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    This Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship
    This Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship
    This Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship
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    This Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship

    By Faith I. Adede

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    There’s adequate provision for you to handle the inadequacies of your partner by developing your virtues and applying the wisdom of God. In this book, Faith presents the kit and guidelines to effect the change you desire and to press on to new levels of fulfillment in your relationship.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateJun 1, 2017
    ISBN9789785516531
    This Relationship Must Work!: 21 Keys to Building a Successful Relationship

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      This Relationship Must Work! - Faith I. Adede

      season.

      Chapter One

      The Place of Understanding

      A man who is in honour, yet does not understand,

      is like a beast that perish.

      Psalms 49:20

      One of the reasons why many relationships are failing is because of lack of wisdom and understanding required to nurture and keep them. Often times, we are not even aware of God’s provisions. We struggle and in most cases lose our relevance in the process, all in a bid to just keep our relationships going.

      Most relationships crash because of selfishness and self-interest. The me, myself and I syndrome has ruined many relationships that could have excelled. Some people enter into relationship that are not even worth entering at all because they want to be loved at all cost.

      Wherefore be ye not unwise but understanding

      what the will of the LORD is.

      Ephesians 5:17

      It is not a sin to desire to be loved. God put that feeling and desire inside of us but definitely not for the wrong purpose. Don’t permit your longing for love to paralyze your initiative and sound reasoning. Never allow your desire to enslave you. When you have a proper understanding of what God has said about your relationship and the provisions He has already made, you will be able to handle these vital issues that might push you to derail just because you are hungry for love. Good understanding will save you from a whole lot of trouble.

      For instance, who would have ever thought that God cares for ordinary sparrows to provide them homes?

      Even the sparrows has found her home, And the swallow

      a nest for herself, Where she may lay her young…

      Psalms 84:3 NKJV

      If the sparrows can find her home, then nothing should stop you from finding yours. You are worth more than the birds of the air. If God will be this gracious to permit sparrows to have their mates, then yours is a settled case. Who said you will never be married and have your own home? The faithfulness of God surpasses our five senses. Accept the simplicity of this truth and believe God for your dream home.

      The Scripture states that after Mary was visited by angel Gabriel with a prophecy of the birth of Jesus Christ, and she conceived, she visited her cousin Elizabeth and spent three months with her after which she returned to her house.

      And Mary abode with her about three months,

      and returned to her own house.

      Luke 1:56

      Mary returned to her home. She didn’t remain in Elizabeth’s house forever because she had her own home. Hear this: every woman has her proper home! It is what you see about yourself that matters. It doesn’t matter how you tend to interpret it. If you have a good understanding of this simple truth, trust me, you will not present a married man to God and ask Him to convert him to your husband, or ask Him to repair that dead relationship for you. There is need to stress this simple truth so as to stabilize your hope that you have a place in God’s agenda to birth a Christian home for Jesus to His glory and advancement of His Kingdom here on earth, and for your personal fulfillment.

      The emergence of your home begins with your Biblical understanding of what God had said about you and your marital life. God says you have a home. Your anticipated home must be hewn with the pillars that will fortify its foundation. Storms are real but having your foundation in Christ, the Solid Rock will guarantee your stability in the days of storm.

      Everything that makes the home work is centered

      around a wisdom walk.

      God is very concerned and particular about your foundation and how you build. God has already given you a home. All you need is to find it and then take heed how you build. The building of your home lies principally on your wisdom. Wisdom is the resource you need to build your home. Without wisdom, there is no home.

      Through wisdom an house is builded;

      And by understanding it is established.

      Proverbs 24:3

      Why is the Bible so particular about the wise woman building her house? (Proverbs 14:1). You have a home! The destiny of your home lies in your hands either to build it or pull it down with your hands. Every home you admire is built by someone. There is a builder somewhere moving the home forward, fixing what needs to be fixed, adjusting whatever needs to be adjusted.

      God respects the home so much that He asked Abraham to listen to Sarah his wife and do as she had said when the peace in their home was threatened because of the presence of Ishmael and Hagar. God preferred Hagar and her son to leave than for Abraham’s household to suffer crisis.

      When the environment of your home is welcoming

      to the presence of the Holy Spirit,

      God will tabernacle there.

      Abraham misinterpreted it as an act of wickedness to send Hagar and Ishmael away but God saw beyond that. Why would the son of a bond woman mock the child of promise after all? He deserved to leave!  (Genesis 21:8-12). If you are yet to discover your home, there is wisdom deficiency somewhere.

      Two women can never own one home. God never designed it that way. If God did not forget the sparrows, then be sure that you are engrafted in His program and agenda to have your own home.

      Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings,

      and not one of them is forgotten before God?

      But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered.

      Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.

      Luke 12:6-7

      What are your views about marriage? What traditions are you holding firm to? Agree with God’s will for your marriage. Do you believe you have a home or you have settled with the lie that there are no more good men? Have you decided to pitch your tent in another woman’s home, believing that is the best for you? You need to vacate that home today and trust God for your own.

      God has promised that He has given you to one husband, the one He has ordained from the foundation of the world to do you good and accept you the way you are. He espoused Mary to Joseph and blessed their union. What makes you think that you cannot find your home when even birds have found theirs? (Psalms 104:12, 17 NKJV).

      As you understand the mind of God concerning your expectations, they shall be granted in Jesus’ name!

      Chapter Two

      Follow the Process

      For precept must be upon precept, precept upon precept;

      line upon line, line upon line; here a little, and there a little.

      Isaiah 28:10

      We live in a world of instant gratification. Everybody seem to be in such a hurry and wants quick-fixes. However, most things of lasting value are not programmed to happen overnight. The wisdom of God has set some things to respond to times and seasons. Of course, every product of value goes through a manufacturing process. The happenings of life are tied to processes, times and seasons. If you must get the desired result in such instances, the process must be keenly followed.

      Most of the quick fix things we crave for don’t often work out well. God is interested in the quality of the blessing you get than your quick fix arrangements. God wants to give you a testimony that will humble the proud and surprise you but it will require your following the process.

      If a foetus forces its way out from the mother’s womb before the ordained nine months, it arrives as a premature baby with slim chance of survival in the new environment.  Birthing a child is a process that takes a cycle of nine months. It takes a process of nine months for the baby to grow to full maturity and be born.

      The wholesomeness and survival of a baby is rooted in its being born fully mature and strong, having undergone the nurturing process of nine months in the mother’s womb.

      … So is the Kingdom of God, as if a man should cast seed into the ground;

      And should sleep, and rise night and day,

      and the seed should spring and grow up, he knoweth not how.

      For the earth bringeth forth fruit of herself; first the blade,

      then the ear, after that the full corn in the ear.

      Mark 4:26-28

      A day or two after the seed is sown; it may appear as if nothing is happening. It takes days and sometimes weeks and months for seeds to show visible signs of life, depending on the character of the seed and the conditions around it. However, when the seed assumes a process of change and maturity it results in the blade, the ear and the full corn.

      There is a time to hide and build yourself to match

      The great task ahead of you.

      There are preparations for every stage in life.

      Of Jesus Christ it was said,

      And the Child grew, and waxed strong in spirit,

      and was in the deserts till the day of His showing unto Israel.

      Luke 1:80

      God is not a magician. He respects principles and protocols. You can’t breach one principle after another and expect Him to do wonders in your life. If you desire the blessing that makes rich and adds no sorrow, then follow the process. The greatest test in every field of human endeavour is the test of time and season. It is as crucial as the blessing itself. Your timing might not agree with God’s timing. This is because, you are limited. God is the originator of time and He uses it as He pleases to accomplish divine purpose.

      When you feel life is stretching you beyond your limits, too hard to comprehend, remember His grace is sufficient for you. Dare to go through the process. The wonderful assurance that God is working all things for your good will empower you to succeed. (Romans 8:28). You need to persevere in your quest so that when you have done the will of God, you can obtain the promise. (Hebrews 6:15). Allow everything to fall in place as God has purposed them to happen per time. Your marriage is a construction project. The Bible says,

      … Every house is builded by some man…

      Hebrews 3:4 (Emphasis mine)

      Homes are built. You can attain the height that you desire in marriage when you follow the process of building it up. You cannot see the full picture of your life if you don’t persevere through the building process. Processing period is a preparatory period to enter into your expectations in life.

      How you journey through the processing period matters a lot. In the journey of life, there are detours and gradients. Every point calls for skillful application of

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