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    BDSM: Why Am I Kinky?
    BDSM: Why Am I Kinky?
    BDSM: Why Am I Kinky?
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    BDSM: Why Am I Kinky?

    By Stefan Vogael

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    “An excellent short overview of the topic of BDSM. I really enjoyed that this book was well researched and explored the neuroscience theories about why people enjoy BDSM. This approach is often not discussed in a lot of BDSM literature so it was a different lens to view the subject and a step in the right direction to normalizing the practice of BDSM.” Mistress Kashiko (BA Psychology) owner of Keeping it Kinky website

    - BDSM Why am I Kinky? is a book for those who are into BDSM as a sexual taste. Have you ever wondered why you are into BDSM? Why there tend to be more people of the Submissive persuasion than those of the Dominant persuasion? Why do the M/f dynamic (Male dominating female) and F/m dynamic (Female dominating male) tend to differ?

    - Written in similar style to a research paper with references proposing reasoned answers with explanations to these questions. Taking an inner looking perspective at those with kink, without assuming it’s who you are as a person. BDSM Why am I Kinky? proposes that enjoying both roles (switching) is a preference that can be chosen, looking at the underlying reasons why.

    - BDSM Why am I Kinky? is not an erotic book or a “how-to”, but is for those interested in seeking potential avenues to learn more about themselves. This book does not presume to be fact on an area which has many theories, but is open to acceptance to the reader if seen as logical and making sense, and if so, could help people understand themselves a bit more.

    "I enjoyed reading. It generally makes good logical sense, and seems well supported. Very well written" Aarkey, Blogger

    "It's a very interesting read and offers some great insights." Lily, BDSM Contracts website)
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherOdd Light Bulb Press
    Release dateOct 11, 2017
    ISBN9780993322433
    BDSM: Why Am I Kinky?

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      BDSM - Stefan Vogael

      BDSM

      By Stefan Vogael

      ISBN 978-0-9933224-3-3

      Copyright © 2017 Odd Light Bulb Press

      www.whyamikinky.com

      All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or in any means – by electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise – without prior written permission from the publisher.

      Introduction

      The reason why BDSM is a sexual predilection for some people has had various theories. In fairly recent history many have been negative, likely due to the views of psychiatrists such as Sigmund Freud and Richard von Krafft-Ebing.

      Psychiatric viewpoints have tended to be based on theory with little scientific fact. Because of this, the theories would follow from the beliefs and social contexts of the time. At a time of androcentric (male) bias in society it was thought that sadism within males was a distortion of what was perceived as the normally dominant position of males. Masochism for a male was seen as contrary to this and therefore even more of an aberration, while for a female, masochism was seen as more natural, which in modern times could be seen as quite offensive.

      It wasn’t until the Kinsey Reports in the 1940’s and 50’s finding that half of Americans partook in sexual activities considered mildly masochistic or sadistic, that general views started to change. Since then there has been a growing amount of research with similar findings, concluding that there is nothing pathological about BDSM per se or the people who like it. In a 2004 survey by Durex (condom manufacturers), sexual attitudes and behaviour were looked at with over 350,000 respondents from 41 countries,

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