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    Dirty Girls Come Clean
    Dirty Girls Come Clean
    Dirty Girls Come Clean
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    Dirty Girls Come Clean

    By Crystal Renaud and Anne Jackson

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    You are not alone.

    The sexual addictions of pornography and masturbation are not just men’s issues. They’re women’s issues, too. Research shows that 25% of Christian women are addicted to pornography. But 70% of these women will never admit their struggle.

    In Dirty Girls Come Clean, Crystal Renaud aims to change these statistics and help you gain freedom from sexual addiction.

    Why This Book?

    So often, ministries and tools for overcoming these sexual addictions are more accessible to men than they are to women. Even if these ministries and tools were accessible to women, they may not be as effective in giving freedom because women turn to pornography for different reasons than men do.

    Women need a resource crafted specifically for them.

    A Trusted Source

    Crystal, founder of Dirty Girls Ministries and AACC certified counselor, comes clean first. Her story of addiction to pornography began when she was 10 years old and continued and intensified for eight years.

    During this time of sexual addiction, Crystal deceived and withdrew. She came to know shame intimately, and she thought she was alone in her struggle.

    After coming clean about her sexual addiction, Crystal also includes stories of other women who have come clean about theirs.

    A Plan for Freedom

    Crystal is determined to help women come clean and, by God’s grace and power, get free.

    Addressing both the sexual addictions themselves as well as underlying issues that cause them, Crystal provides a plan for freedom using the acronym SCARS.

    • S—Surrender: Trusting the Healer
    • C—Confession: Out of the Darkness
    • A—Accountability: Restoring Our Character
    • R—Responsibility: Owning My Part of the Story
    • S—Sharing: God Never Wastes an Experience


    In addition to her plan for freedom from sexual addiction, Crystal provides other resources such as: personal inventories, the twelve steps of sexaholics anonymous, online accountability programs, other books, and links to recovery groups.

    Join Crystal and many others who have claimed freedom from sexual addiction. Now is your time to come clean and be free.

    “With the recent release of Crystal’s book Dirty Girls Come Clean women now have the tools they need to fight a battle that many assume only ensnares men.

    I can only imagine what kind of hope and encouragement this book is going to offer women who have believed for years, decades, that they were the only ones struggling and there was no hope for them.”

    -Book review by Marsha Fisher on porntopurity.com

    An Excerpt from the First Chapter:

    This book is for you, the woman who feels alone in addiction to pornography. I don’t believe in coincidences. This book is in your hands because God wants to speak some truth to you, and, for whatever reason, He’s chosen to use this book to do so.

    The dark cloud of this addiction is far-reaching. Pornography addiction knows no path other than one of destruction, isolation, and suffocation. Pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography addiction knows no gender.

    We are all sexual beings. If not, you and I would not be living on this earth. So to believe that pornography can only be a man’s problem is not only false, but it is an ignorant lie that comes from the enemy.

    The enemy, Satan, deceived Even in the garden of Eden by convincing her that if she ate the forbidden fruit, she would be like God. She in turn offered Adam the fruit, he took some, and as a result of their disobedience, they were expelled from the beautiful garden where they had enjoyed perfect fellowship with God. Satan’s goal was to destroy. And the enemy has been trying to destroy women ever since.

    From the first bite of forbidden fruit to pornography addiction, the enemy will u

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMoody Publishers
    Release dateApr 1, 2011
    ISBN9780802477798
    Dirty Girls Come Clean
    Author

    Crystal Renaud

    CRYSTAL RENAUD is Founder and Executive Director of Dirty Girls Ministries, a not-for-profit ministry helping women struggling with pornography and sexual addiction. Founded by Crystal in February 2009, the desire of Dirty Girls Ministries is to break through the stigmatic barriers that are keeping women in bondage to this addiction. Crystal has used the experience gained from her own 8-year pornography addiction to counsel hundreds of women as well as writes and speaks in various venues on the topic. Crystal is single and resides in the Kansas City area.

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    • 4/5
      For the few of you that follow my reviews I feel the need to say, I am not addicted to pornography! But if I was I would definitely have found this book very useful!Call me naive but when I thought of pornography addiction I generally only thought of it as a male problem. But as the author, Crystal Renaud, pointed, that's a big part of the problem. The women that do have an addiction feel they have no where to go and think that they have to face their problem alone. Thankfully now, there are resources for them. Crystal not only wrote this book, but founded "Dirty Girl Ministries," an organization aimed at helping women who are suffering from pornography addiction. One thing I really like about this book was that, even though it is a Christian self-help book, the author states,"I write this book from a Christian point of view because it's my personal belief that Jesus is the reason I stand free from pornography today. But as I said, pornography addiction knows no creed. Pornography affects everyone. So it is my hope that the steps provided throughout this book will be beneficial to all women, from all walks of life."I like that it isn't as exclusionary as other Christian self-help books can be, the author really tries to help everyone with this addiction. That being said it is very Jesus-centric but not enough to be a huge turn off for most non-Christians.This little manual contains, personal stories, writing prompts, surveys, tests, resources, testimonies, and more. I'm sure it is a massive help for those coping with pornography addiction. I've read self help books for drug addictions (again dear readers, I'm not suffering from drug addiction either, I just read a lot!) and many of the steps listed are similar.I received this book free from Moody Publishers in return for my honest, unbiased, opinion.

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    Dirty Girls Come Clean - Crystal Renaud

    "Honest. Powerful. Compassionate. Practical. Needed … are the words that came to mind when reading Crystal Renaud’s book Dirty Girls Come Clean. A great challenge for women of all ages to come clean!"

    CRAIG GROSS

    Founder of XXXchurch.com and author of Eyes of Integrity

    I appreciate Crystal Renaud’s honesty and courage in sharing her own struggles with a rarely discussed issue among women. By shedding light on this, she will no doubt help many women out of darkness and isolation.

    LARISSA LAM

    JCTV Host

    "Thanks to Dirty Girls Come Clean, Christian women now have a voice that describes their secret struggle with pornography. In this hope-filled volume, Crystal outlines a realistic process for ‘coming clean’ and helps women take those important first steps toward freedom."

    MARNIE C. FERREE, MA, LMFT

    Executive and Clinical Director of Bethesda Workshops; author of No Stones-Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction and L.I.F.E. Guide for Women.

    "Dirty Girls Come Clean is an excellent resource for women about the topic of sex, desire, and pornography. With story, honesty, hope, and lots of grace, Crystal Renaud takes this sensitive topic, one that often leads women toward guilt-filled dead ends, and reveals pathways toward forgiveness and healing."

    MATTHEW PAUL TURNER

    Author of Churched and Hear No Evil

    Crystal’s voice is unmistakably clear in a culture void of healing, comfort, and hope for the broken. If you are that girl, this book is for you.

    RENEE JOHNSON

    Speaker and author, www.devotionaldiva.com

    "The most powerful thing about Dirty Girls Come Clean is that Crystal goes first. Her willingness to openly share her struggles and road to sobriety creates a safe place for others to come clean. This book is so engaging and practical that I wouldn’t be surprised if both women and men are deeply impacted by reading it."

    DAVID TROTTER

    Author and speaker—LAUNCH52.com

    "Crystal tackles the taboo subject of pornography addiction and bares her soul in her courageous confessional of her own struggle with it. The testimonies of women in this book display hope and will profoundly inspire you. Dirty Girls Come Clean will give you a taste of freedom and you will see just how contagious that is."

    CINDY BEALL

    Author of Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken

    We’ve heard a lot about men and pornography, but precious little from women who struggle with porn addiction. If the adage ‘you’re only as sick as your secrets’ is true, then Crystal Renaud’s book will help a lot of women get out of their shame and secrecy and into the light of confession and healing

    SUSAN ISAACS

    Actress and author of Angry Conversations with God

    "Dirty Girls Come Clean is an honest, thoughtful and poignant treatment. The stories are a reminder to us that sexual temptations are not just a ‘guy’ thing. It honors the different ways in which women enter into struggles with sexual issues. Dirty Girls will be shocking to some, but the hope within it makes it a must read for those who want to take these issues head on."

    WILLIAM M. STRUTHERS, PhD

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    "You’re not alone. None of us are. Dirty Girls Come Clean is a must-read for all teenage girls as well as parents of teenage girls. Porn addiction for women is only a taboo subject because we’ve made it that way. It’s time to start talking and take away the hold it has over us."

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    DIRTY

    GIRLS

    COME CLEAN

    CRYSTAL RENAUD

    MOODY PUBLISHERS

    CHICAGO

    © 2011 by

    CRYSTAL RENAUD

    All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form without permission in writing from the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical articles or reviews.

    All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide.

    Scripture quotations marked NLT are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton Illinois 60189, U.S.A. All rights reserved.

    Scripture quotations marked ESV are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. Copyright © 2000, 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

    All websites and phone numbers listed herein are accurate at the time of publication but may change in the future or cease to exist. The listing of website references and resources does not imply publisher endorsement of the site’s entire contents. Groups and organizations are listed for informational purposes, and listing does not imply publisher endorsement of their activities.

    Edited by Pam Pugh

    Interior Design: Ragont Design

    Cover Design: Design by Julia

    Cover Image: iStock photo / Jim Jurica

    Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

    Renaud, Crystal.

       Dirty girls come clean / Crystal Renaud.

           p. cm.

       Includes bibliographical references. ISBN 978-0-8024-6300-5

       1. Pornography—Religious aspects—Christianity. 2. Christian women—Religious life. 3. Chastity. I. Title.

    BV4597.6.R46 2011

    241′.667082—dc22

    2010048873

    We hope you enjoy this book from Moody Publishers. Our goal is to provide high-quality, thought-provoking books and products that connect truth to your real needs and challenges. For more information on other books and products written and produced from a biblical perspective, go to www.moodypublishers.com or write to:

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    Printed in the United States of America

    To Dana (DeMoss) Bowman for being so much more than just a

    teacher, but a friend to a shy girl who needed one. And for helping

    me find my voice through the written word. For all those years ago

    and your friendship today, I’m so very thankful for you.

    Contents

    Foreword by Anne Jackson

    Walk Away—or Jump In

    Testimonial: I’ll Come Clean First

    1. From Wounded to Healed

    Testimonial: AmyChristine Comes Clean

    2. You Are Here

    Testimonial: Sarah Comes Clean

    3. S—Surrender: Trusting the Healer

    Testimonial: Chelsea Comes Clean

    4. C—Confession: Out of the Darkness

    Testimonial: Jenny Comes Clean

    5. A—Accountability: Restoring Our Character

    Testimonial: Charlotte Comes Clean

    6. R—Responsibility: Owning My Part of the Story

    Testimonial: Jennifer Comes Clean

    7. S—Sharing: God Never Wastes an Experience

    Testimonial: Stephanie Comes Clean

    8. It Is for Freedom

    Personal Inventories:

    For Those Seeking Freedom from Porn

    For Those (Mostly) Free from Bondage

    About the Author and Resources

    Notes

    Acknowledgments

    It’s Never Too Late

    FOREWORD

    Anne Jackson

    I thought I was the only one.

    As a sixteen-year-old girl, a combination of curiosity and hormones was the catalyst to me typing in three little letters on my family’s computer that would forever change my life. S - E - X.

    I pressed enter and the images, videos, and chat rooms took full control over the pixels on the computer screen and eventually, my life.

    I was hurting from an emotionally absent father, moving hundreds of miles away from my best friends, and an abusive relationship with a youth pastor ten years my senior. Internet pornography became medicine for the empty feelings of worthlessness that so often haunted me in my late teens.

    I moved out when I was seventeen, and my habit of looking at porn online only escalated. Soon, I’d be calling sex phone lines. And then I’d watch videos with friends. Everything I saw showed me that to be loved you needed to give sex. To be considered beautiful, you had to be naked. My online habits turned offline and I began meeting with random men and becoming physically involved with them. To this date, I couldn’t tell you any of their names or anything about them.

    My addiction to pornography and to love (please note the quotation marks—what I was doing with these men was certainly not love by any definition) was taking over my life. When I woke up from another random encounter half-dressed and fully clueless of where I was or what had happened, I realized something had to be done. I dressed myself, drove home, and took my computer to the Dumpster outside of my apartment.

    I walked back up the stairs and closed the door. For the first time in a very long time, I prayed to a God I wasn’t even sure existed anymore and begged Him to forgive me for all of the shameful things I did. Surely that confession was good enough and would remove the weight of the secrets I had been carrying for years.

    Nobody knew I looked at porn. After all, I was a girl. I thought I was the only one.

    Three years later, the shame and weight of my addiction (even though I had been sober for quite some time) was becoming too much to bear. I tearfully told a sweet girl named Kristi about all of the terrible things that colored my past. She held me as I cried, and helped me stay sober. She was my support, my accountability,

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