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    The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce
    The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce
    The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce
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    The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce

    By Tasha Mayes

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    Have you ever wanted to change someone? Did you change them and did it
    work? Have you become infatuated with someone else’s issues and problems,
    wondering if they just changed or fixed the issue then everything would be okay?

    Have you drained and wasted energy trying to change someone and gotten
    nowhere? News flash, you cannot change or control anyone. You can only control
    how you respond to that person in your life.

    Why did Ariella stay? She thought that if they went to church seeking help and
    prayer it would change her situation. Ariella was waiting for a miraculous answer
    to her prayers. Ariella was too overwhelmed with emotions and worry to find solutions to her
    problems. She questioned herself. She wanted to make sure that
    before she left Kaleb, that she would do everything she could to save her marriage.
    She decided that she would learn everything that she can do to make things better.

    She would give it her all, and if it came down to her leaving Kaleb, she would
    know she did everything to save her marriage and family. Ariella started to pray
    for answers that “God” would change him or help her. Ariella noticed Kaleb
    drifting away, not wanting to attend church, leaving the service early or not
    wanting to go, but she continued to go with the kids. She made excuses like: I
    don’t have enough money to leave. I can change Kaleb. If he is gone who will take
    out the trash? I don’t like being alone. He’s the father to my children.

    It takes two people to work at a marriage or a relationship. Are you the only one
    trying to find solutions for problems? Kaleb never admitted that he had an affair.
    To began healing from adultery the person who created the offense has to ask for
    forgiveness and sincerely mean it to start the healing process. If they think that
    they have done nothing wrong, the affair will repeat over and over again without
    remorse. Addictions will blind a person from determining right from wrong
    choices. Addictions numb the pain of the consequences of their choices and reality
    of the truth. You cannot seek regular steps to heal someone who has an addiction.

    You cannot seek help from people who do not have experience with addiction.

    Please use my story as a tool to help you identify the red flags that might appear in your relationship. I want to help you identify the problems and address them with solutions. This book will help you move forward with your relationships for a positive future outcome. I will help you expose the excuses and lies and help you discover the truth regarding your relationship. You will meditate on your current relationship and learn how to become healthy and successful. Stop finding excuses to stay in a chaotic marriage and start taking the steps required to fix it. I believe that if you seek the truth it will set you free. If you ask for something and earnestly look for it, you will find your answer. Do you want to find the truth or do you want to keep walking blindly into chaos?

    I believe that God has a plan, and his plan is not to harm or forsake you, but to give you a prosperous life. This book is for all of those who have struggled with the same issues as me. I just want to let you know that you are not alone.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTasha Mayes
    Release dateOct 27, 2016
    ISBN9781478734673
    The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce
    Author

    Tasha Mayes

    I wrote this book to teach people how to find help for their problematic marriage, separation and divorce. Please use my story as a tool to help you identify the red flags that might appear in your relationship. I want to help you identify the problems and address them with solutions. This book will help you move forward with your relationships for a positive future outcome. I will help you expose the excuses and lies and help you discover the truth regarding your relationship. You will meditate on your current relationship and learn how to become healthy and successful. Stop finding excuses to stay in a chaotic marriage and start taking the steps required to fix it. I believe that if you seek the truth it will set you free. If you ask for something and earnestly look for it, you will find your answer. I am a mother of 3 children residing in Florida.

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      The Pursuit of Happiness After an Divorce - Tasha Mayes

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      Introduction

      3 John 1:2, King James Version (KJV)

      "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and

      be in health, even as thy soul prospereth."

      I am just a regular person who will explain how I found help during the most chaotic time in my life: a time when I was hopeless and a cracked vessel. I pray that you may be able to use the tools and exercises provided to help you find peace in your life.

      I wrote this book to teach people how to find help for their problematic marriage, separation, and divorce. Please use my story as a tool to help you identify the red flags that might appear in your relationship. I want to help you identify the problems and address them with solutions. This book will help you move forward with your relationships for a positive future outcome. I will help you expose the excuses and lies and help you discover the truth regarding your relationship. You will meditate on your current relationship and learn how to become healthy and successful. Stop finding excuses to stay in a chaotic marriage and start taking the steps required to fix it. I believe that if you seek the truth, it will set you free. If you ask for something and earnestly look for it, you will find your answer.

      Do you want to find the truth, or do you want to keep walking blindly into chaos? A long time ago, I chose to be blind to many things and settled for less than I deserved. My goal now is to help people heal and find hope and peace inside their chaotic world. I hope my story helps you find help from within and with God or a higher power. I hope these exercises will help people who do not currently have a support group. They will teach you how to find and create a support group to lean on. I believe that we are not supposed to carry our burdens alone. I firmly believe that God has a plan, and his plan is not to harm or forsake you, but to give you a prosperous life.

      This book is for all of those who have struggled with the same issues as I have. I just want to let you know that you are not alone. I have been where you have been or are, and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

      Table of Contents

      Chapter 1: How We Met

      Reflections & Lessons

      Exercise

      Chapter 2: Start of Marriage

      Red Flag

      Exercise

      Fighting in Stages

      Reflection & Resources

      Chapter 3: Why’s Our Money Funny, Honey?

      Signs of Addiction

      Setting Boundaries

      Reflection & Red Flags

      Signs of Drug Addiction

      Reflections & Lessons

      Chapter 4: The Separation

      Reflection on Grief

      Facts about Grief

      Reflection & Lessons

      Chapter 5: Forgiveness

      Intervention & Rehab

      Final Reflections & Lessons

      Good Books for Further Reading

      1

      How We Met

      Ariella met Kaleb at her office about five years ago. Kaleb gave her training for a customer service position that Ariella did on her first day. Ariella was short and slim. A young, twenty-year-old single mother with a one-year-old daughter named Ruby. Kaleb was a very attractive twenty-eight-year-old single father of two children for whom he was paying child support. He was charming with an extremely nice and helpful personality. He was tall, handsome, and confident with one of those amazing smiles that just drew you in. When Ariella first met him, she was immediately attracted to his personality. His traits were so inviting and friendly. Ariella had an introverted personality, and Kaleb’s was so different than all the other men she was used to. He was very social and great with people. He was outgoing, and he could sell you a piece of crap and make a profit from it. Kaleb’s mom used to say that he was so full of crap his eyes were brown.

      During their first week together, Kaleb introduced Ariella to his beautiful daughters, Melissa and Cheryl. They were born from two other previous relationships.

      Ariella then introduced Kaleb to her one-year-old daughter Ruby, when he gave her a helping hand. One day, Ariella’s 1999 Chevy Lumina had issues with the radiator. It had started smoking like a steam train while she was on her way to work. It broke down a mile away from her job where Kaleb had been working. She called for help. Kaleb, tall, vibrant, chiseled, and handsome, came to the rescue and helped calm her fears. He gave her a ride in his small red car to take her daughter to day care and her to work. Ariella needed the help because without a car or transportation, she would have lost her new job.

      Ariella was infatuated with Kaleb. She always believed in love at first sight, and she thought she’d met the man of her dreams. She prayed that God would send her a husband because she wanted to get married. Kaleb was her superhero. He paid attention to her, and he helped

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