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    Overcoming the Root that Destroys Marriages
    Overcoming the Root that Destroys Marriages
    Overcoming the Root that Destroys Marriages
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    Overcoming the Root that Destroys Marriages

    By Siyabonga Manqele

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    Overcoming the ROOT that Destroys Marriages is a detailed guideline on how to overcome the enemy (Devil) when he uses every technique to destroy you and your marriage. This book will help you understand God’s heart and destroy traditional myths that have kept us bound to the Devil for generations. It will teach you how to resist the Devil and make your marriage work again through the power of the Holy Spirit.

    This book is an asset to those who have been married for years, a good guide for those who recently got married and a source of wisdom for those who are single and hoping to get married soon.

    This book reveals all the hidden secrets you didn’t know about marriage. It exposes the Devil’s schemes that he uses to destroy marriages and it also shows the power of God when you are faithfully trusting in God’s Word.

    The book contains 18 detailed chapters on topics like:

    Our differences
    Generational curses
    Scars and pains from the past
    Anger
    Sex
    Life of the Holy Spirit
    Communication
    Jealousy, etc.

    Reading this book will change your mind and change the way you look at your partner. It will surely restore your marriage back to a place where God wants it to be.

    “This book is a true testimonial of the power of Jesus working in my life when He restored my broken marriage. Everything written in this book is based on the word of God; it is inspired by the Holy Spirit, and it reveals God’s heart about our marriages.” (Siyabonga Manqele)

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherSiyabonga Manqele
    Release dateOct 3, 2017
    ISBN9781370058341
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      Overcoming the Root that Destroys Marriages - Siyabonga Manqele

      Overcoming the ROOT that Destroys Marriages

      (all hidden secrets revealed)

      Overcoming the ROOT that Destroys Marriages

      (all hidden secrets revealed)

      Siyabonga Manqele

      Copyright © 2017 Siyabonga Manqele

      First edition 2017

      Published by Siyabonga Manqele Publishing at Smashwords

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or any information storage or retrieval system without permission from the copyright holder.

      The Author has made every effort to trace and acknowledge sources/resources/individuals. In the event that any images/information have been incorrectly attributed or credited, the Author will be pleased to rectify these omissions at the earliest opportunity.

      Published by Siyabonga Manqele using Reach Publishers’ services,

      P O Box 1384, Wandsbeck, South Africa, 3631

      Printed and bound by Novus Print Solutions

      Edited by Vanessa Finaughty and

      Marzanne Janse van Rensburgh for Reach Publishers

      Cover designed by Reach Publishers

      Website: www.reachpublishers.co.za

      E-mail: reach@webstorm.co.za

      Contents

      Acknowledgements

      Introduction

      Chapter 1. Our Differences

      Chapter 2. Scars and Pains from the Past

      Chapter 3. Generational Curses

      Chapter 4. Love (What is Love?)

      Chapter 5. Respect

      Chapter 6. Communication

      Chapter 7. Involvement of Family in Marriages

      Chapter 8. Do You Trust Your Partner?

      Chapter 9. Grace of God

      Chapter 10. Being Stripped of the Glory of God

      Chapter 11. The Life of the Holy Spirit in Us

      Chapter 12. Anger

      Chapter 13. Jealousy

      Chapter 14. Money 104

      Chapter 15. Cheating (Adultery)

      Chapter 16. Sex

      Chapter 17. Taming Your Tongue

      Chapter 18. Why is Marriage so Important?

      Profile – Siyabonga Manqele

      Dedication

      To my father God, who enabled me to write this book, I appreciate all You have done. I love you Jesus.

      To all couples who are going through the burning fiery furnace, know that God is walking with you through it. No hair will be burnt from your skin and not even the smell of fire will be evident in you in Jesus’ name.

      Acknowledgements

      To my God, Lord I have done what You asked of me. I didn’t do it because I have strength to write this book, but I trusted in You for provision and success of this book. I wrote it without a famous name attached to me or a great title, but You wanted a normal human being who was struggling and failing to write this book so that it can touch other normal couples all over the world who are struggling in their marriages. All glory be unto You my heavenly Father. Thank you, Holy Spirit, for everything you taught me. It has kept my marriage alive. My wife and I were a fallible couple, but through our mistakes and failures you purified us with your Word to be the light to others and be the salt to those who are struggling. Thank you Jesus for the strength You gave me. Without You in my life, I would have given up, but You remained faithful to me. I love you Jesus.

      To my lovely and beautiful wife, Nomfundo Manqele, we have been through storms and fire, but God held us by the hand. Thank you for supporting me and fighting for our marriage. May God wipe away all your tears and give you the desires of your heart. I love you so much. You are my friend, my helper and the mother of my children.

      To my two beautiful daughters Lukhuthando and Sinakhokonke, I love you with all my heart. God gave us the privilege of raising you and I pray that we will raise you according to God’s will.

      To the Manqele family, thank you. I love all of you. To the Sithole family, thank you so much for always being there for me. To my friends, work colleagues and all church leaders who inspired me to write this book, I thank you.

      Introduction

      I wrote this book because many couples are going through hardship, rejections, pains and scars in their marriages and my wife and I went through this in our marriage. I want to help those who are planning to get married and those who are married and going through tough times in their marriages. I want to encourage couples to share their testimonials and realise that God is always there for us.

      By writing this book, I am not suggesting that we are the most perfect couple in the world. My wife and I still face challenges and we still argue about things. The Devil still puts up barriers between us, but we have learnt to depend on God for our protection and to keep our marriage strong.

      If you found a perfect partner whom you agree with in all things, it is by the grace of God and you are truly blessed. Some couples are so different to the point where they feel like they made the wrong choice. Sometimes they even wonder whether they married somebody else’s wife or husband because it feels like there is no connection between them. The truth is God will never allow something to happen in your life that was not supposed to happen because He knew us before we were even born. So, the person you are with is the right person for you. If God was able to take dust of the Earth and combine it with His spirit to form a living soul, don’t you think that these differences are the major attributes that attracted these people? Any differences you may be experiencing, are miracles of life. You are so blessed by God and all you need now is to learn how to live together as one in your relationship.

      This book is an encouragement that God loves us even when we have made mistakes. He will forgive us if we confess our sins to Him. As you read this book, be encouraged, be motivated to do better to your partner and be inspired to follow God’s principles in order to change your life for the better.

      If you are not married, reading this book will give you an understanding that will change you so that when you meet your life partner, you will be able to understand him or her and live with your partner in peace. It is better to have knowledge and wisdom about marriages before you enter into it so that you can protect your marriage well in advance.

      God is a loving father. He has always been with you in your marriage. So, I urge you to overcome this root that destroys your marriage, the Devil, and rest on God’s promises. Thank you for taking time to read this book. You will be blessed and transformed into a new way of thinking in Jesus’ name, Amen.

      Chapter 1

      Our Differences

       Our differences is one of the things that affect our marriages the most. The way we were brought up by our parents and how our communities influence us, contribute to the way we behave in our marriages. The way men behave and think is completely different from the way women think and do things.

       My physical sciences lecturer made a good comparison between marriage and table salt. Table salt consists of sodium and chlorine atoms.

      Sodium is a metal with a shiny appearance and it is a good conductor of electricity. It is also a highly reactive metal.

      Chlorine gas is a highly irritating gas with a suffocating smell. It is highly corrosive and is a very toxic gas. It is very poisonous and can kill you if you inhale it.

      When these two substances (sodium and chlorine) combine during a chemical reaction, they lose all their initial properties and produce salt – the type we eat. Sodium loses all its properties of being a metal and chlorine loses all its properties of being a very dangerous toxic gas. The combination of these two elements is something so nice that many people can’t eat food without it. We use salt mainly for two things: As a preservative and as a condiment. As a preservative, it keeps things from rotting by absorbing the rottenness, thus causing things to last longer. Sea water is full of salt and, when animals or people die in the ocean, the salt absorbs the rottenness and prevents the sea from having a foul smell. As a condiment, we use salt to flavour our food, to make it taste better. The production of salt is a miracle in its own right – combining a metal with a poisonous gas and then getting something that can be consumed by humans, is a miracle.

       When God created a man, He installed Godly things in us that we need to fully function in life, but the Devil came and planted a corruptible seed next to the good seed planted by God. This corruptible seed grew together with the good seed and that is why there is God’s goodness and some evidence of evil in every person. The Devil planted this corruptible seed in all of us through many different events – some people are filled with anger because they lost a loved one in a tragic way, some people grew up without parents and that caused them to be bitter, and there are people who were victims of rape and, as a result, can’t allow themselves to trust and love their partners completely. There are people who were

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