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    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies
    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies
    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies
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    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies

    By Cynthia Bailey-Rug

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    Losing a parent is an incredibly painful and difficult experience under the best of circumstances. Losing a narcissistic parent is not only painful and difficult, but also filled with complicated emotions and circumstances.

    "When a Narcissistic Parent Dies" is designed to help the reader find ways to cope during this challenging time, create ways to deal with people who do not understand, as well as help the reader make difficult decisions such as whether or not to visit a dying parent or attend the funeral.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherCynthia Bailey-Rug
    Release dateMar 28, 2018
    ISBN9781370728305
    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies
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    Cynthia Bailey-Rug

    Cynthia Bailey-Rug is happily married to Eric Rug. Together they live near Annapolis, Maryland with their menagerie of lovely pets.Cynthia has been a Christian since 1996, and believes God has called her to write. She always loved writing, but realized it was her purpose in 2003. She has since written many articles, and several books. She also has edited books for other up and coming authors. She enjoys reading, animals, classic cars, crafts, gardening, gadgets, and spending time with her friends and pets.She has written the following books:Non-fiction:My Narcissistic Abuse Healing JournalWhen A Narcissistic Parent Dies: Expanded VersionRegrettably Related: A Guide to Toxic In-lawsWhen Love Hurts: Loving A NarcissistWhen A Narcissistic Parent DiesIn Sheep's Clothing: All About Covert NarcissistsThe Truth About Elderly NarcissistsIt's Not You, It's Them! When People Are More Than SelfishChildren and Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Guide For ParentsLife After Narcissistic Abuse: There Is Healing and HopeIt's All About ME! The Facts About Maternal NarcissismYou Are Not Alone!Emerging From The ChrysalisA Witness Of FaithLessons From The Heart: What Animals Have Taught Me About Life And LoveAll I Know About Marriage...I Learned The Hard Way!Pawprints On Our HeartsBaptism of JoyRomantic InspirationsFacets Of LoveBiblical Perspectives On Narcissism Mini Book Series:The Basics Of Narcissistic Personality DisorderWays Narcissists Abuse And How To CopeShould I End My Relationship With A Narcissist?Biblical Perspectives Mini Books:How To Honor Abusive ParentsLoving Someone With Complex Post Traumatic Stress DisorderCrochet Patterns:Cuddly Kittens Scarf Crochet PatternGnome Mushroom House Crochet PatternMarie's Doily Or Rug Crochet PatternWhite Squirrel Crochet PatternCross Stitch Patterns:Beware Of People Who Dislike Cats Cross Stitch Pattern 1Beware Of People Who Dislike Cats Cross Stitch Pattern 2Monarch Butterfly on Chrysalis Cross Stitch Pattern"My Cat" Cross Stitch PatternPainted Lady Butterfly on Yellow Marigold Flower Cross Stitch PatternPurple and Yellow Iris Flower Cross Stitch PatternSeagull On Rock By Chesapeake Bay Cross Stitch PatternTiger Swallowtail Butterfly On Purple Phlox Flowers Cross Stitch PatternWhite Rose of Sharon Cross Stitch PatternWhite Squirrel Cross Stitch PatternYellow Butterfly on Yellow Marigold Flower Cross Stitch PatternFiction:Sins Of The FatherThe Christian Woman’s Guide To Killing Her HusbandAll books are available on her website at:www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com

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    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies - Cynthia Bailey-Rug

    When a Narcissistic Parent Dies

    By Cynthia Bailey-Rug

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    Copyright 2018 Cynthia Bailey-Rug

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    © Copyright 2018 by Cynthia Bailey-Rug. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced in any form without written permission by the author. Please visit http://www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com to contact author via her website or email author at CynthiaBaileyRug@aol.com.

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    Unless otherwise noted, all Scriptures are taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

    Scripture quotations marked (NIV) are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The NIV and New International Version are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™

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    Other books by this author:

    Non-fiction:

    In Sheep’s Clothing: All About Covert Narcissists

    The Truth About Elderly Narcissists

    It’s Not You, It’s Them: When People are More Than Selfish

    Children And Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Guide For Parents

    Life After Narcissistic Abuse: There Is Healing And Hope

    It’s All About Me! The Facts About Maternal Narcissism

    You Are Not Alone!

    Emerging From The Chrysalis

    A Witness Of Faith

    Lessons From The Heart: What Animals Have Taught Me About Life And Love

    All I Know About Marriage...I Learned The Hard Way!

    Pawprints On Our Hearts

    Baptism Of Joy

    Romantic Inspirations

    Facets Of Love

    Fiction:

    Sins Of The Father

    The Christian Woman’s Guide To Killing Her Husband

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    Dedication:

    To everyone who has lost or is losing a narcissistic parent.

    My heart goes out to you. May God bless and comfort you!

    2 Corinthians 1:3-5

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    Table of Contents

    Introduction

    Chapter_One

    Chapter_Two

    Chapter_Three

    Chapter_Four

    Chapter_Five

    Chapter_Six

    Chapter_Seven

    Epilogue

    About_The_Author

    Where_To_Find_Cynthia_Online

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    Introduction

    Before I say anything else, I first wish to offer you my sincerest condolences. You would not have picked up this book if you had not lost or were about to lose your narcissistic parent. Losing a parent is an excruciating experience no matter what your relationship is like. Losing a narcissistic parent, however, is not only very painful, but it also comes loaded with complex emotions and thoughts that make the grief process more challenging and unique than when losing a person with whom you had a good relationship. I hate to say it is worse, because losing someone you had a healthy relationship with and loved is incredibly painful and difficult. The death of a narcissist is also incredibly painful and difficult, but it is also much more complicated and challenging, especially when the narcissist in question is your parent. There are many complex emotions involved, and it can be oddly difficult sometimes to understand what they are, let alone put them into words.

    I recently learned first hand about the challenges that come with losing a narcissistic parent. My father was a covert narcissist. He passed away on October 23, 2017 a few months after being diagnosed with Leukemia. I was on the receiving end of a lot of outlandish, abusive, painful behavior from many people during his final few months. My father was only a minor abuser in this situation, oddly enough. His friends, his family, and even people I did not know, however, were major abusers. Even now as I write this introduction a couple of months after his death, the events of that time are still very hard for me to believe. They still feel surreal. (I will discuss the situation in more detail in the following chapter and periodically throughout this book rather than go into detail in this introduction.)

    I learned at that time that there is very little information available on the topic of the death of a narcissistic parent. These awful events I experienced taught me a great deal, so I thought I should share what I learned with others who are going through a similar situation. Also, one way I cope with pain is writing about it, so I am writing this book partly to help me come to terms with all that happened at that time. My prayer is that this book can help you and many other people who are also in this painful situation.

    I also will share things I learned from speaking with other people about when their narcissistic parents were dying and when they died, not only the things I experienced first hand. Some of it was good, some bad, but all is valuable information that I believe anyone should be aware of who is in the position of losing a narcissistic parent. Knowledge is power, after all.

    If you know even just a small amount about people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, then you know just how difficult it is to deal with them. You also know that there are no easy answers, no one size fits all solutions when it comes to narcissists. In fact, often there are no right answers, only less wrong ones. This is especially the case at the time of the end of their lives. I do believe that with what this book will teach you in addition to your own wisdom, insight and experiences with your unique personality and that of your narcissistic parent, you will be able to handle this painful situation in a way that works best for you.

    I also believe this book can be helpful if the narcissistic parent in question is not your parent, but perhaps your spouse’s or a friend’s parent. You can gain understanding of what your spouse or friend may be going through and feeling, as well as learn ways to help that person you love. Also, that person is going to need all of the love, patience, understanding and support that they can get during this awful time. You need to be able to handle providing those things, and you cannot do that if you are not taking good care of yourself. Please do not neglect taking care of yourself at any time, but especially now. Get plenty of rest, eat well, do things that make you feel cared for and nurtured. Doing such things will strengthen you and enable you to be there for your loved one without wearing yourself out. Taking care of yourself will help both of you a great deal, so please do it!

    My faith in God is incredibly important to me. It was also vital to me for surviving the circumstances surrounding my father’s death with my sanity in tact. In fact, I firmly believe God is the only reason that happened. He gave me the wisdom and strength to do what I needed to do, and to stand strong during adversity. I mention my faith frequently in this book. I hope you share my faith, but if you do not, I believe that this book still can help you. I also hope you will consider turning to God during this time, but if you opt not to do so, then I encourage you to hold onto whatever inspires and strengthens you. You are going to need all the help you can get!

    Please be aware that I am not a mental health professional. I am simply someone who has a lot of experience with narcissists thanks to being in many relationships with narcissists (parents, in-laws, friends, relatives, and an ex), and I have studied Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the damage done by narcissistic abuse in depth for years. I certainly cannot say I have all of the answers, but I have learned a great deal.

    Also, since you are reading this book, it seems safe to assume you know at least some about Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you did not, you probably would not have picked up a book with narcissist in the title. I will not be explaining it in great detail in this book because of that. If you would like more information about it, however, you can visit my website at www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com. Click on the link at the top of the page that says, Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well as my Books For Sale page for more information.

    Before you read any further, since the subject matter of this book is very deep and difficult, I would like to suggest to you that you take frequent breaks when reading so you do not become overwhelmed. It is a lot of difficult information to absorb, especially when you are going through such a difficult time,

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