panic attacks and uncontrollable crying spells became common—it was terrifying and I didn’t know what was happening to me. I was suicidal and contemplating the least painful way to end my life.
Fortunately, I had wise friends, a good medical doctor, and a competent counselor who identified the problem. Clinical depression had brought my world to a crashing halt.
Up to that point, I had little room in my thinking for depression. It was something weak-minded people struggled with, not a mature Christian. After all, I had been walking with God for eighteen years. I had been a pastor for twelve years. The spiritual disciplines of Bible study, prayer, and Scripture memory were part of my daily routine. How could this happen to someone like me? In that dark moment, I felt as if God had betrayed me. But over time, I discovered depression happens to all kinds of people—even to some who love Jesus.
You may have a story like mine (you can’t have mine—we all have a story). Maybe your dreams have been crushed under the heavy weight of depression. Perhaps its dark cloud has negatively colored your view of life. I want you to know there’s hope for you. You won’t be able to get better on your own—you’ll need a team of professionals and friends. You’ll have to unlearn dysfunctional thinking patterns and replace them with healthy ones. But you can get better. The following pages are dedicated to helping you recover.
Maybe you are reading this book and have no issues currently with depression. Be thankful to God for your health. But understand depression is easier to prevent than it is to cure. Educating yourself while healthy minimizes your future risk.
What I didn’t understand back in 1992 was the pervasive nature of depression in our world—even in the church world. I somehow overlooked the depressive episodes of King David…one of Israel’s greatest leaders…and the dark seasons experienced by the Old Testament prophets Elijah and Jeremiah, even though I read about them multiple times. I failed to recognize spiritual giants like Charles Spurgeon, Martin Luther, and John Calvin all suffered from this affliction.
One of the greatest presidents in our nation’s history, Abraham Lincoln, battled with depression. In an article written by Joshua Wolf Schenk we read: He (Lincoln) often wept in public and recited maudlin poetry. He told jokes and stories at odd times—he needed the laughs, he said, for his survival. As a young man he talked more than once of suicide, and as he grew older he said he saw the world as hard and grim, full of misery, made that way by fate and the forces of God.
No element of Mr. Lincoln’s character, declared his colleague Henry Whitney,
was so marked, obvious and ingrained as his mysterious and profound melancholy." His law partner William Herndon