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    The Submissive Wife: Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel
    The Submissive Wife: Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel
    The Submissive Wife: Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel
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    The Submissive Wife: Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel

    By Tiffany Buckner

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    This powerful and on-time book is for single and married Christian women alike! Find out the power of submission in this detailed, thought-provoking read. In our culture today, the word "submission" is misunderstood, and because of this, many Christian households shun the idea of a wife submitting to her husband. As a result, God has been cut out of many marriages and Christian marriages are failing at the same rate as worldly marriages. In this powerful book, you will learn: •The differences between passiveness and submissiveness- The truth will shock you!
    •Why Satan hates submission.
    •The power and effectiveness of true submission.
    •How to submit to your husband, whether he's godly or ungodly.
    •When you are not required to submit.
    •The signs of a controlling man and how to avoid him.
    •How controlling men use money, scriptures and sex to manipulate and control their wives.
    •How the Jezebel spirit uses our fear of submission to establish itself as the governing authority over our households.
    •Signs and behaviors of the Jezebel spirit and how to rid your home of it.

    If you're single, this book will help to prepare you to be the wife God has designed you to be and help you avoid the many narcissistic devils that Satan has sent out to entrap you.
    If you're married, this book will help you to become the wife God has designed you to be and to change the temperature of your marriage from lukewarm to blessed.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTiffany Buckner
    Release dateApr 29, 2016
    ISBN9781311941800
    The Submissive Wife: Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel
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    Tiffany Buckner

    Tiffany Buckner is the founder of Anointed Fire. She is the author of more than 20 self help books, and she is the founder of Wise Her Still and Wise Him Up. A graphic designer by trade, Ms. Buckner is one of today's most sought after ministry branders.

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      I thanked God that I have found this book, and it opened my eyes of what does it mean to be a submissive wife. It is indeed a must read book to every wife who is struggling to be humble and submit herself to her husband. I really appreciate the author of this book as it helps me re-examine myself as a wife. I know it will take much strengths and wisdom but I know God will lead me.


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      Very encouraging book. Especially for women with a spouse that is an unbeliever.

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    The Submissive Wife - Tiffany Buckner

    The Submissive Wife

    Tiffany Buckner

    Copyright © 2016 by Tiffany Buckner

    All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permission of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. For permission requests, write to the publisher, addressed Attention: Permissions Coordinator, at the address below.

    Anointed Fire

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    Some names and identifying details have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals.

    I have tried to recreate events, locales and conversations from my memories of them. In order to maintain their anonymity in some instances I have changed the names of individuals and places, I may have changed some identifying characteristics and details such as physical properties, occupations and places of residence.

    This book is designed to provide information and motivation to our readers. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged to render any type of psychological, legal, or any other kind of professional advice. No warranties or guarantees are expressed or implied by the author, since every man has his own measure of faith. The individual author(s) shall not be liable for any physical, psychological, emotional, financial, or commercial damages, including; but not limited to, special, incidental, consequential or other damages. Our views and rights are the same: You are responsible for your own choices, actions, and results.

    Cover Illustration Copyright © 2016 by Anointed Fire™ House

    Cover design by Anointed Fire™ House

    Book design and production by Anointed Fire™ House (www.anointedfirehouse.com)

    All scriptures noted in this book were taken from the King James Bible, English Standard Version, New Living Translation and New International Version unless otherwise noted.

    Dedication

    I dedicate this book to the love of my life: YAHWEH. Thank You, Lord, for loving me and using me yet again. It is an honor to serve You and I pray that my life gives You more and more glory everyday.

    Table of Contents

    Author's Note

    Introduction

    How Satan Attacks Submission

    Why Satan Attacks Submission

    Common Misconceptions About Submission

    Passive versus Submissive

    Leadership versus Control

    Submitting to an Ungodly Husband

    Don't Stop God's Flow

    The Price of Submission

    The Power of Submission

    Husbands Submit Too

    Breaking the Strong Arm of Jezebel

    The Submissive Wife

    Scriptures About Submission

    Author's Note

    Dear Reader,

    First and foremost, let me say thank you for purchasing my newest book. It is definitely an honor and a privilege for me to serve the Lord through writing and through every avenue that He opens up for me. With that being said, I want to pre-warn you about what you're going to read.

    The word submission is almost considered a profane word in our day and age. This is because submission is misunderstood, plus, there are some people who simply do not agree with God, whether He makes His position clear or not. Some people just think that they know better than God and they think they would make a better god than He is. Of course, people who reason this way truly need salvation, deliverance, and a renewed heart and mind. Howbeit, this attitude, although not as brazen, is really common in our society today. Many people in the church think that they would do a better job running this earth than God does. This is evident in the fact that they choose what scriptures to follow and which ones to make obsolete in their lives. After they suffer the consequences of their choices, they get angry with God. After all, while in the midst of making those bad choices, they had been going to church, singing in the choir, wearing Christian tee shirts and doing a few charitable deeds here and there. But this doesn't move God. He wants our whole heart, not just pieces of our broken heart once it's been shattered.

    Some people are scared to write or preach about submission. We live in a society of Elijahs: people who are powerful enough to overthrow Jezebel, but are too afraid of her retaliation. That spirit has managed to somehow make many of today's leaders cower in the pulpits! Nevertheless, God has raised up a remnant who will not bow to Baal, nor will they be afraid to preach the uncomfortable, uncompromising Word of God to the nations. You may be that remnant seed. You may be a Jehu of your generation. If so, continue to seek the truth and continue to study and show yourself approved.

    I'm not here to slice up the Word and make it more palatable. The Word of God has to be served in its wholeness, otherwise, people don't get delivered. My assignment is to help prepare the women of God for their God-assigned husbands and help those who are married to better understand their roles in marriage. I had to do things the wrong way in order for me to understand the gospel that I preach today and to truly say that no word that came from God's mouth has ever fallen to the ground! I am a living witness to this. I fought with the Jezebel spirit for years; it was a generational curse in my family, and it was not easy getting free from that wicked spirit. Nevertheless, God set me free, but not before allowing me to learn the Devil's tactics so that I could come and warn you.

    The principality of Jezebel is so strong over our nation that it's somehow crept into the church undetected. Honestly, I've come across this spirit operating in the lives of so many people in the church, including some leaders. I can now truly understand why we had better walk by faith and not by sight! God said that you will know them by their fruit and many people in the church today are producing the wrong type of fruit. Please understand that we cannot pick and choose the scriptures we want to follow. We either serve God with all of our hearts and minds, or we don't serve Him at all. We can't be double-minded with God because that's the equivalent of being unstable and lukewarm.

    When you read this book, some of the information may be bitter to your soul. This is because we all have some level of deception in us that we need to be delivered from. So, I want you to pay attention to how you feel and what rises up in you as you read this book. At the same time, pray about every word that I've released in this book and let God lead you.

    Sincerely your sister in Christ,

    Tiffany AnointedFire Buckner

    Introduction

    Most of us know what the Bible says about a wife being submissive to her husband, but the average Christian woman does not know how to submit. Why is this? The answer is simple: We were taught to view submission as weakness. We were taught to live reactive lives rather than proactive ones. What does this mean? To be reactive is to respond to whatever circumstances life throws at us, whereas, being proactive means to set the tone for the lives we want in advance.

    At the same time, we've oftentimes mistaken broken women for submissive women, and we've seen what broken men have done to further break the women who dared to love them. So, we chose to harden our hearts, stiffen our necks and wage war against submission, but this war ended up defeating us. That's because when we fight against the Word of God, we end up fighting a battle that we cannot win. Nevertheless, this truth hasn't stopped women inside and outside of the church from rebelling against submission.

    In this powerful book, you will come to understand what submission is and the purpose for it. This book will help to prepare single women for marriage and it will help married women to have happier, healthier marriages.

    How Satan Attacks Submission

    If someone had approached me when I was in my twenties and told me that I was supposed to submit to a man, I would've fired off a series of choice words at them. In addition to scoffing at them, I would have called my friends and a few family members to tell them about my hilarious encounter with what I would've believed to be a barbaric and sexist human being. As a matter of fact, I would have talked about that person for a few days because telling me to submit to a man was no different (to me) than telling me to kiss the heel of that man's shoe. I didn't understand the word submission back then, and I didn’t have the best experiences with men, so the idea of submitting to one was like a bad joke.

    I gave my life to the Lord at the age of 21. It goes without saying that my mind was still very much worldly, nevertheless, I thought I was ready for marriage. I thought marriage was nothing but two people who romantically owned one another. I didn't have a problem being possessed by another human being, but I wanted that same right in return. My husband needed to understand that he was just as much my property as I was his. I thought that if we both grasped this concept, we could have a lifelong, happy marriage that would be equally satisfying to the both of us. It was obvious that I had no understanding of what submission was, therefore, I mapped out the life I wanted because it made sense to me. I didn't understand that my definition of marriage had been birthed in my broken state, and therefore, had been created to nurture my many wounds as well as protect me from any further harm. It goes without saying that when I did get married, the man I exchanged vows with was just as broken (if not more) than I was. In his broken state, he had also created a mental picture of what he believed marriage to be and what the role of the wife was. His picture conflicted with mine, so the arguments started. He needed to feel safe and so did I.

    Looking back, I can truly say that like most men and women, we both wanted the same thing. We wanted a marriage that lasted a lifetime, but our definitions and expectations of marriage were different. He knew that he wasn't a faithful man and, of course, he didn't express this to me; this was something I learned over the years with him. He knew that he was going to have extramarital affairs, but that didn't mean that he wanted to go from one relationship to the next. He wanted to have his loving, doting wife at home while he explored other women. He wanted his wife to intentionally stay in the dark about his affairs and to just be there for him because that was how he viewed marriage. His parents had been married for the majority of his life. They had gotten through some really hard times together; he wanted the same thing.

    I wanted a faithful husband. My parents had been married for sixteen years of my life and I witnessed what an extramarital affair could do to a family. Both of my parents had engaged in extramarital affairs, and my siblings and I had played referee one too many times when their arguments got out of hand. For the most part, my mom was a faithful woman. According to her, she had one extramarital affair and it was her way of retaliating against my dad for his many affairs. Their marriage had been riddled with so much pain, frustration, and disappointments that my siblings and I had spent the majority of our childhood stressed out and worried that we would end up as orphans. When my parents announced that they would be divorcing, I threw a party to celebrate the news. I could finally focus my attention on being a teenager and stop worrying about coming home to my father's dead body.

    When I realized that my ex was a cheater, it was then that I came to understand what he was fighting for. When two broken people get together, they don't always open up with one another about their true desires. Instead, they mask their desires behind well-crafted words and try to pass those words off as reasonable requests. His request was that I stop questioning him if he told me that he was going to go somewhere. Of course, this sounds reasonable, but to a wife who suspects that her husband is not a faithful man, those words are code for, Stop making it hard for me to cheat on you! Do you realize that I have to look over my shoulder every time I go to see my mistress? You're putting our marriage in danger by asking me questions because I'm not going to remember what I told you the first time and you'll eventually catch me in a lie!

    After years of fighting and dealing with my philandering husband's affairs, I finally gave up on our marriage and filed for divorce. He had validated my belief that submission was for weak women. We had fought about his affairs for the entire length of our marriage, and I believed that if I had stayed to him, I would have ended up:

    1. Catching a sexually transmitted disease from him someday.

    2. Helping him to raise the many children I knew he'd have with his mistresses.

    3. Being chronically miserable with no remedy.

    4. Despising him or being despised by him. After all, I believed that no man wanted a weak woman.

    5. Hating myself for allowing a man to repeatedly mistreat me.

    6. Killing him or being killed by him.

    Either way, I didn't see a good end for our marriage. Our marriage was quickly transitioning into our parents' marriages and I didn't want that.

    After we started going through the divorce proceedings, I told myself that I was simply refusing to be his dummy. I was standing up for what

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