Bones From My Closet
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Bones From My Closet is an in-depth look at child and adult abuse, a true-life account of one woman’s life, as she travels through the murky waters of despair, anxiety and anguish. Her story is moving, and highlights the horrendous damage done to the psyche of anyone who is a victim of sexual abuse and rape. It is an eye-opener for women who have led a ‘normal’ life and a possible relief for victims of abuse to know that they are not alone in their daily struggle for survival and for a life of wellness.
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Bones From My Closet - Patricia Pigeau
Bones From My Closet
a memoir
a life’s
journey
into
wellness
Patricia Pigeau
Contents
Dedication
The Closet Writer
Chapter 1: Flying With the Angels
Chapter 2: Blending To Disappear
Chapter 3: Great Illusions
Chapter 4: Yearning to be
Chapter 5: New beginnings
Chapter 6: This Heavy Emptiness
Chapter 7: Hanging in there
Chapter 8: Striving to Fly… Again
Chapter 9: Hiding in Plain Sight
Chapter 10: Flying On My Own
Home on Island Lake
Epilogue
Copyright
Dedication
This book is dedicated to my daughters and
granddaughters, the precious Souls in my Life.
The Closet Writer
She senses the rush
Stacks down her bones
In the penumbra of her closet
Words cascading in a gush
In fluxes and defluxions
On scraps of paper
The tip of her pencil
Honed
Scratching and scratching.
Hush… Hush…
In the tepid darkness
She writes
She needs to listen
To this eager yearning
Unconventional
Nothing will stop her, nothing,
From spilling entrails on paper
As if barfing…
Nothing… Nothing…
She quivers at the thrust
Of the winds of November
Thinks of the dead leaves
Scattered under the snow
In the spring their bones will show
She forfeits the yearning for the emerald season
Then new ones will grow.
In her life’s tapestry
Woven with empty spaces
In her woes, futile places
In a frenzy
She scrolls from her bones
Shaking, rattling
The rest of her wasted, trashed
Fear iced her blood in a flash
Fires of anger thawed her heart
To total evaporation
Atrocities caged her mind
Fanged guilt gnawed at her flesh
Nothing is left except the bones
Sadness kicked out her soul
Ambulating amongst the dead
She is silenced
Her bleached relics
Piled deep in the closet
Keep unraveling in written form
Her silent screams
Gust after gust
Screams quashed,
Muffled, choked.
It happens again and again
She is nothing
Against ears not listening
Misunderstanding
Their aggravation rising
Against her naivety
Screwing guilt into her
She feels stupid, stupid, stupid
She has lost her voice
Again
Or really, has she?
Hush… Hush…
She still holds her pencil
Hears the deceptive silence
But her head is the catapult
Unconformity
Hush… Hush…
Will she be deafened by the insults?
Her inner rebellion will not subside
Compelled again
She proses the secrets she cannot tell
The lesson is learned
She cannot yell
Silence
For to one person told
The secret is no more
Confidential
Bullshit!
A false purveyor of secrecy
A slip…
And the hidden
Jags its way from ear to ear
Judges shredding the bits
Of life
Sanctioning her ways of knowing
Out of the way
How odd!
Dumb perception!
‘’So what else is new?"
She clams up
The lesson is learned
Runs from learned people as well
Never with a secret be bold
Aberrations better left untold
Tell no one is a must
Chimeras?
they say
For real she feels
The secrets are sealed
Under the protection of
Silence
Hush… Hush…
Her bones keep on writing, they must
Of parasites’ power and lust
How is one to conceal the secret?
Ashes!
Mutate them into ashes.
Transformation, absolutely!
Drawing nearer and nearer the inferno
In her closet she steadily vacillates
Staring in delight at the flames
As they consume the leftovers of her carcass
Her pencil now dulled
Ashes to ashes
Dust to dust
Her destiny etched in the holes of her tapestry
Burning
As her skeleton powders
Yet she must
Voiding noises and time
Go on
Writing
From her ashes
A powdery mound
Now.
Patricia Pigeau, 2006
Chapter 1: Flying With the Angels
I look at him, at his squinty eyes peering at me. I am lying down, my nappy undone. Exposed I am. I see this man hovering over me. He touches me down there between my spread out chubby thighs. He’s smiling through his thick wired glasses.
This bubble that opened in my brain lasted only a second but it remains etched forever.
I am lying face down on my mother’s lap as my siblings stand there, watching. She repeatedly hits my bare bottom with a hair brush. I cry out trying to wiggle out from under her arm and hand holding me down. She hits and hits again. I feel the pain. I cry out but she hits even harder.
Being a toddler, I have no perception of why she is doing this. This, as well, is a bubble that bursts in my brain.
Another bubble erupts:
The beating doesn’t stop. Crouching under her anger, fearing my mother I have learned to cover my head with my tiny arms and hands as if to protect myself from the blows. I don’t know why she is so angry. I don’t know why she hits me and screams. Not daring to move, I cry silently, feeling every blow.
Those are the first memories I have of my mother and my uncle.
He’s coming to get me … that big man with the scary glasses! I crouch under the kitchen table. He’s getting closer! Afraid, I cry but no one else is around.
Suddenly, silence. ‘Hush… Hush…’ he says, his finger on his tightly closed lips.
On this sunny afternoon I stand in awe of my oldest brother Daniel as he stands by the railing of the veranda. I think about how beautiful he is wearing his blue shirt and matching shorts. The dark bangs of hair feather his black eyes. As I stare at him, I feel proud that he is my brother. Silently, I stand there, loving him while he smiles at me.
We share a birthday: He is 7 and I am 2½ years old.
On this afternoon I sit on the kitchen counter as my grandmother whispers soothingly by my side. She is helping me slip on a white dress with red polka dots. For one moment I look towards the living room where people are whispering and crying. I see the white box covered with white ribbons. Daniel is lying in that box holding a rosary in his hands. I look at his head and think how beautiful he is. He is so still.
I’m still 2 ½ years old and don’t understand that he has died.
Later on I ask my mother what happened to Daniel. She doesn’t want to talk about it and it becomes a taboo issue. However with some indications from what the family is saying, at first I come to the conclusion that he had died from polio, and later on I thought it was leukemia. My thinking is of course, erratic and I remain with this untruth for many years.
I have often wondered how Daniel really died, that is, what was the cause of his death. When I was 48, my doctor asked for his hospital records. There on paper, was every indication that he died from meningitis partly caused by infection from decayed teeth. I am saddened by the knowledge that he could have been saved had he been given enough antibiotics.
I thought of my parents who were still grieving the loss of their first born son. On the other hand I do not understand why my mother let Daniel’s teeth go so bad. I’m certain that she realized her mistake because after Daniel’s death she had the doctor come in and anaesthetise us, one at a time, on the kitchen table, in order to pull out all of our rotted teeth. Even after that, we didn’t have the use of a toothbrush. Granted, we were very underprivileged and maybe my parents couldn’t afford that expense.
It is spring and I have just turned 5. In the bush, across from our street, the branches full of wild berries shade me from the sun. I stare at the ground covered in tiny mauve colored flowers! These are so beautiful! I think they are May Flowers and I slowly pick some for a bouquet. Freedom! Twirling on my tiptoes, I smile with glee. A gentle breeze caresses my body through the flowers printed onto my little cotton dress. I am happy and would stay there forever.
‘Why is she unravelling the wide roll of scotch tape?’
The sound of the rip smarts my ears. Pieces are cut and my mother tapes my mouth shut.
‘Why?’ I don’t know but perhaps it’s because I talk so much. I smell the glue on the tape. I want to cry out but I must still myself so not to irritate her more. Sitting here in the corner of the kitchen, oblivious to her, I stare at the white sheets pinned on the clotheslines that she had hung from the ceiling. She brought them in from the winter freeze. I suddenly think of Daniel in his white casket up there amongst the sheets.
A sunny, happy day! My cousin Betty is coming to live with us. Suddenly, I have a sister! As she climbs up the exterior steps leading to the main floor, I clap my hands in glee. She breaks out this most beautiful smile. She is seven years old…
I think … ‘I have a big sister now! How lucky I am!’
Holding her hand, I take her up to my room that now has twin beds and show her my doll, my tea set and some of my treasures. Of course we babble with each other and have fun.
I’m afraid! Yelling, my mother comes at me with the strap. I pee and feel it trickle down my legs, soaking my socks and shoes. I know the drill and I try to protect my legs and arms but with very little success. With each blow, a welt rises and burns.
I want to cry out, ‘Please don’t! Please!’ I do sob profusely. ‘I won’t do it again, I promise.’
Now, I must clean up the puddle on the floor. I mop in silence but