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    So You Want to Help
    So You Want to Help
    So You Want to Help
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    So You Want to Help

    By Barry Pearman

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    Want to help but don’t know how? 

    Do you fear becoming overwhelmed with others problems?

    Do you think you have to be super informed or educated to be able to help others?

    Well that was what I thought before I became involved in helping people with Major Mental Illnesses.

    After 20 years of supporting people, I have distilled my learning down to 5 basic things I think everyone should know.

    Originally I published this under the title ‘The Unguided Pastoral Missile’ but since then I have decided on a name change and I have added some really valuable information about Stress and how it affects one’s mental health.

    Whenever I have shared this content it was like the room was lit up with light bulb moments going off.

    So here is what is in the e-book.

    Topics Covered

    • Pastoral Care – more than offering a scone
    • The Conscious and Disciplined use of the Self – being aware of what you bring into the caring situation.
    • Empowering the Other – discovering how transformation happens through empowering others. 10 ways in which Jesus empowered others.
    • Lines of Love and Respect – Boundaries but with a bit more depth
    • Problem Solving – a simple proven way in which we can help others to solve their problems.
    • Understanding Stress – checking out how stress and vulnerability affect our mental health and what can be done about it.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBarry Pearman
    Release dateFeb 22, 2018
    ISBN9781386537328
    So You Want to Help
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    Barry Pearman

    Barry Pearman lives in Auckland New Zealand and has a ​deep passion is to empower people with Mental Illnesses to find recovery and hope. Barry writes about Mental health and Spiritual Formation on his website Turning the Page.  In former years he has had roles as a Mental Health Support Worker and then as a Community Chaplain pastoring people with Major Mental Illnesses.

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      Book preview

      So You Want to Help - Barry Pearman

      How to Help Someone with

      Mental Health Problems

      Barry Pearman

      Contents

      INTRODUCTION 5

      Helping others is more than offering a scone 7

      Being Aware of Who You Are and What You Bring 11

      How to Empower Others to Recover 17

      Boundaries are Lines of Love and respect 23

      How to Help Others Solve Their Problems 29

      Understanding Stress and How it Affects our Mental Health 33

      Resources 41

      Copyright © 2011 Barry Pearman. All rights reserved.

      The information contained within this book may not be reproduced in any material form or transmitted to any persons without permission from Barry Pearman under the Copyright Act 1994.

      Please contact Barry Pearman if you would like to reprint of the information. The reprint of Solving Problems and Achieving Goals sheet has no restrictions.

      The load, or weight, or burden of my neighbor's glory

      should be laid daily on my back,

      a load so heavy that only humility can carry it,

      and the backs of the proud will be broken. C.S. Lewis

      Introduction

      I HAVE SEEN IT MANY times.

      Well intentioned people desiring to help, offering care and support but, due to a variety of reasons, the support they offer doesn’t hit the mark and can often be harmful. They might be the advice-giver, the dictator, the boundary-less big softy, or the just try harder tormentor.

      I am sure you have experienced people like these. You are left wishing they had listened more.

      There are no ordinary people.

      You have never talked to a mere mortal.

      C.S. Lewis

      Instead, they left you with more burdens and potentially more guilt and shame.

      They come in various models. All can be equally destructive, yet they often need just a little guidance, a willingness to learn new material and a personal desire to change.

      This ebook offers some ideas I have gleaned over the years from helping those who want to help be a blessing and not a messing! These ideas have been tried and tested. It will now be up to you, the reader, to put them into place.

      It will also be up to you to regularly refresh your learning; to go back over the

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