Everand Logo

Welcome to Everand!

  • Discover millions of ebooks, audiobooks, and so much more with a free trial

    Only $11.99/month after trial. Cancel anytime.

    Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery: A Strategic Model for Sex Addicts
    Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery: A Strategic Model for Sex Addicts
    Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery: A Strategic Model for Sex Addicts
    Ebook108 pages1 hour

    Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery: A Strategic Model for Sex Addicts

    By Carol Juergensen Sheets aka Carol the Coach

    ()

    Read preview

    About this ebook

    Historically, sex addicts have had to rely on individual therapy and 12 Step support to enhance their recovery. Group work is a crucial element to recovery but is typically only provided in residential and hospital settings. Addicts have often times been traumatize early in their own childhoods and group intervention provides the supportive environment to do out patient trauma work.

    This manual will highlight group exercises that have been essential to therapeutic change and recovery. It utilizes a 15 week approach to managing anger, conflict and trauma. It teaches empathy and assertiveness so that the client can improve his or her relationships outside of the therapeutic alliance.

    This book is for clinicians who want a hands on approach to running a sexual addictions group. It will take you from week 1 through week 15 giving you exercises to promote therapeutic change and recovery.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublishereBookIt.com
    Release dateApr 26, 2016
    ISBN9781456621292
    Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery: A Strategic Model for Sex Addicts

    Related to Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery

    Related ebooks

    Psychology For You

    View More
    View More

    Related podcast episodes

    Related articles

    • Article

      Reviews

      May 31, 2018

      Sometimes on the way to achieving happiness, we are our own worst enemies. Through doubt, self-sabotaging habits and negative perceptions, we become our own worst enemy. Joyce Bennett-Hall realises that while we can be our biggest hindrance, we can a

      3 min read

    • Article

      Types Of Intimacy

      Nov 24, 2020

      You might not realise it, but there are four different types of intimacy – and for a strong foundation you need all four: EMOTIONAL INTIMACY: You feel safe with your partner and share secrets and desires SEXUAL INTIMACY: You’re close physically, a

      1 min read

    • Article

      Tell No One

      Aug 27, 2019

      Tell No One
      6 min read

    • Article

      Let’s Talk

      Sep 15, 2021

      Let’s Talk
      2 min read

    • Article

      Let’s Talk

      Jun 26, 2019

      Let’s Talk
      2 min read

    • Article

      Learn

      Apr 23, 2020

      Learn
      3 min read

    • Article

      Find Your CHEERLEADER

      Jul 13, 2023

      Find Your CHEERLEADER
      3 min read

    • Article

      Q & A

      Sep 1, 2021

      The pandemic has made stress and anxiety familiar terms for just about everyone. But what does a true case of burnout look like? Part of the problem with the burnout conversation is that we often misapply the word, or use it too loosely. The World He

      9 min read

    • Article

      Coaching: What Is It And Does It Work?

      Sep 30, 2020

      Business coaching is big business. Two years ago, the International Coaching Federation had 53,000 members and estimated that there were 100,000 life coaches in the world. Another estimate of note is that it is currently a Billion Dollar business, es

      8 min read

    • Article

      Women's Training

      Oct 31, 2023

      Women's Training
      5 min read

    • Article

      Your Weight

      Aug 11, 2018

      MANAGING your weight will be easier if you have a support network for emotional, practical and inspirational help. Emotional support for weight management is all about surrounding yourself with those intent on helping you develop a healthier relation

      2 min read

    • Article

      The RESET program

      Nov 26, 2023

      The RESET model at the core of my work with trauma has taken many forms over the past two decades. It was shaped by the enormous laboratory of learnings that dozens of practitioners have gained while working with thousands of patients at the Optimum

      1 min read

    • Article

      MENTAL HEALTH Boosts On A Budget

      Nov 9, 2023

      Stress and anxiety, overwhelm. There are certainly enough challenges in our daily lives to leave us feeling off balance and reaching out for help. But formal therapy, especially in a cost-of-living crisis, is a financial stretch for many of us right

      3 min read

    Related categories

    Reviews for Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery

    0 ratings

    0 ratings0 reviews

    What did you think?

    Tap to rate

    Review must be at least 10 words

      Book preview

      Group Work for Men In Sexual Recovery - Carol Juergensen Sheets aka Carol the Coach

      members.

      + Introduction +

      Historically, sex addicts have had to rely on individual therapy and 12 Step support to enhance recovery. Group therapy was provided in residential and hospital settings but was not seen as essential in the individual practice. It has come to the attention of certification programs that group work is a crucial element to recovery. Addicts appreciate the opportunity to discuss their own traumas and share openly the emotionality that precedes healing from the trauma work. This kind of intense work requires the support of group intervention.

      This style of group work was specially created for men to decrease reliance solely on individual therapy while clinically promoting the development of a support network in day-to-day life. Although group work for sex addicts may be seen as a luxury in the therapeutic community, I believe that it is essential to healing the shame and trauma that has occurred before the addiction and as a result of the addiction. This group work approach is therapeutically sound, cost-effective and time-limited.

      This 15-week group approach teaches men the skills to manage anger, conflict resolution, and assertiveness. Perhaps the greatest outcome of this work has been that addicts learn how to use empathy in the group which they then apply outside of group. It also gives them a chance to deal with pivotal family-of-origin issues that move them into progressive stages of change. These men demonstrate compassion and insight which is then modeled by other group members and then in outside relationships. Once the core issues have been addressed and processed, the men are free to practice the life skills that they have learned and to improve their sense of self-worth and their relationships. Understandably, we want group participants to understand how this addiction has taken total control of their lives, and how important it is to do the healing work to both manage the illness and to heal the wounded soul that may have been a part of the trauma that contributed to the desire to self medicate and that may have been caused by the addiction itself.

      In this manual you will learn creative strategies and actual exercises that utilize many of the concepts from Dr. Patrick Carnes' Thirty Task Recovery Model. The manual also uses anchoring, visualization, role playing psychodrama, re-scripting, reframing, and meditation, as well as Gestalt techniques. Additional techniques are drawn from narrative therapy, metaphor therapy, hypnotherapy, and art therapy.

      As the group identity is developed, men typically attend two or three 15-week group series which allows for threading the needs of the individual men to further enhance goal completion. Due to men attending multiple group series, balancing the needs of rookie versus veteran members is of utmost clinical importance. This further reinforces the importance of having good solid sobriety, because veterans can not only be a support, but share their wisdom as to how they were able to attain sobriety. Anyone who works with this population knows that recovering from a process addiction requires a multitude of life skills and rituals that reinforce recovery.

      This manual illustrates how to utilize this dynamic group approach, which improves clinical outcomes and recovery.

      Breaking the Chains of Isolation, Shame and Secrecy

      Addicts are notorious for coming to group with intense sadness and shame. They have lived a long period of secrecy which has put them into emotional isolation and contributed to their emotional intimacy disorder. Although most men have found much relief from 12 step work as they see that they are not alone with their feelings; they are working with a sponsor and the group to put into action a 12 step recovery plan that attends to their desire for abstinence. Many of these men have needs for intensive therapy to heal the wounds of their childhood and to do deep repair work to enhance their sense of self and their relationships.

      Recurrent and predictable themes that are present in men's lives include:

      • Fear of Intimacy

      • Self-Esteem

      • Feeling Identification

      • Abuse Issues

      • Family of Origin Issues

      • Trust

      Clearly this is not an exhaustive or inclusive list, yet these themes present themselves repeatedly in an addict's life and when addressed in a group setting, allow the addict to practice healthy recovery skills that break the chains of the behaviors, and feelings that contributed to the sexual addiction. Group members will be expected to do the work in and outside of the group. They may be given homework assignments that may be addressed in group or may build the foundation for future group exercises.

      The Value of Group Exercises

      Group exercises teach men valuable skills that include learning how to:

      • Contain someone's anger without internalizing it.

      • Build conflict regulation and resolutions skills.

      • Identify the 5 primary emotions (anger, sadness, loneliness, fear and unhappiness) to reduce feelings of shame and guilt.

      • Process feelings in healthy ways.

      • Assert and communicate their feelings and needs.

      • Develop and embrace their own self-identity as a man in recovery vs. the addict.

      • Enhance their character strengths which empower them to create the life they have envisioned as a man of integrity.

      • Eliminate or manage depression and anxiety.

      • Decrease isolation, shame, and secrecy.

      • Increase the ability to show empathy to increase relationship skills.

      + The Group Process +

      There are many theories regarding group process. I have developed this group format based on the common needs of men in recovery that was assessed since starting therapeutic recovery groups. It has been helpful to utilize Bruce Tuckman's team development model (1965, 1970) to standardize the group process.

      Group dynamics requires a systematic process whereby the members are introduced to the group format which includes goals, expectations and rule setting. These clear-cut goals serve to enhance safety and allow men to build rapport with other members and the facilitators.

      FORM – Developing group cohesion

      NORM – Establishing group rules and expectations

      STORM – Conflict management, regulation and resolution

      PERFORM – Experiential and process work

      ADJOURN – Separation/closure from existing group and future goal identification

      Weekly Group Structure

      The following list provides a quick reference for all of the activities and exercises throughout the Weekly Group Structure highlighted in this manual.

      Week 1 – Form Stage

      • "What is a Recovering Addict?

      Week 2 – Form and Norm Stages

      • Check-in

      • Establishing Rules and Expectations

      • Accountability, Confidentiality and Commitment

      • Breaking Through the Insanity

      Exercises:

      • The Secret Life of an Addict

      • Defense Mechanisms

      • How Have I Damaged My Life?

      • Reasons to Believe that I Have No Control

      Weeks 3-7 – Form and Norm Stages

      Guided Meditation / Age Regression Exercise

      Use of a Transitional Object to Anchor Men

      How Did I Get Here?

      • Creating an Autobiographical Timeline

      • Charting Your Experiences with Sex

      • The Sex Timeline

      • The Arousal Template: The Enemy?

      • The Arousal Template Exercise

      Weeks 8-13 – Storm and Perform Stages

      Anger Exercises

      • Externalize the Anger

      • Yes-No: The Power Connection

      • Shredding Phonebooks

      • Vesuvius: Externalization of Anger and Development of Personal Boundaries

      Sexual Abuse Exercises

      • The Letter

      • Script or Play

      Fear of Conflict Exercises

      • The Clearing

      • Teflon Technique

      Trust Exercises

      • I Trust You the Most

      • I Trust You the Least

      • A Secret that You Don’t Know about Me Is

      Accountability Exercises

      • Cognitive Behavioral Exercises: The Chart Method

      Self-Esteem Exercises

      • Create Your Strengths List

      • Begin the Journey to Self-Parenting

      Enjoying the preview?
      Page 1 of 1