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    Lasting Marriage: Discovering God's Meaning and Purpose for Your Relationship
    Lasting Marriage: Discovering God's Meaning and Purpose for Your Relationship
    Lasting Marriage: Discovering God's Meaning and Purpose for Your Relationship
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    Lasting Marriage: Discovering God's Meaning and Purpose for Your Relationship

    By Dustin Heiner

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    Build Lasting Love, Intimacy, Joy & Happiness Into Your Marriage

    What if your marriage can be one of those success stories you hear about being more in love on your 50th wedding anniversary than on your first? What if you could enter into deeper levels of intimacy, love, and communication with your spouse than you ever thought possible?

    Amazon's bestselling author, Dustin Heiner shares his years of research and studying how God created marriage to be a blessing and intended to last forever. Based on years of research and implementing the proven marriage secrets from the bible, Dustin and Melissa Heiner have a marriage they could only dream about. Entering into a long list of godly men like John MacArthur, Francis Chan, Emerson Eggerichs, Timothy Keller, Gary Chapman, Gary L. Thomas, Dustin Heiner looks to the bible to understand how the Lord created marriage.

    Lasting Marriage gives you the wisdom you need to:
    • How to have healthy and loving relationship with your spouse
    • How to love and serve each other to grow and strengthen your marriage
    • How to be more in love on your 50th wedding anniversary than you were on your first
    • How to grow closer to your spouse as you grow closer to God
    • How to strengthen and build lasting love into your marriage for a healthy and loving relationship
    • How to divorce proof your marriage
    • How to develop deeper levels of intimacy with your spouse
    • How to prioritize things in your life to best strengthen your marriage
    • How to bless each other every day of your lives together
    • How to see your marriage become healthier, stronger, and more loving than ever before

    Buy this book NOW to grow and strengthen the love in your relationship and have a lasting marriage.

    Pick up your copy today by clicking the BUY NOW button at the top of this page!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherDustin Heiner
    Release dateNov 15, 2016
    ISBN9780997515572
    Lasting Marriage: Discovering God's Meaning and Purpose for Your Relationship
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    Dustin Heiner

    Dustin Heiner is an author who writes about his passions and experiences in life. He has 17+ years of Christian ministry experience and is passionate about Christian marriage. He also has a passion to teach people how he quit his job with passive income so he could spend more time with his family and be independent. Many people have been helped by Dustin and his wife Melissa in their marriages and investing in passive income. He and his beautiful wife live in Fresno CA. with their four children.

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      Here is what the book is about. Is your marriage living the true meaning and purpose of marriage? Do you want your marriage to last through all that life throws at you? Would you like to see your marriage benefit from having more love, joy, and intimacy?Lasting Marriage is an encouraging and insightful book that will help your marriage grow and strengthen in love and service to each other. You will learn how your marriage can become one of those success stories you hear about.You will be more in love with your spouse at your 50th wedding anniversary than on your wedding day. By knowing and applying God's meaning and purpose of marriage into your relationship, you will have a lasting marriage.Marriage is the union of two imperfect people into a lifelong relationship together. The truth is that marriage is rough. It is hard to live a long and lasting life with just one person without understanding how marriage was created to be.People just do not know how to have a successful marriage anymore. The problem is that each and every one of us can be selfish, self-centered, and unloving toward our spouse. Your marriage may look loving and caring from the outside but be unhealthy and hurtful on the inside.Learn time tested ways to build lasting love into your marriage for a healthy and loving relationship.Lasting Marriage gives you the wisdom you need to: Grow closer to your spouse as you grow closer to God. 3 ways to build lasting love in your marriage. Develop deeper levels of intimacy with your spouse. How to prioritize things in your life your life to best strengthen your marriage. Bless each other everyday of your lives together.Follow the advice of this book and you will see your marriage become healthier, stronger, and more loving than ever before. By implementing these principles into your marriage, you will see your marriage grow by leaps and bounds.What is stopping you from changing your marriage into a loving, joyful, and encouraging marriage where you and your spouse serve each other above all?I found this book to be very informative. I did learn a lot from it.I feel this book is geared more towards couples who are already married and who truly believe in Jesus Christ. People who are getting married should also read this book because it will prepare you for marriage if you want a Christ centered marriage.A word of advice make sure you have a bible with you because in this book there are bible verses in it. You will want to check your bible to see if the bible verses are correct.Happy Reading Everyone!

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    Lasting Marriage - Dustin Heiner

    You Too Can

    Have a Lasting

    Marriage

    God created marriage. No government subcommittee envisioned it. No social organization developed it. Marriage was conceived and born in the mind of God.

    Max Lucado

    Marriage was created to be a blessing for you and your spouse!

    It is absolutely possible for you to have a lasting marriage. One that blesses you, your spouse, your children, and everyone around you. Since marriage was created to be a lifelong commitment, it is designed to get better and more enjoyable the longer you are married. As you and your spouse delight in each other, your love will build and strength-en over time. If you desire to have a lasting marriage, you and your spouse can learn how to build into it a lasting love that nourishes each of your souls. With the principles and teachings in this book, you and your spouse will begin to bless each other through service, love, actions, deeds, submission, and holiness.

    Marriage does not have to be routine, bland, or unenjoyable. It can, and should be fulfilling, exciting, pleasurable, and a blessing. Your marriage can be one of those success stories you hear about, where you are more deeply in love with each other on your 50th wedding anniversary than you were on your 1st. Imagine you and your spouse having a 50th wedding anniversary, celebrating all the years of being together. All your friends, family, and loved ones are there celebrating with you for your successful marriage. Everyone will be asking you What is your secret to a lasting marriage? As you read through this book, you will come to understand exactly how to answer that question.

    In this book, we are going to learn God’s meaning and pur-pose for marriage. God created marriage so that you and your spouse can have a marriage filled with love, joy, blessings, and faithfulness. We will walk, step-by-step through actionable items for you and your spouse to begin strengthening your marriage. You will learn how husbands and wives are equal in standing with God and how He gave husbands and wives different roles to play in the marriage. These roles were specifically designed by God for us to live and fulfill in our own marriages.

    This book will not fix your marriage in a week. It will take time to build these key principles into your marriage.

    The key to marriage is simple: Know, understand, and apply the meaning and purpose of marriage as it was intended to be by the Creator of marriage.

    It may be that your marriage is currently struggling to stay together. You may be going through tough times right now and have little to no love for your spouse. The truth is, marriage is hard work. It takes intentionality, perseverance, and direction to make it work. Even though things may be rough now, you can learn how to have a successful and healthy marriage. The key to marriage is simple: Know, understand, and apply the meaning and purpose of marriage as it was intended to be by the Creator of marriage. By learning and applying these truths, you will understand the way to have a healthy and love-filled marriage. This can only be done by learning how it was designed by the One who created it. Once you know and implement God’s design, your marriage will become a blessing to you and your spouse.

    The reason why marriage can be burdensome is because no one is perfect. We are all flawed human beings that tend be selfish and self-centered, rather than selfless and humble. When two flawed human beings are brought together in marriage, they create a flawed marriage. Try as we might, left to our own devices, our marriages can only be average at best. This is because we do not naturally live into the way God designed marriage to be. As flawed human beings, we have a tendency to only serve our-selves while being selfish and self-centered in our actions. Your spouse is the way they are because they are not perfect. You are the way you are because you are not perfect either.

    This is an exciting time for you and your spouse! As you implement these principles into your marriage, you will begin to experience all the blessings God has in store for you. Your relationship with your spouse is meant to be a marathon, not a sprint. At the end of it all though, you and your spouse will be blessed and have a healthy and successful marriage. Begin today to pray for you, your spouse, and your marriage and God will start changing your marriage now to be a lasting one. Get ready for God to help you have a lasting marriage that is a blessing to everyone and glorifies God.

    HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS BOOK

    This book is designed to be informative as well as practical. The information and principles taught in this book will help you to understand the meaning and purpose of marriage. We will use the Bible as our guide and learn how to apply it to our marriages. The Scripture used in this book was not used to prove a point but rather the points are made to prove the Scripture. The Bible will speak for itself and we will build our lasting marriage around it.

    All throughout this book you will find that the Scripture is the foundation and all points are drawn from it. There are many places where a Bible verse is referenced but not specifically writ-ten out and others where the Scripture is spelled out exactly as it is in the English Standard Version Bible (ESV). In both cases, I encourage you to use your own Bible as a guide and not take my word for it. When you come across the verse that you do not know, I encourage you to find it in your Bible and read it for yourself. The Bible is the most important thing that you and I could ever read. The more we read it the more we can know God and know how to glorify Him.

    As you read through this book, you will find there are sections called Growing Your Marriage. These sections are designed to help you implement God’s design of marriage into your own marriage. These sections contain practical applications for you to work through and put into practice in your marriage. These sections have fantastic practical application that accompanies the rest of the information given in the book. Both the practical and informative sections of this book are made to go in tandem. Reading one without the other will give you only part of the big picture.

    MARRIAGE COVENANT

    On your wedding day, you made a covenant with your spouse in front of many witnesses and God. If you’re like most people, the entire day felt like a blur because there was so much going on and you had so much on your mind. Think back to your wedding vows that you made with your spouse. That time just before the end of the ceremony where the person officiating your wedding asks you to recite the wedding vows. When it comes to your turn to hear all the wedding vows and then re-ply I do. Many people remember the entire day but sometimes forget the vows they made that day to their spouse.

    Today, let’s make another vow. This vow is a covenant from today forward to live intentionally in the meaning and purpose of marriage as created by God. This marriage covenant is be-tween you, your spouse, and God. Read through the section that applies to you & sign your name at the bottom. If you want to download the physical version of this marriage covenant, go to: www.lastingministry.com/covenant . Here you will be able to download and print out a marriage covenant that you will be able to frame and place on a wall in your house as a daily reminder to yourself and others who see it that you made a covenant with your spouse to live into a lasting marriage with each other.

    Who Should

    Read This

    Book

    Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.

    Martin Luther

    Marriage has been around since the beginning of time, and as hard as it is, it has not gotten any easier. Most people know that marriage is hard work, but not many actually try to learn how to strengthen it or make it successful. The stories, principles, and practices in this book will apply to you and your marriage. There is age old wisdom, handed down from couple to couple in this book that will challenge you to grow and strengthen your relationship with your spouse.

    This book is for everyone who desires to create a deeper and more meaningful marriage. Even though this book is written with its foundation on the Bible, people who do not believe in the Bible will see their relationship strengthened and become healthy as a result of putting these principles into action. They have with-stood the test of time and they will last beyond your marriage to all future generations.

    People just do not want to work on their marriages anymore. With failed marriage after failed marriage, society is losing the wisdom on how to have a successful marriage.

    It seems as though it is getting harder and harder to stay married in the 21st century. People just do not want to work on their marriages anymore. With failed marriage after failed marriage, society is losing the wisdom on how to have a successful marriage. It is no secret that marriages in the world are losing. Everywhere you look, you see divorces and breakups for some reason or another.

    In the world today, there is an onslaught of gossip and tabloid news telling of the most recent breakup in the celebrity world. With marriage under such strong oppression, it is no wonder why there are more divorces today than ever before. One of the newest reasons for divorce is irreconcilable differences. Divorce is so prevalent that a made up reason like irreconcilable differences can be used as grounds for divorce. Divorce is permitted as a no-fault divorce so no one person is blamed for the divorce (i.e. adultery). This is a way to get out of the marriage on agreeable terms so both parties can just walk away from it.

    There are also fewer and fewer marriages taking place be-cause young people do not see the need or value of marriage. The Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) has found that there are more singles in the world than there are married people. Since 1976, the BLS has been tracking data of all kinds including the rate of unmarried adults. In 1976, the unmarried rate for adults was at 37.4%. In September 2014, for the first time ever, the BLS statistics showed that unmarried adults outnumbered married adults. The percent of unmarried adults has grown to 50.2% of the population. Marriage is less and less a part of the American culture than all the previous years.

    It stands to reason that most marriages don’t work because people do not learn how to be married anymore. In America, most of the population seems to get their morals, beliefs, and wisdom from celebrities who fail at marriage all the time. It may not be that all celebrities fail at marriage but it seems as though divorce is prevalent in Hollywood. The topic of divorce grabs peoples’ attention as breaking news. News stations, tabloids, gossip shows, etc. love to talk about divorce. It is not sexy or fascinating to hear about a successfully happy marriage. That type of thing does not sell. The media and news is looking for a shock factor to grab viewers’ attention and divorce is the way to do it. People want to feel good about themselves and learning about the misery of others helps them to do that.

    By seeing a successful celebrity, who has lots of money, many fans, fancy cars, and many homes, finally fail at something, it is human nature to feel a little proud that we are not as bad as them. In reality, everyone has failed in some way, shape or form. Romans 3:23 says that All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. I have failed, you have failed, the next big celebrity has failed, and fallen short of the glory of God.

    When all you see is marriages breaking up, it is hard to not get jaded and disenfranchised about the entire institution of marriage.

    Lasting Marriage is a book designed to help you to learn how God intended marriage to be from the beginning. God designed marriage to be a blessing to you and your spouse. It is not meant to be a curse or a hindrance and should not get worse the longer you are married. Since marriage is meant to be until death do you part it is meant to get better over time as you and your spouse grow to love and serve each other above your-self. Marriage does take hard work and intentionality to make it strong and healthy.

    This book is not a fix-all to all your marriage and relationship problems. There are many scenarios and circumstances that can occur in marriage that go outside the scope of this book. The scope of this book is to build a strong foundation for a successful and godly marriage. With these biblical truths, your marriage will honor the Lord and grow to become a lasting marriage. Along with biblical truths, this book will help you to learn the principles and time tested wisdom you can use to help grow and strengthen your marriage. As you implement the wisdom in this book into your relationship, you will strengthen it and make your marriage a lasting marriage.

    Be sure to implement the action items found in this book. They are designed to help you strengthen your relationship with your spouse. Your desire should be for you to be better no matter if you feel your spouse is doing the same. As you work on yourself, you will see the positive effects on your spouse. As your spouse works on their self, you will see positive effects on you. When you both work on yourselves independently of each other, trying to be a better spouse, your marriage will blossom, flourish, and thrive.

    The end goal of this book is for your marriage to be healthy and strong, with a hedge of protection around it. God bless you as you seek to cultivate a lasting marriage!

    Ground Rules

    To Strengthen

    Your Marriage

    Many conflicts in a marriage result from living to please self instead of living to please the Lord. These conflicts can be resolved and are actually opportunities for spiritual growth when dealt with in a biblical manner.

    John C. Broger

    While you are reading and applying this book to your marriage, I’m going to ask you to do some-thing very hard for most people to do. Don’t worry, I would not ask you to do it if I was not willing to do it myself. The Bible says that those who teach will be judged more strictly (James 3:1) and if I don’t follow what I’m teaching God will hold me accountable for not doing as I preach.

    I am going to lay down some ground rules for each of you to follow as you read through this book. Trust me, if you follow these ground rules your marriage will change for the better. As you submit to the Lord you will see Him at work in your marriage. Left on our own, we will not change for the better. We need the Holy Spirit to come upon each of us to change us from the inside out because that is the only change that is lasting.

    First Ground Rule: Only think about how this book applies to you. Do not think about how it applies to your spouse.

    3Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? 4Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

    Matthew 7:3-5 ESV

    What Jesus is saying here is that it is easier for everyone to see a flaw in another person no matter how small it is. In contrast, it is hard to see our own flaws even if they are as big as a log in our own eye. It can be that we choose not to acknowledge the log that is in our own eye because we don’t see it or are completely ignorant to it. In other words, it is easier to see the fault in somebody else than to see it in yourself. As you read this book, fight to focus only on yourself and how YOU need to change. Don’t think, I hope my spouse reads this! Be humble and pray the Lord changes you. The only person you can change is yourself. It is impossible for you to change your spouse to fit your desires. Pray for the Lord to do all the work in changing your spouse. Leave it up to the Holy Spirit who can change all of us for the better.

    Be humble and pray the Lord changes you. The only person you can change is yourself.

    I encourage you to flee from the temptation to read this book through the lens of how your spouse needs to learn and change. No matter how much arguing, complaining, nagging, and provoking you do to try and make your spouse change, the change you receive will not be the one you desire. They will most likely become resistant, hard, and possibly resent you for not being loving or respectful. As you try to change your spouse, you may be seen as a hypocrite doing exactly what you are saying they should not do. Since you can only change yourself, only read this book through the lens that it will help you to be a better spouse. In the end, this should be your number one goal: To be a better spouse. If you focus on yourself, and your spouse focuses on their self, marriage will get easier, better, and become more of a blessing. The way to do that is to seek to outdo each other in service to the marriage and each other.

    Second Ground Rule: Pray for the Lord to change you to be more like His Son Jesus Christ.

    7Consecrate yourselves, therefore, and be holy, for I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 20:7 ESV

    The Lord created a path for us to follow in how we can be Holy as He is Holy and that is by becoming imitators of Jesus Christ. The goal for every Christ follower is to be more like God’s Son Jesus Christ. We are all called to abide in Christ and the ultimate goal for every married person should be to be a more Christ-like spouse in your marriage. Jesus Christ never did anything wrong. He never acted out of pride, never lied to cover up something He did, and never sinned. If we strive to be like Jesus Christ and refrain from sinning in our marriage, we will be

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