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    Dealing with Bullying in marriage
    Dealing with Bullying in marriage
    Dealing with Bullying in marriage
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    Dealing with Bullying in marriage

    By Michael Mujera

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    This is an amazing book on how to deal with difficult emotions within your relationship. It helps build and create authentic intimacy between partners. As well as help partners to find healing within their relationships. The key to this however lies in deconstructing negative beliefs and behaviors that are birthed from our childhood conditioning and trauma. 

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMichael Mujera
    Release dateNov 6, 2017
    ISBN9780620772884
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      Dealing with Bullying in marriage - Michael Mujera

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      Dealing with Bullying in marriage

      Michael Mujera

      Published by Michael Mujera, 2017.

      While every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this book, the publisher assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions, or for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein.

      DEALING WITH BULLYING IN MARRIAGE

      First edition. November 6, 2017.

      Copyright © 2017 Michael Mujera.

      ISBN: 978-0620772884

      Written by Michael Mujera.

      Managing emotions

      for relationship success

      Dealing with

      Bullying

      in Marriage

      Michael Mujera

      © Michael Tavonga Mujera 2017

      Dealing with bullying in Marriage

      Published by Michael Tavonga Mujera

      Randburg, Johannesburg

      michael@tb2b.co.za / micymujera@gmail.com

      ISBN 978-0-620-77288-4

      2 4 6 8 10 9 7 5 3 1

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form by any means electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without the written permission of the copyright owner.

      Layout and cover design by Boutique Books

      To my family for your never failing support

      and to Cammie, my muse

      Part 1:

      Marriage,

      intimacy and love

      When you say, I DO!

      Having a healthy marriage is more than finding the right person; it’s becoming the right person. Lolly Pisoni

      Marriage begins with the words " I DO! Some people, however, are quick to profess these two words without considering for one moment what they truly imply. These people end up getting themselves into situations and relationships they weren’t even prepared for. We don’t realise that at that precise moment we say those words we are not just accepting the person standing in front of us, but who they will become and also who they have been. So, when we say, I DO! " we are saying I accept you for who you were, for who you are and for who you will become. This marks the beginning of a lifelong journey called marriage.

      Marriage is a union between two willing and consenting individuals. It is built on and sustained by two implicit dedications, namely love and acceptance. We promise to love our partners unconditionally and to accept and respect them for who they are. Our marriage vows are our commitment to love, accept, respect and cherish each other throughout the course of our marriage.

      This is always much easier said than done. This is the promise we make and try to fulfil for the rest of our lives.

      We wait for what seems like a lifetime to meet our soul mate, get married and create the life we have always imagined. The entire time we are focused on finding the right one, and we do very little to prepare ourselves for the course yet ahead. We never really take the time to consider whether we ourselves are worthy and right for that "right one." This is often the case when people look for spouses or partners. The focus is always on the other person.

      It is easy to fall in love; the difficult part is staying in love and living it out throughout all the seasons of your life. Many people fail to grow in love. It is what I call "rising in love", so we fall in love but fail to "rise in love. This leads to people falling out of love" and relationships being abandoned.

      We define love differently. Some say love is an action; some say it’s a warm feeling you have for someone. We talk about the same thing so differently, which got me thinking is love different or do we view love differently? And what makes us have different versions of love? No one sat down with me as I was growing up and explained to me what love is but I thought I knew about love. My version of love was adapted from my experiences. It is what I call experiential love. I learnt from watching romantic movies on television and observing the people around me, and I thought that was what love was. I have been refining my definition ever since, but to come to a single accurate definition of love has proven to be a mammoth task as the profundity of love is too deep for anyone’s mind to comprehend fully. However, we use the different characteristics and aspects of love to define it because the definition of love itself goes beyond the scope of human intelligence. That’s why we talk about it so differently. This love is the basis of life. We get married because of love, start a family because of love, and we live through the challenges of life because of love. Love is complex and yet so simple. It is so complex because we cannot fully understand and appreciate it and so simple because even the most primitive of creatures understand this language of love. It is in my humble opinion the essence of humankind.

      When we walk down the aisle, we read our vows and say "for better or for worse till death do us part", and we declare our undying love to one another, we never take the time to think of the intensity of what we are actually saying and what we are getting into. I think that part needs to be emphasised and highlighted, to show the seriousness of marriage. It is a life decision. One you should make after careful consideration and counsel. Our society today has reduced marriage to a fashion statement. Having a wedding ring on your finger is like wearing a Gucci scarf, it’s just another accessory.

      We fall in love, get married, and the whole time we are under the illusion that we will stay in love no matter what. Most modern marriages are a result of what I call the iceberg effect. We judge our partners potential based on the things we can easily observe about their character, however, like a typical iceberg most of what drives people is quietly preserved in the subconscious. As we begin to know our partners better that illusion is shattered, and we are left to deal with the realities and challenges of marriage. These realities are the truth about marriage. The truth is not always as pretty. The truth has bad breath in the morning. The truth wears no makeup and wigs. The truth is not always chivalrous and courteous, and the truth constantly leads you to question why you are in a relationship in the first place. In short, you fall in love with a personality and get to stay with a character.

      We are baited by images of marriage from movies and other forms of media. We buy into to the idea that marriage is always a happy union and effortless, which is not always the case. It is occasionally graced by challenges and discomfort that requires a good measure of teamwork to get past. So sometimes in many ways, we set ourselves up, by having many expectations and creating an image for our spouse or partner to fit into.

      The divorce rate has doubled throughout the world, over the past few decades because of a generation that is living under the assumption that marriage is sweet and never sour, peaceful and never chaotic and that love alone can sustain a marriage. Love is the foundation of marriage, and you need to build from that foundation with commitment and trust among other things. These are essential so that you can maintain that love and grow in intimacy.

      We have become a selfish generation. A generation that gets into marriage to get our needs met and fulfilled by another, and not to meet the needs of the ones we claim to love. A generation of people that are always taking more than they give back into the relationship. Some people even erroneously justify their selfishness, and these people have reduced their partners into a servants or objects, whose sole duty is to meet their demands. We need to remember that marriage is not just about me and you, it is more than that, "it’s about We."

      John Gray author of Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus (Gray. J.1992, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus) uses an interesting analogy to describe what marriage is. He describes marriage as a base camp. A base camp is a place where mountain climbers take the time to rest, refuel and get supplies before going out again on another expedition. This is what marriage is about. We all go out in service and search of our purpose,

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